it's so exciting to have 2 of you in the home stretch. i get to live vicariously through you two as i plod along into my 2nd trimester waiting to feel pregnant.
dp and i went for our 1st ultrasound on friday. it was so great to see that little heartbeat working so hard
we now have our first (of many no doubt since dp is a photographer) photo albums to show off.
the news seemed positive although waiting for the full results of the blood test and scan in a week i guess. the tech told us she thought it might be a boy - wow i wasn't expecting to get any news on that front so soon although we both did want to know the sex.
Originally Posted by pleasantlyfurious
Which actually brings me to another issue we've been facing. Our KD. He's not a secret. In fact, initially we figured we'd share the information with anyone who asked. But it seems that the only people that ask are the ones you least want to share details with. And the people that we like of course don't ask questions that might be prying. So we've been avoiding the question - which feels secretive, which we really want to avoid. I dunno. It's so personal, yet we don't want to allow any room for perception of shame or embarassment - especially once the baby is here. Everyone who knows us knows our KD (it's DPs brother) so it's not just like giving an abstract name. How have those of you using a KD dealt with questions?
I dealt with those questions early on in the pregnancy - especially because we hadn't told very many people that we were even trying (kept the 2 m/c secret too). So, of course, people had lots of questions. We are using a KD who will not be involved in the baby's life at all - he is open to being known when the child is older but there is no co-parenting plan at all. DP and I decided that we didn't want anyone to know who the donor was until our child knew - it just seems more fair to us. What I normally tell people is "we used a donor" and I leave it at that. I don't offer more info on whether it is a known or anon. donor. If people go further and ask that, I say we're going to wait until the baby knows where he or she came from before telling other people. Everyone has been really fine with that and no on has pushed. Of course, who knows what they're saying behind our backs
Delurking to sulk about still being pregnant. I'm not actually due until tomorrow, but I was really hoping that I would have the baby today, since Dec 14 was my great-grandmother's birthday. Oh, well. I knew it wasn't likely to happen, but I'm still a bit disappointed.
...meanwhile, I think junior is trying to *punch* his or her way out. Ow!
Originally Posted by Kelmendi
Delurking to sulk about still being pregnant. I'm not actually due until tomorrow, but I was really hoping that I would have the baby today, since Dec 14 was my great-grandmother's birthday. Oh, well. I knew it wasn't likely to happen, but I'm still a bit disappointed.
...meanwhile, I think junior is trying to *punch* his or her way out. Ow!
Feel free to sulk. I'm already predicting that I will sulk if I go over my due date too
Thanks, kjm and carmen! I appreciate the good wishes. I've started poking my belly and saying "The only way out is down!" so hopefully I will see some results from that soon.
Originally Posted by carmen358
Afm, after being healthy all year, I've managed to catch a nasty head cold.
I just woke up with a wicked sore throat!! my glands are HUGE!!
I too have experienced very high health throughout this entire pregnancy and I haver been expose to a fair amount of sick kids (I teach in public schools)
I'm wondering if our immunities decrease as our labors near??
and to think just last night at dinner my fortune cookie had 4 fortunes in it that ALL read "You will maintain good health and enjoy life" Maybe that was a sign to not let this cold get me down--but I sure am bummed right now!! I have sooo much to do in the next couple of weeks!!!!
Sorry to hear that. I know that immune systems are indeed suppressed somewhat during pregnancy but I also wondered if that gets even more pronounced close to "the end." My cold is still hanging around unfortunately with very little improvement after 4 days. Fighting a wicked sinus infection naturally kinda sucks to be honest....I'm finding myself begging for drugs which I don't normally do even if I'm not pregnant!! I hope you are able to fight off whatever you're feeling!
Maybe it's sort of like at the end of a semester...when I was at uni I would always get a wicked cold right at the end of every semester...almost like my body was releasing everything. Sounds like a good sign for labour!
Originally Posted by indigoscot
dp is officially not sleeping well. the last 2 nights she's been super extra hot and woken me up twice to give her a tums.
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I just got back from my m/w appointment and she informed me that I need more sleep lol She suggested skullcap tincture to help get more sleep - safe during pregnancy. Thought I'd pass on her suggestion!
Little one is still head down, bp is still good, gbs test was negative (yay!) and we received official instructions on how to contact our midwife when labour starts!
The baby woke me up by tap dancing above my belly button this morning
at 4:30am
And so it begins...
I'm glad that I'm not the only one getting odd comments and questions...we're very open about having used a sperm bank and lots of people are curious about what's entailed in doing so. So, I answer. Mostly b/c I feel like people are usually asking with kindness and good intention (oh, and curiosity). I prefer tho' when they wait to ask me personal questions when there aren't 60 people standing in the aisle behind them waiting to greet me after church
("was it IVF?" this, loudly, from a couple I didn't know).
Sorry for those feeling under the weather (pregnancy suppresses the immune system so that we don't end up rejecting our own kidlets--at least that's the theory) and best of luck for those who have already received their "what to do when you go into labor" instructions!! I'm jealous but have informed the kidlet that he is not allowed to violate his lease by early termination of contract. So...after Easter, preferably around his due date!
Thanks Carmen for the tip about skull cap--I'll keep that in mind for the third trimester when I hear that sleep once again becomes ellusive. That said tho' Mr. Dance Dance Revolution
needs to stop doing kick ball changes on my bladder.
wishin'&hopin', my little one has just learned how to use my ribs as a spring board to dive into my cervix. So, I think your little dance machine is just getting started
Congrats, indigo
Any predictions or intuition on when baby will arrive?
carmen, dp keeps telling me the week of new year. i told her no, he can't come then i'm on-call!!!! lol, it will be funny to see if her prediction is correct.
Well, with pos HPTs and 2 decent betas, I think I'm ready to join this board. I've been feeling quite pregnant since before my pos HPTs but of course sometimes symptoms leave (like at the moment my BBs don't hurt at all!) and I get worried, but I'm trying to stay optimistic and looking forward to welcoming our second baby (first from my body) sometime around August 25, 2010. Please add us to the list!
Anyone else due in the summer?
Our first (2.5) was conceived after 8 tries, this one took on the very first try which was quite shocking given my age, very late ovulation and PCOS status. So, though I *knew* I was pg, still getting over the shock of it happening so very fast with only one insem on O day! Our donor was equally shocked.
AFM - we had our big anatomy ultrasound last week and I posted a few minutes of video on my blog (www.pleasantly-furious.blogspot.com) Everything seems to be looking good and we managed to resist finding out the sex - so now to enjoy our last christmas with virtually zero responsibilities.
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