Wow, do we have the same life? My dd was born when I was 20, when #2 comes along I will be 24. We have already decided on a 3rd though, and will probably continue with the same spacing, our issue is either to stop at 3 or 4 based on the same reasoning. My parents had their children young as well, we were all out of the house by time they were 45, they are loving middle age as a couple instead of a family. I'll be curious to see what others say.
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I can totally relate - I had DS1 when I was 19 (a month after my birthday) and it was nice to think that he'd be off to college when I was 37 and then I could travel and do the things I missed out on early in adulthood (and would have the money to do them in style
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Then, I had DS2 when I was 26 and I'd like to have another child before I'm 30. Sometimes our plans don't work out exactly like we thought when we were younger, but I
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having the boys and wouldn't really change anything about my life now.
Also - I look at my parents, who are in their 50's and still have kids at home (my youngest bro went to elem school with my son
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Then, I had DS2 when I was 26 and I'd like to have another child before I'm 30. Sometimes our plans don't work out exactly like we thought when we were younger, but I
Also - I look at my parents, who are in their 50's and still have kids at home (my youngest bro went to elem school with my son
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lol no sense, girl you could decide at 40 to have another baby! you may not feel the same then as you do now. I had one at 19, 28, 30, I will be closing the shop so to speak at 40...but I am only 32 now and since my life is more stable...and I love kids....if we won the lottery maybe I'd have four more
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Relax, don't put pressure on yourself, one year or two or three putting off kids isn't tying you down another year to children....with the amount of children that don't leave home after college...come back with kids and wife in tow having your kids turn 18 doesn't get them out!
Relax, don't put pressure on yourself, one year or two or three putting off kids isn't tying you down another year to children....with the amount of children that don't leave home after college...come back with kids and wife in tow having your kids turn 18 doesn't get them out!
I'm with you! I had my first at 19, my second at 21 and we thought we were done and would still be "young" when the kids were grown. Along came our little OOPS when I was 30. He won't be 18 until we're 48 and 56 now.
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I wouldn't trade him for the world though.
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I had similar thoughts as you are having. I had my first at age 23 and then got divorced. For 14 years I looked forward to the day that I'd be 40 and my only child would be in college. Then I got remarried. My husband never had children of his own and it has been my greatest joy to be able to give him two daughters, now aged 3.5 and 1.5. So, here I am, nearly 42 years old, and have 17 more years before the possibility of being liberated from daily parenting! Ce la vie. It's definitely worth it.
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I left home at 17(early grad) BUT my brother left for only 1yr and returned to live with my parents while attending college for the NEXT 10 YEARS! He finally graduated and left at 30. He has lived on the opposite end of the country for about 6 years now.
So, don't count your chickens until they've hatched
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So, don't count your chickens until they've hatched
Ha! Good advice from Brigiana and Maman
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And from everyone else too, thanks.
WildMonkeys, I really liked what you had to say. We do get so much joy from having our family, and often say that we wouldn't want it any other way. Not really sure what I'm trying to say...but it made me think.
WildMonkeys, I really liked what you had to say. We do get so much joy from having our family, and often say that we wouldn't want it any other way. Not really sure what I'm trying to say...but it made me think.
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