[johannasonja]

I had one hospitsl birth which was kind of quite right after the birth,
one mw assisted hb and one uc.
My first daughter had a few crying spells from 2 weeks of age until around three months, 30/45 min on 2-4 nights per week.

With my second daughter i had the mw, her assistant and her helper at my house and it was kind of hectical and annoying to me(still bothers me up to this day even though its been two years) we kind of didnt feel that special moment because of all the people and my dd started her crying spells at around 2 weeks until about 4 months of age, it lastet 2 to 3 hours every day.

And with my son (UC) it was really quiet and peaceful of course (only my husband and me, and my oldest daughter) and my son is 11 weeks old and he hardly ever cries, i think a total of ten minutes so far and that is in the night if he gets hungry and i dont wake up from his grunting noises.

So i wonder now has the ,,Colic" something to do with how quiet it is right after the birth, i cant imagin that it is only a boy/ girl difference, that would be to much of a coincidence to me.

What do you guys think?

johannasonja

 

[augustacherri]

I personally don't think that colic is directly related to birth circumstances. I have three kids and the one who cried the least was a UC, but there was a lot of family around, so it wasn't particulary quiet. The one who cried the most was actually my first UC, where it was just DH and me, so it was definitely the quietest and least traumatic birth experience. That said, I don't think any of my children have met the definition of colic.

My mom had four UCs and varying degrees of crying babies. She said she thought colic had to do with the fact that babies are just bored and the ones who are most inquisitive express their frustration at their own inabilities through crying a lot. I am not totally sure on this, either, but it is an intriguing theory.

 

[johannasonja]

what your mother says would make sense because my second daughter is very very inqisitive about everything, my oldest was too as a toddler but i would say not like her sister.
Another theorie could be how headstrong they are, because dd2 is also much haedstronger (i hope thats a better word than stubborn) than dd1, and i guess we have to wait how ds turns out.

johannasonja

i hope to hear more oppinions

 

[KBL7]

I will pass on what I have gleaned from other Mamas.

Another connection to consider is when mom is overtaxed and breastfeeding. When we overexert, we are heated up and thus the breast milk is affected. It is very common for mom to try to do all of her 'already too busy' normal stuff and all of the new things associated with the new baby. That is on top of your body trying to restore itself after the birth. This does not mean that we don't do anything, just pace yourself and enlist help from other family members. Some mothers have expressed having a much more pleasant babymoon if they had a freezer full of meals and temporarily canceled some housework, saying that baby was much more peaceful. Which makes sense in regards to not overexerting yourself.

The cause of colic has been widely debated. My position on this is to do what you can control; Take good care of yourself, eat to support the manufacturing plant, let their little tummy's rest before the next feeding (their digestion is very delicate early on) and knowing that you have tried to do all you know to do, you won't beat yourself up with blame and guilt when it does happen. And don't forget that God can give wisdom and strength when we seek Him for it.

While we educate ourselves on the causes of colic we should also educate ourselves on the various methods of dealing with it like using herbs and such.

Sorry this quick comment became a booklet!

 

[sapphire_chan]

Lina is incredibly laid back and her birth ended up being a medicated hospital birth after a day of laboring at home. But then we spent her first two weeks doing almost nothing more than hanging out together in bed.

 

[LionTigerBear]

For us, the colic was always related to tummy issues. Our first son-- failed UC, transfer to hospital, long and painful labor and delivery-- was quite colicky, with the colic starting at about 4 weeks old, not at first. It turned out later that he doesn't digest grains or dairy products very well, and he has weak gut flora, and he is on the high-functioning end of the autism spectrum. So I think that's why he was so colicky-- the colicky baby grew to be a fussy toddler and he is still a high-needs little boy.

My second son's birth was a midwife-assisted-in-hospital delivery, and it was fairly quick and easy, and yet at about 4 weeks, he started getting colicky. This time around I knew what to do! So I immediately cut out diary and started eating more probiotics and enzymes in my diet. Problem solved-- he became the happy, super-laid back baby again. He only started acting more high-needs and fussy again when I weaned him at about 18 months. Since then, I have him on a probiotic supplement, which seems to help.

So for us, I definitely think colic and fussiness wasn't very much related to the birth experience.

Now, what possibly WAS related to the birth experience, is an aspect of their personality and philosophies, in that my older son (the more difficult birth) is quite the worrier, concerned about rules and takes more responsibility than he needs to. He is less emotionally secure. My easier, quicker-birthed baby, is more laid-back, confident, assertive, and emotionally secure. So, that, I do believe could be related to the birth experience to some degree.