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I am just tossing ideas around right now b/c ds1 and ds2 are only 21m and 3m and don't really care about stuff or space yet.<br><br>
We have three bedrooms. One we use as the family bedroom now and will later be mine and dh's. One is currently used for toys and playing and one is a guest room (mainly used by dh and me <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/winky.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Wink">).<br><br>
I am considering how to use the two other bedrooms for dc. I am thinking of keeping all of both the boy's "stuff" in one room and then keeping the other for sleeping. So both would be shared by both, but one room would be just for sleeping. Or, I could give one room to each child. Which would be better. I am thinking that all toys would be shared except for a few special items.<br><br>
Which scenario would be best in your opinion? Why?
 

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I would have a playroom and a sleeping room and have them share both. This is what my brother and I did when we were young, and it had some advantages:<br>
*Sleeping and quiet time are in a place where the activities of the day are out of sight, reducing the temptation to leap out of bed and stay up late finishing a project.<br>
*Elaborate toy layouts can be arranged on the floor without worrying about how you are going to walk to the bathroom in the dark.<br>
*Someone to talk with while settling to sleep and in the early morning.<br>
*Nobody has to get up and move to a cold bed in another room after the bedtime story.<br>
*Multiple people in a darkened room are far less vulnerable to lurking monsters. Everyone knows monsters seek out kids sleeping alone.<br>
*Nearly all our toys were shared, so we each felt we had more toys than when we later had to split them between our individual rooms and ask each other's permission to use them.<br>
*Playroom can have more open space than a room that has to have a bed in it.<br>
*Sharing space is a good experience and good practice for later living in dorms, etc.<br><br>
I think it is important though for each child to have a small space--maybe just a storage space, maybe someplace big enough to huddle in when he wants to be alone--that is for him only, where he can keep his treasures and know that nobody will mess with them.
 

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i agree with all the points the pp made, but i also think it depends on your childrens personalities.<br><br>
i had my boys sharing for a while and it just didnt work, ds1 is far calmer and quieter than his boisterous little brother and wants somewhere quiet to get away on his own.<br><br>
i noticed their relationship became strained when ds1 didnt have space of his own.<br><br>
for them sharing didnt work - which i was actually quite dissapointed about.
 

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We also have a 3br apartment and we have 3dds. Right now, they share teh smaller room. They start out in their room, but always end up in mine (where's the 3 in a bed icon????). The other room is a study / guest room / tv room. We are moving in 1.5 years and I know I want them to share, I am just tossed up on which room. I'm tempted to give them the smaller room for sleeping, but it will be kind of squished. Then again, all the do is sleep in it. Right now the toys are in the living room & the guest room, so I am planning on having 2 rooms for the girls, one for them to sleep in and one for their stuff. I'm leaning towards them sleeping in the smaller room and using hte bigger one, but we'll see.
 
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