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Hi,<br>
This has been driving my brain crazy and I just needed to post with you mamas in hopes that someone else has btdt.<br><br>
My friend, at 21 weeks, has/had been experiencing some unknown caused bleeding. First, they told her and it also showed in her scan that she has a mall tear in her placenta, over a few weeks and several more u's's, that had healed. She started bleeding again, She ended up needing a 2nd level u/s because some possible defects were noted on the level 1 u/s due to a lowered amount of amniotic fluid.<br>
They ended up performing the AFP test, that came out with great results, and also another blood test to detect for any infections.<br>
Recently,(this past week) She needed to goto the doc's and had an u/s was told about the same, go home and rest. The the next day, I took her to see the doc again, this time, he wanted her to do a 24 hour admit,she declined(she also has other children at home)Later that night, she was lying down sleeping, woke up to lots of blood everywhere and had to call 911.<br>
They again, did whatever they did, released her that same night, told her to see her doc and have another u/s. She did. When they went to examint her, they could only see what looked to be a possible slight bloody discharge and that was it. She went home, again, off and on, little "gushes" came and went.<br><br>
Also, to let you all know, it was seeming that the only time these "gushes" would really be happening, was when she was lying down for a while, like she would wake up from a nap, blood all the way to the bed,whatnot.<br><br>
That next day, she went all day bleeding, finally, shw asked me to take her to the hospital.<br>
They admited her, the next morning, her doc did an exam only to now discover she has ruptured! She is 21 weeks. The doctor gave her like a 5% chance of survival,told her she would at least need to spend 3 weeks in the hospital here, thenif all was ok by 24 weeks, she would be shipped to the more sophistacated one, not too far away to receive steriods.<br><br>
She was simply crushed with this news, its so hard to try to talk, I'm her friend I really hope for the best,but I'm haveing my doubts too. She continued to stay that night after hearing the news and the next day wanted to go home. They had ( once learning of the news)started her on antibiotics every four hours and her vitals every three or four, she had her I.V. fluids as well.<br>
Now that shes home, she has bathroom privlages only, cannot stand/sit too long, must drink ALOT, take her temp everyt 3 hours, make sure she takes her antibiotic.<br><br>
Please, if you could,keep your fingers crossed, keep her in your thoughts!!<br><br>
My questions was this: has anyone here ever gone through such a thing??<br>
What are your thoughts on this??<br><br>
TIA,<br>
~Rachel
 

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What a difficult thing for her to go through! I am sure it's not easy for you to offer support either- it's so hard to know what to say or do at times like this. I have a couple of ideas...<br><br>
There might be an antepartum doula available in her area. You could visit the CAPPA site (<a href="http://www.cappa.net" target="_blank">www.cappa.net</a>) and do a search of their members and see if there's anyone who could support her right now. A labor doula might also be willing to help out too, especially considering she could be facing an imminent birth.<br><br>
As a doula myself, my first questions would be placental abruption issues. It just sounds like there might be a hidden abruption that gets jostled as she's getting up/down, etc. It's very possible that they'd miss it on an US but I also wonder at this point if they wouldn't see some clotting, etc. I don't know a lot about ultrasound. If you want, I can post your message to the doula list I'm on and see if out of 900+ international doulas, we could come up with some answers for you. LMK <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug">
 

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<i>My very close friend went through this with her sister's pregnancy just<br>
a few months ago. I hate to say, but the baby did pass away after about<br>
10 minutes of life, as his lungs weren't mature enough yet to breathe.<br>
There is hope though, as membranes can regenerate themselves (do all the<br>
time with term moms who rupture with minimal dilation), so you can<br>
suggest eating an extra-high protein diet and reiterating the heavy<br>
fluid intake. While she's on bedrest, there is a support group online<br>
called Sidelines (<a href="http://www.sidelines.org" target="_blank">www.sidelines.org</a>) that has chat rooms, message boards<br>
and the like for pregnant moms on bedrest. She can also find support<br>
for her circumstances there from other moms who have been there done<br>
that. If she's a religious person, it might also be time for her to pray.</i><br><br>
Hopefully this resource will be helpful for her!!<br><br>
Kristina <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug">
 

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I had an on-line friend who had twins. At 24 weeks, twin B had a PROM. They hospitalized her for the remainder of the pregnancy, cathetered etc. They agressively monitored her. She finally delivered at 32 weeks. Both babies had some breathing issues, but they recovered and went home before the due date.<br><br>
Her best chances are staying at the hospital (IMHO) to really keep her from moving around too much.<br><br>
I was a PROM baby. My mom had a PROM at 3 months! She fell down the stairs. The membranes repaired themselves (the doc told her she would lose me within the week) and here I am!
 

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I have a friend who started to bleed heavily at 14 weeks (similar to your friend she had periodic gushing, soaked several pads a day, then it would slow and she would only go through one pad a day and then it would start up again). She was in and out of the hospital and on bathroom only bedrest at home (with two kids... luckily her dh is self-employed so could alter his schedule to be home and work from home a bit). At 30 weeks the bleeding stopped completely. At 34 weeks they took her off bedrest. At 38 weeks it started back again in trace amounts (could have just been normal pre-labor show though).<br><br>
I'm happy to say that baby Hannah will be three at the end of August!!<br><br>
I hope your friend's story has such a happy ending!!
 

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Hi there,<br>
I had a PROM scare a couple of months ago and I found this site:<br><br><a href="http://www.kanalen.org/prom/index.phtml?page=story&list=new" target="_blank">http://www.kanalen.org/prom/index.ph...story&list=new</a><br><br>
Some of the stories are sad, some are very encouraging. Many of the women who say their doctors advised them to give up and terminate are now mothers of healthy children.
 

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Ty for the link!! I'm going to check it out now..<br>
BTW, she went in for the level 2 u/s and they were able to measure fluild,although she will I guess keep producing some eventually to leak out. But, her OB had said that they want her to make it to at least 24 weeks and the baby needs to be 500grams or 1 pound. They said the baby weighs 1 pound now!! We were so excited!! She is 22 weeks as well. So, as long as she keeps watching for signs of infection,and labor, and those two things don't occur, she will be ok!! I'm so excited for her!!!
 

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Update on my friend!!<br>
She's being sent to RI and the baby is now in a breech position. All is still ok with her though. No labor, her cervix is still closed,thankGod!!!!
 

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My friend went into labour on Friday, she had a section and all seemed somewhat ok at first with her baby, but him being born at 24 weeks, plus her having an infection in her uterus, it was too much for him to take.<br><br>
The baby (she named him Aaron) died about 6 hours later, despite the hospital's best equipment. He was so tiny, we all got to hold him, it ws so intense for me. It will be a it awkward for me to be around her, I'm finding, cause I'm pg and ok. She turned to me yesterday, well, you just made out with a whole bunch of baby things, I was like, please, don't do that, and it made me cry. Its hard to describe what its like. I feel so bad for her it isn't funny. I don't know the words to say, what to do, its just awful <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/greensad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="greensad"><br><br>
Anyways, I just wanted to update on how everything went.
 

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<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug">s to you and your friend. It must be so hard for everyone right now. Just follow her lead with what she's comfortable with, and support her where you can.
 

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i'm sorry little Aaron couldn't hang on... what a difficult time for your friend and all those who love her, including you <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug">
 

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<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug">s to you and Aaron's mama!
 

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<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug">s I'm so sorry for you and your friend. That would be a difficult and emotional experience for anyone, no less a pregnant woman. Hang in there.
 

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<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug">s to her (& you!). You may want to lurk on the grief board, to get ideas on how you can be there for her...
 
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