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I am expecting my 3rd in a few weeks, and I'll be home birthing with a wonderful team of midwives.....my question?<br>
I've had early deliveries and fast deliveries with both my other babies, but people keep telling me that the 3rd can be completely different....<br><br>
Why is that? Is there a reason that the 3rd is more likely to be different than the 2nd? I don't understand why a body that has done the same thing twice before would suddenly be different now...<br><br>
Can anyone shed any light on this, because it's really adding to my fears...about having a <b>baby too big to deliver</b>, (My kids were 5/12, and 7/3) and I've only put on about 10 lbs this pregnancy, so it's not really a rational fear....and about being taken by surprise about the due date....when both my other kids came at 36-37 weeks......<br><br>
Any help to understand this would be gratefully received...<br><br>
Thanks!<br><br>
Marcie
 

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there is this thing called "third baby syndrome" in which the mother has had two similar births, and the third is different. in reality, it's all about chance. who knows if its true or not, it's something that is said and I've seen it happen a couple times.<br><br>
A baby too big to deliver? Extremely rare. Extremely. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile">
 

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advice is like grass......lots of it.....but you don't eat it <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/love.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="love"><br><br>
I agree that every baby can birth differently. expect a great birth. a baby that is TOOOOOO big??? what do you mean 12 pounds? if you have gained only 10 then I don't think that is possible :LOL<br><br>
a women can birth....... you are MADE to birth..........your body KNOWS how to birth. enjoy, its the best part. its like finally getting to open your xmas gifts after looking at them under the tree for so long.<br><br>
Don't listen to all these other fear driven people. enjoy your pregnany, talk to your baby, it can hear you, it can feel your fear. work it out and let it go. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/thumb.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="thumbs up">
 

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I've heard that saying "First births are hard, second births are easy, third births are unpredictable". I think the theory is supposed to be that if the first two were similar the third will be very different and if the first two were different, there's really no telling what the third will be like. I'm due with#3 in January, I'll let ya know. Everyone thinks I'm due for an easy birth this time. No complaining here <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"><br>
Namaste, Tara
 

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my third birth was the easiest, but for me it was figuring out how to meet the needs of 3 kids that was a challenge- it took a while for me to reslove and get my feet under me, I had to give up quite a bit of my controlling nature to accomplish it and really we were all better off because I worked it out<br><br>
I say go with the flow what ever this birth brings, It sounds as if you know how to work with your body if you have had fast deliveries in the past. Did you worry as much before the other births? How can you find some peace and turn off the worry?<br>
since you brought up size- how big do you think your baby is?<br>
is this going to be your first home birth? Have you worked with these midwives before? are there things you have not asked
 

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How strange; I've heard the same thing, but it was far from the truth for me. All four of my deliveries were almost identical; precipitous and straight-forward. However, one of my friends who has four had the longest labor with her third...hmmm.
 

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Why is that? Is there a reason that the 3rd is more likely to be different than the 2nd? I don't understand why a body that has done the same thing twice before would suddenly be different now...<br><br><br>
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I know people who said their third was their easiest, so it is not a rule. Every birth is different, because every baby is different. Sometimes the baby may be presenting differently, have a different temperment, etc.<br><br>
All that said, your experienced body will do a great job! Focus on the positive!<br><br>
Good Luck.<br><br>
Ellen
 
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