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What do you do when your baby wants non-nutritive sucking time?<br><br>
She absolutely refuses the breast when she doesn't want to eat. She gets so frustrated! She can't quite find her hands with success every time, either, and my pinkie finger is not always an option.<br><br>
Also, when she has taken the breast for sucking time, she'll get full and spit up all over, or her digestion will get out of whack because of so much "snacking" and we'll have hours of crying over difficult poops.<br><br>
I wouldn't mind going pacifier free, but I just don't really see how, given my situation here.<br><br>
What do you do?
 

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Mine is 13m0 he never did take a soother, but at about a month old he started sucking his thumb, still does. He uses his sioothers to chew on now.
 

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She's 7 weeks. I don't think I'd be able to hold out for 5 more weeks of screaming while I wait for her to find her hands! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/scared.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="scared"><br><br><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol">
 

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My DS was the same way & I'm pretty anti-paci personally - so when he wanted comfort without continuing to nurse, I would just put him in the sling and walk around or bounce and that did the same trick to soothe him as sucking would. Now he can find his own hand or fingers when he wants to <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/thumb.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="thumbs up">
 

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Every child is different honestly. Some children will NOT nurse if that's not what they want. I used to have a very rigid view of pacifiers but I've come to realize they can be very very helpful if used properly.<br><br>
With my ds...he wanted to suck, he used my breasts. He didn't mind if there was letdown or not and he rarely, if ever, spit up. It honestly seems to me he figured out how hard to suck to not get any milk if that wasn't what he wanted. I stay at home with ds, I don't have any other children yet or any other heavy responsiblities, so I was able to do this, and I still do. With future children, I will still try to use the paci very sparingly, if at all, depending on the child.
 

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DS won't take a soother and does not comfort nurse. I keep hoping that he will figure out non-nutritive sucking, but not yet. And when he just wants comfort, but milk starts coming out, he is not happy. He can just now (4 months) find his hands most of the time. Otherwise, he usually gets our fingers (DH's pinky or my thumb.) A non-finger option that works for us sometimes is to arrange him in the wrap or Ergo so that he can suck on the fabric/strap. I have done that when I really needed both hands.
 

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It is my understanding that babies learn how to comfort suck at the breast without getting milk. If your babe is used to the pacifier she hasn't had to learn how--it just takes a little time.
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">DS won't take a soother and does not comfort nurse. I keep hoping that he will figure out non-nutritive sucking, but not yet. And when he just wants comfort, but milk starts coming out, he is not happy. He can just now (4 months) find his hands most of the time. Otherwise, he usually gets our fingers (DH's pinky or my thumb.) A non-finger option that works for us sometimes is to arrange him in the wrap or Ergo so that he can suck on the fabric/strap. I have done that when I really needed both hands.</div>
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and what another PP said-- when mine or DP's finger wasn't what he wanted the sling would do the trick. I wasn't AGAINST pacis, but he just wouldn't take it. Now he choews on it like a PP said <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"><br><br>
oh-- and we introduced a Lovely early on (a tip from the No Cry Sleep Solution) and he sucks on the ears, ends, anywhere he can get some fabric in his mouth-- still! DS is 10.5 mos.
 

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When she was young, we did alot of pinkie finger sucking, distracting, bouncing, walking, singing, going outside, playing with dad. We pretty much distracted her 24/7 from being upset at all. Now I do the same thing, but using different techniques. I find a walk out side really distracts her if she's feeling like she wants to suck but not eat.
 

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I was very Anti-paci before DD was born. Then the day she was born, she latched on (improperly) and wouldn't stop for 3 HOURS STRAIGHT! I had to ask the nurse to bring me a paci because I was BLEEDING. DD sucked it for about a minute then fell asleep. I was hooked right then. Although I had no idea you should buy one that looks like you nipples. The next time I fed her my nipples were totally misshapen (like the paci nipple).<br><br>
I bought a few after we got home from the hospital but she never really cared for them. She was so unattached that she has weaned herself from it in the last couple of weeks.<br><br>
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I found if I just left dd on the same breast and kept putting her back on the "emptier" one then she would happily suck as much as needed. If I swapped her over to the "full" one she would arch away and refuse to suckle and then just cry.
 

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oh yea, I forgot about that one-- that works pretty well too <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"> (especially if you have OAL)
 

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Abby figured out how hard to suck so as not to get any milk.<br><br>
Until that point, well, we have an ultrasound photo of her sucking her thumb. She really liked her thumb for a while there.
 

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My dd is 8 weeks tomorrow and found her hands about 1.5 weeks ago. She sometimes takes my pinky finger, but does refuse my breast if she's not hungry. She will NOT take a paci. We've tried it, even though I was against it, because I needed at least one hand to eat, do things, etc. Right now she's gnawing on her fist. I can't wait until she finds her thumb though. Apparently I found my thumb at 7 weeks and sucked it until I was 10! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/orngbiggrin.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="orange big grin">
 

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My Elliot never took to the pacificer and rarely sucks his thumb. When he was that little, my finger did the trick...he was not much of a comfort nurser until later months, but using the emptier breast is a good idea. he likes to fall asleep at night only (and occastionally to nap) doing comfort nursing.<br><br>
give a knuckle or a finger a try until she can find her own hands.
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">It is my understanding that babies learn how to comfort suck at the breast without getting milk. If your babe is used to the pacifier she hasn't had to learn how--it just takes a little time.</div>
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IMO All babies are different, and some babies who don't use pacifiers just don't NEED them, while some babies who use them really, really need them, kwim? For example, my ds uses a pacifier. He was just insane in his need to suck and although I was able to meet his needs through breastfeeding and comfort nursing the first few months, by maybe month 5 or 6 it was too much and (after trying to show him his thumb, offer our fingers, etc.) we started using a combo of comfort nursing and a pacifier. He took to it right away and you could almost see the weight lifted off his shoulders (and mine). If he hadn't kept increasing his need to suck and increasing his need to suck I never would have introduced one and we would be a non-pacifier family.<br><br>
The girl I babysit for is ff and she just doesn't seem to have that strong need to suck. Never used a pacifier, never sucks on her thumb or fingers. She is happy to get her sucking needs met through her bottle feedings.<br><br>
Perhaps many non-pacifier using MDC families have babies like the latter example, babies who are happy with comfort nursing, sucking on bottles, fingers, thumbs, etc., and the families who don't--the mamas who have babies that continue to suck and suck and suck without ever being satisfied--those are the MDC mamas that introduce pacis.
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">IMO All babies are different, and some babies who don't use pacifiers just don't NEED them, while some babies who use them really, really need them, kwim?</div>
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I admit that I am biased against pacifiers because I have seen them cause problems with breastfeeding. I can understand that some moms find them useful or convenient, but humans have survived for millions of years without pacifiers so I have trouble seeing it as a need, kwim? Especially since they have been known to cause problems with babies real need--breastfeeding.
 
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