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How do you have your kids bedrooms set up?<br><br>
We will be moving soon, in the next 4 months or so. We are buying our first house~!<br><br>
Right now each of the girls has their own bedrooms with Celeste my special needs dd in the master. Celeste is 8 and Amira is 2. They spend alot of time together, and they are usually in eachothers rooms anyway. Mostly they both hang out in Celeste's room together. Celeste is in a wheelchair, and Amira will do her best to push her into a different room with her if she leaves.<br><br>
So I was thinking about putting the girls together when we move. They both sleep through the night, though they do have slightly different sleep schedueles, but not by much. Celeste goes to bed about half hour later than Amira. The only thing is Celeste is tube fed and gets water in the am early, like 5:30-6, when they are both still sleeping. Another thought is that we hope to adopt again soon after moving, so if we have three bedrooms (like we do now) we would have to figure out who would share with the baby....probably best to put the two solid sleepers together.<br><br>
Just wondering what has worked out well for other families in this situation. Thanks!
 

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My girls share a room, though it has been a little tricky at times. Maura (the one with some SN's) tends to sleep lightly and wake up at odd hours but luckily her sister Miriam sleeps through most of it all - except when Maura sits on her head, lol! Maura loves to snuggle up to Mim, so when I go to bed, I move Maura back into her bed (or else both girls end up falling out of bed at various times or in weird positions, like half off, half on the bed, head down...)<br><br>
The other problem was keeping Maura in the room but giving Mim access out. We at first just used a basic baby gate, but then after watching Mim do it, Maura learned how to climb over it. Now we have a big gate that you have to push two buttons down to open. Mim can barely do it, Maura is still trying to figure it out.<br><br>
Other than those two things, it works out pretty well. Mim is also good about informing us when Maura say, takes off her diaper. And she'll read books to her now too, lol!
 

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My kids (8 & 5 currently) have always shared a room, first in our room and then in a room together. They occassionally make noise like they'd like to change that, but when I suggest it they are quite vehement they like the arrangement. They have totally different sleep styles and for the most part it's been a non-issue. My younger child has learned to sleep through my SN child's inability to sleep, <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol">, so I can go in and dance a jig and not get a reaction <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"><br><br>
I truly think this arrangement has benefitted my SN child and it has perks for my other child, too. YMMV. If they don't have a TON of stuff (or if you can slowly unpack??) perhaps you could give it a trial run for a month and see how things work out?<br><br>
GL!
 

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Moving is stressful. If they want to be together, put 'em together! Besides, in the course of human history, how many people ever had their own room? I think I got a room of my own when I was about 16; after enough siblings had left home!<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/winky.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Wink">
 

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My 3 year NT DD sleeps between DH and I in our king size bed.<br><br>
My 2 year old PDD DS sleeps next to me in the bottom bunk of their bunk beds that's pushed right up into our bed.<br><br>
Frankly, when the time is right for the kids to sleep alone they will share a room. They can share a room until they get old enough (teenagers) to need their own space. For now, they are each a refuge for the other and I want that to contiue as long as humanly possible.
 

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I ave a 7 yr old boy and a 6 yr old girl that share a room. The baby's w/ us. The big kids don't complain but dd knows that when we move in a year she gets her own room. The boys will share. I have a feeling the older 2 will endup sleeping together again, though.
 

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My 9 yo NT dd has her own room because she really needs that space alone from her sisters.<br><br>
My 22 month old NT (as far as I know) sleeps on the right side of me in between my dh and I, and my 4.5 yo dd (no dx yet) sleeps on the left side of me. Both of them are still nursers, though night weaned on their own now. Mostly they nurse before sleep and first thing in the am. The 4 of us currently sleep on 2 futon mattresses on the floor.<br><br>
When they no longer cosleep, I am hoping that dd2 and dd3 will share a room and quite possibly a bed together.
 

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Our ds1 (SN) and our NT 21m.o. have separate rooms. We also have plans to adopt a baby sometime soon, so we've been wondering about having ds1 and ds3 share a room. For now, we've decided to keep their sleeping arrangements. That should be fine for the next year or more, since we'll be co-sleeping with our adopted baby.<br><br>
Once she's old enough to want a room of her own, or a sleeping space of her own, we'll re-evaluate. I'm hoping by then we'll move into a house with more bedrooms, but if not then we'll have ds3 share with either his little sister or his big brother.<br><br>
ds3 and his big brother both sleep well, but we wanted each of them to have their own space. Plus they're not as close as your daughters, so I think they would rather be apart.
 

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We tried to have Mark, my sn toddler (2 1/2) and my 6yo roomshare, and it did not go well. But Mark's needs are sensory related, so he was keeping his brother up late at night, breaking his older brother's smaller toys, etc. It was very stressful for Tim, so we moved them apart and now the baby is in my room and we hope to have Mark and Jeff (the baby) roomshare once Jeff is sleeping predictably through the night, which is MONTHS off at this point.
 

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thanks for all the suggestions.<br><br>
One of my worries is the age difference, my girls are about 6 years apart! They are very close, however, so I guess that makes up for it.<br><br>
Celeste (sn) has a harder time falling asleep than Amira does but Amira is a lighter sleeper. Once asleep Celeste will sleep through anything. I suspect with a little tweeking they would be able to adapt and adjust to eachothers schedueles.<br><br>
Another concern I have is that Celeste cant move... at all. So what happens if Amira climbs in bed with her (which I highly suspect will happen) and Celeste doesnt want her there <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"> or more concerning, if she is somehow hurting her or making her uncomfortable (like laying on a leg or smooshing her somehow) Celeste wont be able to do anything or get her off. Having a kiddo with SN changes the dynamic of oh... everything? LOL!<br><br>
Then again I never had or wanted my own room until I was a teenager. I slept with one of my aunts (like a big sister, we grew up together) until she got married and moved out of the house. I was probably 10 ish.
 
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