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i'm planning on going back to school and finishing my bsw. i started before my daughter was born (my son was around 2-3 at that time), did quite a bit of volunteer work so i have a tiny bit of experience.<br><br>
anyway, here's my question: i've always been extremely empathetic, and i've always been very sensitive to other people's problems. but now i feel that this is even more so than it used to be. my dd is 19 months and i'm feeling ready to go back, but to be honest i'm kind of afraid that i will get too emotionally caught up while working with people, hearing their stories, etc. i can't explain it--i used to be great at removing myself just enough and not getting too emotionally involved. but now little things make me cry. maybe this is because i'm still breastfeeding? or have i changed?<br><br>
i've been thinking about volunteering again, but the things i used to would have jumped on all seem like they'd be so emotionally taxing now. maybe i just need to try it anyway and see?<br><br>
does this sound completely stupid?<br><br>
any advice?
 

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Hey there friend! It is hard, and I've almost cried to many times to count, but I somehow control myself. It can be emotionally draining sometimes. I'm working with several kids now who have had parents who have died, and it is hard, especially when I start picturing my son in that situation. To me it's worth it when I start to see the difference I have made in one person's life. I have one kiddo who I have worked with all year who is doing so much better now, and I think maybe I had a little something to do with that. I think that volunteering sounds great, you might not know how you will handle something until you are actually in that situation. Anyway, that's great you are thinking about going back, you can do a lot with a social work degree.
 

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hey kat, glad you replied <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"><br>
your post helped make me feel better about things--thanks. i guess that's what i need to do, focus on why i wanted to do this in the first place. and thanks for the encouragment about going back. i'm kind of nervous...it's weird going back after taking such a long break.<br><br>
more questions...do you like doing therapy? did you know what it was that you wanted to do when you got out of school, or did you play it by ear? i'd like to have an idea of what i want to do to keep me motivated in school (although i know not to limit myself to one thing).
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">hey kat, glad you replied <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"><br>
your post helped make me feel better about things--thanks. i guess that's what i need to do, focus on why i wanted to do this in the first place. and thanks for the encouragment about going back. i'm kind of nervous...it's weird going back after taking such a long break.<br><br>
more questions...do you like doing therapy? did you know what it was that you wanted to do when you got out of school, or did you play it by ear? i'd like to have an idea of what i want to do to keep me motivated in school (although i know not to limit myself to one thing).</div>
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Glad you feel better<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"><br>
No, I didn't want to do therapy in school, in fact I think that was the last thing that I ever wanted to do. With that said, when I started looking for a job therapy was where I found the most flexable hours, and the most pay, so I thought I would give it a try. I felt totally unprepared, of course I had just graduated, so I guess most people in their first "real" job feel that way. Now, 9 months later I feel like I kind of know what I am doing, and I kind of like doing therapy. I want to do so many things though, I still don't know what my ideal job would be. I don't think you have to go to school knowing exactly what you want to do, as long as you think you are sort of in the right direction<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"><br>
Don't be discouraged by the social work classes if you think you want to work in the social service field. I know the only classes I really liked in my social work program were the diversity ones, and generalist and direct practice. That may have been because of the flaws in the program I was in though. I did learn a lot from a few great professors/classes, but there were a couple of really bad professors at my university. Anyway, I made this a really long post, if you have any other questions I will be glad to help!
 

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thanks for this! i started our program when dd was a wee 3 months old--quit a little over a month into it, as you know-- and the classes were awful--inexperienced profs (1 post-doc, two adjuncts, i think at the masters level) and i was so dissapointed by them since i had higher expectations. our school sounds a lot like yours. it's too bad...i hear our masters program is great, but i think that's what the school mostly cares about. so hopefully this time i'll know more than to expect so much and just plow through.
 
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