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Did you grow up around someone who nitpicked, nagged, and/or heavily criticized you?
 

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I didn't grow up around it but it did happen to me for a short while. Like during the entire 5 months I stayed with her.<br><br>
That was a decade ago. Its funny, well maybe it isn't, that even now when I'm around her I get so clumsy. I do exactly what she criticizes me of in the first place. Her "expectations" of me is a stronghold. But only around her. Its weird.
 

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Yes. My brother was always calling me all kinds of names, generally putting me down so that he could feel superior. I'm not sure if I'd be a perfectionist anyway, though.
 

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I am a perfectionist and also have diagnosed OCD. My issues didn't come from criticism, they came from growing up in a slob of family. My family has never taken pride in anything. Lazy would be an understatement. I am the exact opposite of my family of origin, to an extreme.
 

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I read in Toxic Parents about a guy who grew up heavily criticized by his step-father. Later on while at work he couldn't get anything accomplished because he was afraid of whatever he was working on not going right.<br><br>
That, unfortunately, sounds a lot like myself. I find an inability to accomplish anything because I fear messing up or whatever. And I grew up around a stepfather that nitpicked/criticized the hell out of me. So I was wondering what the correlation is in all of this. I never imagined the past could keep such an invisible (unknown) grasp on a person. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/cold.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Cold"><br><br>
Thanks for sharing, everyone.
 

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Too bad we don't have a nodding smiley with a sad face.
 
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