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my ds is nearly 9 months old (on the 1st) we've coslept with him from the beginning. we're in the middle of a move right now, and sleeping on an air bed, and soon we'll be visiting family and staying in a bed not big enough for the 3 of us, so hes been sleeping in a pack n play. when he wakes to nurse, sometimes i put him back in the playpen, sometimes he comes with us. he seems to be sleeping better in the playpen, and has slept through the night more than half the time these past 10 or so days (from 10 til 6-8). when i bring him with us he tosses and turns and doesnt seem to sleep well (this is a new thing, so it might be the airbed)<br><br><br>
im thinking when we get to our new place and get settled, i might try starting him out in his own bed, then bringing him in with us if/when he wakes<br><br>
my question is this- if baby is in another room, how do you know when they need you? i guess you really cant know until they cry right? when hes in bed with us, i usually get him when he starts to stir or whimper (i cant nurse lying down, we have to sit up) and the playpen is like a foot from my bed, so its about the same when hes in there. he doesnt usually fully wake. i hate to think of him waking up in his room and having to cry til i come and get him.<br><br>
how do you do it?
 

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If you had a monitor on couldn't you just come quickly before he fully awakens? We use a monitor when we put DS to bed in our bed because he usually wakes a few times before we come to bed. And he'll usually wake whimpering before a full cry and we normally can get to him before he fully wakens. Of course, we're in the living room watching tv or on the computer, etc. and not asleep so it could take slightly longer if sleepy but I think it could work. I can't answer your question from experience though since we co-sleep.
 

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I second the idea for a moniter, though we've never used one. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/winky.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Wink">
 

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I never needed a monitor. Our beds were against the same wall so I could here him through it. He usually kicked it as he tossed around before he woke.
 

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What about a bed next to yours? I always had a little mattress in my room for my kids, as none of us slept well in the same bed. I think we all need to remember that the operative word in co-sleeping is sleeping <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"> I think a LOT of kids sleep better in their own bed, but not necessarily in their own room, KWIM?
 

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We start dd in a pack and play next to our bed, then take her in with us when she wakes for the first time of the night to nurse.... although lately she doesn't wake up to nurse until 4or5 am, so we are thinking about maybe putting a mattress in her room on the floor (maybe this fall) and using a monitor turned WAY up ( I have a hard time with the idea of her being in another room at this point too).... maybe you could put a mattress in the same room as you, then move it to the other side of the room, then into his room might work...? ( Maybe I'll try that...)
 

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I don't go to them until they cry wherever they are. I don't think it's kind to rush in and disturb someone who's just turning over and snuffling or dreaming or whatever. When they call out to me, I go to them (or reach out, depending which kid we're talking about).<br><br>
But I don't get why your baby needs to be in another room?
 

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You know best what will work in your situation, but here's what we do... DD goes down in another room at first b/c while, yeah, intimacy need not be limited to the bedroom, it sure can be nice <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/love.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="love"> I still like having her close though, so she comes into our room on her first waking around 10-11p, and sleeps on a twin that's flush with our bed - I nurse her down there and then roll back to DH (the next waking I tend to stay with DD b/c it tends to be loooonger). If we go to bed before that first waking while DD is still in "her" room, we have a monitor on, and she doesn't seem to get too upset before we wake up and get her - I think she's just communicating, "come get me!" <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile">
 

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My DD3 is like that, she slept way better in her own room. I use a monitor, but I can hear her starting to move and make sounds practically through the wall. I can easily get to her before she cries.
 
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