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My daughter nursed until she was almost 3 1/2 years old. She's 7 years old now and in some ways, I feel like she never really weaned! I work at home, she's homeschooled, we still roomshare and in the early morning she sneaks into the bed for cuddles.
This is all fine and lovely but something I'm noticing more and more is her complete disregard for my personal space. When she's cuddling in bed, she wants her head and sometimes her hand on my breast, like she did when she was a nursling. Even out of bed, particularly when she wants reassurance, it's right for the boob. Not just clothed, either. Sometimes she'll reach in to my shirt or lift my shirt up, at home or in public!
This was cute when she was a wee toddler and didn't know any better. It's not so cute at 7 years old! One of the most worrisome aspects to me is that she's all or nothing. I've explained that I don't always like to be cuddled like that and that boobs are private parts on Mommy that she doesn't want touched all the time.
I have explained to her over and over if someone tells you to stop, you have to stop! If I remind her that she needs permission to touch there, she gets huffy and is all, "Fine! Then you never want to cuddle me!" and gets very, very hurt. I have to remind her several times a day. This isn't even starting on her general need for "cuddles" which are cute but disruptive because she wants to be hugged *all the time*.
What do I do?? I don't want to withhold affection but neither do I want to be groped all the time, particularly by a 7 year old who IS old enough to understand. I've tried role playing with her, getting her to empathize, but it's done no good so far.
This is all fine and lovely but something I'm noticing more and more is her complete disregard for my personal space. When she's cuddling in bed, she wants her head and sometimes her hand on my breast, like she did when she was a nursling. Even out of bed, particularly when she wants reassurance, it's right for the boob. Not just clothed, either. Sometimes she'll reach in to my shirt or lift my shirt up, at home or in public!
This was cute when she was a wee toddler and didn't know any better. It's not so cute at 7 years old! One of the most worrisome aspects to me is that she's all or nothing. I've explained that I don't always like to be cuddled like that and that boobs are private parts on Mommy that she doesn't want touched all the time.
I have explained to her over and over if someone tells you to stop, you have to stop! If I remind her that she needs permission to touch there, she gets huffy and is all, "Fine! Then you never want to cuddle me!" and gets very, very hurt. I have to remind her several times a day. This isn't even starting on her general need for "cuddles" which are cute but disruptive because she wants to be hugged *all the time*.
What do I do?? I don't want to withhold affection but neither do I want to be groped all the time, particularly by a 7 year old who IS old enough to understand. I've tried role playing with her, getting her to empathize, but it's done no good so far.