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EDIT: I'm good now, thanks everyone for all your help and kind words! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"><br><br><br>
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I could REALLY use some help, here. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/shy.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="innocent"><br><br>
dd really needs more socialization than I can give to her. The only time she'll really play is when other kids are around. Otherwise, no matter what I do, she's totally bored, and gets frustrated so much quicker. I take her as many places as I can, but it's not enough. I really think she would be happier and do more if she was regularly around other kids most of the day. Problem is, I don't know how people afford it. I would really like something that's more than a few hours, a few times a week. I've found a few preschools like that, and they're actually something we could afford, but it's just not going to be enough for her. Same with co-ops. Do preschools typically go for only a few hours, a couple times of week?<br><br>
She's also not fully "potty trained", which is probably a deal breaker for most places {Edit: um, nevermind, that happened fast...}. Although I do think she would pick it up MUCH faster being around other kids that do use the potty. Not only that, but I need to get her into something pretty fast, not sit on a waiting list for a year or more.<br><br>
I'm not entirely opposed to more of a daycare setting. I don't think she's going to care either way, but I have such a hard, hard time trusting them. Plus, as far as I know, many of them require a certain amt of hours there a week, and I'm not sure that we can fulfill that much - depending on what it is. And again, I don't know how we can afford it. dp makes too much to qualify for any sort of assistance, but not enough to afford much at all. How does anyone do it? Is there something I'm missing? A different sort of place to go that I haven't heard about?! I mean, it's so expensive, I just don't understand how so many people do it. We're in Lynnwood, but I can travel a ways if I have to.<br><br>
Any recommendations about where we can go? The only thing I'm definitely NOT interested in is anything in a church or religious-affiliated. Is an affordable, trust-worthy preschool/daycare that does diapers and doesn't have a long wait-list too much to ask? <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/greensad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="greensad">
 

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I really doubt you will find a preschool that does not require the child to be PT'd. Most consider it a sign of readiness for school. That being said, school would be 6 months away if you started in the fall and there is a good chance she may be able to potty learn in that time frame.<br><br>
As for schools, that's hard. The more hours and days the more it's going to cost. It's just how it works.<br><br>
You may be able to combine a co-op with may some classes from the local parks and rec department on non school days. Or, maybe you can find a mom near you with a child around your daughter's age who would be happy to take your daughter for a day and you take hers for a day (some sort of swap) so that the kids could play and you get a break, and it's free. Just a thought.<br><br>
Good luck!
 

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I don't have any suggestions but thought I'd commiserate. DS is in the same boat. He really wants to go to preschool and really wants to be around other kids but he isn't even close to being potty trained. We're hoping by fall to get him in somewhere part time.<br><br>
I've seen some nice looking all day preschools in the city but they're expensive-$1100+/month.<br><br>
We took an art class fall term at the community center here and it was really nice. Small class, pretty cheap-it was only once a week and a parent was required but it got him out with other kids and he really liked it. I also noticed in their brochures that once the kids hit 3 there are a lot more classes that they can take.
 

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It's so hard when you don't have a regular playgroup. Here is the parks and rec near you<br><a href="http://recconnect.ci.lynnwood.wa.us/Activities/Activities.asp?SCheck=41967125&SDT=39513.5077769676&sectionId=9" target="_blank">http://recconnect.ci.lynnwood.wa.us/...76&sectionId=9</a><br><br>
I think even though the co-ops aren't very long or often she's still get a ton out of it. I think it's totally worth it.
 

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My sister does the co-op preschool at Edmonds Comm. College and likes it. I know she was doing co-op for the money aspect...<br><br>
I can relate... my dd needs CONSTANT stimulation and it's just too much for me most days. Luckily I have her cousins close by and dd will be starting Montessori in the fall.<br><br>
I'm in Kenmore BTW. Let me know if you want more info on the Edmonds co-op...
 

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I have toured <a href="http://www.users.qwest.net/~ucongregational/trettin/" target="_blank">Trettin Drop-in Preschool</a> and have heard great things about it, but DD has never attended it. Children do not have to be potty trained to go there, either. Oh, and it's in a church but not affiliated.<br><br>
Co-ops are a great thing, as well, though at this point in the year you would have to look at going next year. We did one through North Seattle Community College, I don't know what is available closer to you, though.
 

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Thank-you, everyone. I especially appreciate the sympathy for our situation, because this is <i>really</i> hard for me! I just didn't really anticipate that it would end up quite like this. It's funny how we all tend to have our own ideas about parenthood, and then once the children actually come along, they challenge all of those pre-conceived ideas about the way it should be...<br><br>
I have already checked out co-ops, including Edmonds. If I could start her in that right away, I would, but waiting until next school year to start something is wayyy too long to wait. That's what really burns me about this whole preschool thing. I had no idea a year ago what things would be like now. I mean, if dd would even be ready for it, and what we could afford, and all that stuff. With a co-op it probably wouldn't have mattered so much, but all preschools seem to be like this. Why do they have to start registering and wait-listing so dang early? That just doesn't seem realistic at all. If I had any idea that we'd be in this position now, I just would have stuck her on some list anyway, just in case we did need it.<br><br>
I've also looked at the parks & rec programmes in the area. That is somewhat of an option, but anything involving childcare seems to require them using the potty. It also seems to be common for daycares and preschools to put the non-PT toddlers in a class with the younger toddlers. I talked to a place today that said she would really need to be in the 12m - 2.5 yr class. I really don't think that she would like that nearly as much.<br><br>
That drop-in preschool looks interesting. I will definitely check that out, thanks! The city does something like that too.<br><br>
Thanks again, everyone. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/love.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="love">
 

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I know, that's the thing, getting them on wait-lists just in case. I remember signing DD#1 up for the toddler pre-school when she was eight months old and I couldn't believe I was even thinking of school at that age! Most places sign up for the coming fall between January and February. I know the NSCC co-op did their enrollment in March.<br><br>
I think, too, once the warm weather hits again and you guys can get out and about the summer will fly by and next thing you know it's school season again!
 

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I'm going to be taking my dd to a language class in Seattle and there is one in Issaquah. You can either stay or drop them off if they're between 3-5. We're going to check out a class on Sunday to see if we like it. Mandarin. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"><br><br><a href="http://www.spongeschool.com" target="_blank">www.spongeschool.com</a>
 

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DS goes to a preschool in Seattle that also has a branch in Lynnwood. I know they take part time, half day, and full day. Each branch has a different vibe, but the one he goes to is pretty cool, positive discipline, anti-violence, anti-bias focus. Lots of art and music. Here's the link: <a href="http://www.eldc.org" target="_blank">www.eldc.org</a><br><br>
Good luck finding something!
 

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Are you an introvert and your daughter is an extrovert? That can be difficult to meet their needs. We're a homeschool family, obviously, so I don't want to put my kids in a preschool or daycare to meet their social needs. We do activities that suit my children - my extrovert daughter does more activities than my introvert daughter, who prefers to hang out with me while her sister is in class. My DS is looking like he'll be an extrovert so it will be another adjustment.<br><br>
Have you looked into gymnastics - something that can get her extra energy out and she can be around kids - you can just rest for an hour? We go to Leading Edge in Everett, but have also been to Little Gym, Gymboree, and Gymagine - they're all a little different but you could do trials at each of the four before you sign up to make sure it's a fit.
 

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It seems to me like your best bet would be a co-op. They are definitely the most affordable and if you were there with DD you could help with toilet usage and whatnot. We used to participate in the Northshore Community Cooperative Preschool in Bothell (used to be associated with Shoreline but now with Lake WA Tech, and they are in a new location -- in a church, but NOT associated with the church). I found the director and other teacher to be very supportive of our parenting style and very welcoming. You can probably choose how much you want to interact with the other parents. It is totally fine to immerse yourself in what the kids are doing and then you don't have to chat much if you aren't in to it. I'd check it out, or something similar.
 

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If anyone reads this in the future and is looking for a good preschool (traditional OR Montessori... or even Pre-K) with<b>out</b> a wait-list, PM me. I found one that I do think is very good, but they're fairly new, so they're working on becoming more known to the public. Meaning there's little to no waiting list (at least right now). I've had recommendations, and have observed them myself, but will have more first-hand experience here pretty soon. I am pretty impressed so far, though.<br><br>
Anyway, I just thought I'd put that out there, because I know waiting lists can be a big issue around these parts.
 
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