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I'm not sure if this is the right place to post this or not. Anyway, I've been working on cutting my 18 mo old down to only nursing down for her nap and bedtime. I know that some people don't agree with that but I'm not here to discuss that. What I want is to get some advice from other mothers who have done the same thing or weaned completely before age 2. How did you make sure that they were getting enough milk during the day? How much milk should she be drinking during the day? and did nightwakings increase as the daytime nursing sessions decreased? If they did, how did you deal with that?
 

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Can't answer your question about weaning but my ped told me she would like to see my DS have about 16 ounces of cows milk or equivalent when I didn't have any milk while pregnant or if I was nursing less than 4x a day.
 

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DS weaned on his own just a few weeks ago at 18 months. My supply just sort of regulated itself based on demand. For quite a while he was getting what I figure was around 18 oz/day. Now that he has weaned that is what he takes of cow's milk. Most of his nursing was at night so I can't really help with the night waking question. In our case it decreased dramatically. Good luck!
 

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My DD weaned around 15 months because of supply issues; I was working long days and slacked on pumping, and she lovvved eating solids. I realized that it was too frustrating for both of us, and decided to end it. Days were not an issue, she learned to drink bottles early, as I was working, so if she seemed like she needed one to go to sleep than I had no problem laying next to her and still giving her the closeness that she craved. At first, during the night, she would wake up out of habit to suckle, and to substitute I would flip her onto my stomach and rub her bare back w/ my hand, and I think she in turn grew to love that closeness instead. It was only a few weeks til she began sleeping through the night, as long as she had a good dinner before bed. And to make sure she was still getting enough dairy, I would include yogurt, cheese, and soymilk during her meals. If your DC is a good eater, you don't have to worry about lack of nutrients from milk.<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/eat.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Eat">:
 

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DS drinks a little rice or soy milk. Not much. He eats a pretty balanced diet though so I don't worry. (incl cheese and a little yogurt).<br><br>
He woke more first when I was dayweaning and I just honored that in the short term. Ultimately I nightweaned (second last thing I did) and then he stopped waking. He was 22 mos when we stopped nursing.
 

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I introduced a bottle of whole cow's milk to DD2 when she was 13mo, and by 14mo she had completely weaned. I didn't intend for that to happen, and I think that if I'd had internet access (for more support than from a single friend who intentionally weaned her kids at 12mo) I could have cut back on the bottles and kept her nursing. In any case, she's 12 now and way too old to nurse.<br><br>
At the time, she simply replaced bottles of milk for nursing sessions, including middle-of-the-night wakings. I really don't recomend this approach because she also had horrible decay in her front teeth. If she's going to "nurse down to sleep" on a bottle, it should be a bottle of water to protect her teeth, even if she has a cup or bottle of milk right before the bedtime water bottle.<br><br>
Also remember that nursing doesn't have to be "all or nothing". You can continue the nursings to sleep, even when you don't have much milk. You'd still need to make sure she's getting adequate nutrition, but the comfort nursings don't HAVE TO stop if it's working for both of you.
 

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I weaned my twins about a month ago to start immunosuppressant drugs. Anyway, after going over the pros and cons I decided to let them have bottles, even though they're a bit old for them. With sippies, they just don't drink enough and DD2 wound up miserably constipated. Anyway, I offer them 3 8 ounce bottles of cow's milk a day and typically each of them will drink about 12 to 20 ounces of that, varying a lot. I let them have the bottles on demand but they have to sit on somebody's lap to drink. I don't let them carry them around.<br><br>
I'm no help on night nursings increasing; because of my illness, I nightweaned these guys pretty early. DD2 stopped night nursing at 10 months, and DS at 12. We did that by letting DH take over all nighttime parenting for a short time, which was INTENSE for him but I was really sick.
 

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Thanks for all the replies. They have helped quite a bit. I am going to continue nursing her down for naps and bedtime for quite a while. It works for us so I'm not wanting to change that. I have noticed that since I'm only nursing her at those times during the day she is waking up more at night. I am going with it for now but eventually I am going to nightwean as well. Right now she is nursing down for her nap around noon, then for bed around 8. She usually wakes up around 11 and I nurse her back to sleep again, then I don't nurse her again until around 5am even if she wakes or not. She usually wakes for the day at 8 or so but I don't nurse her when she wakes up then. I do however nurse her if she wakes between 5am and 8am though. I have drastically cut down on her nursing b/c I just don't like it anymore. I don't think it's right to keep going when I feel this way. Anyhow, I am working on getting her cut back even more at night and early morning.
 

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That's exactly why I weaned. Well I started weaning for that reason and then got pregnant right away so stepped it up. By the time I was down to 1 a day it was actually pretty managable. But I couldn't bear the thought of tandeming so I weaned.
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">I don't think it's right to keep going when I feel this way. Anyhow, I am working on getting her cut back even more at night and early morning.</div>
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I know exactly where you're at...i think it's best to end on positive memories.
 

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Well, it's only been a week since DD stopped nursing at 21 months, so I don't know how much this helps, but I had been limiting nursing to naps and bedtime plus the first night waking for several months, so I was pretty sure she wasn't really getting much milk to begin with.<br><br>
We offer lots of water and occasionally cow milk, but she mostly drinks water.<br><br>
Nightwakings haven't changed since she settled down to waking around 11 pm and coming to bed with us. I would nurse her at that time and then not again until morning. THAT was a tough transition to make, but I hoped it would help with subsequent wakings.<br><br>
Who knows? She's never been a good sleeper.
 
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