Originally Posted by mamazee
Intensity - she reacts so strongly, both positively and negatively, to things that it freaks people out. I'm used to it so it doesn't bother me. He has intense reactions too. But I mostly get the "your kid is a brat" look rather than anyone actually being freaked out. He isn't quite on that level, though he has taught me a lot about empathy (with other moms).
Persistance . . . ARGH not much to say about that other than "yup". :LOL
Sensitivity - She hates the sound of the vacuum. Tain hates the vacuum too! He always says "okay, don't scare me." Then runs into his room and shuts the door. After that it is safe to vacuum. :LOL He doesn't like any loud noise.
Perceptiveness - or distractibility - it is very hard to walk even just from the car to the house with her. I just give enough time to sit on the front porch now until she's looked at everything. I think the answer to that problem is allowing for extra time in everything. I do this too! If I really need him to hurry I find that if I keep up a litany of "hurry, hurry" or as a friend says "quick like a bunny" he can focus a bit better (I would think this would annoy him, but it doesn't seem to. I think because half the time he doesn't hear me anyway). Also I ask him how fast he can run to the car, I bet I can beat him, etc. Didn't work in the store today, but it does work more often than not.
Adaptability - I ask her about everything. What clothes does she want to wear. How does she want her sandwich cut. Does she want water in her yellow sippy cup, her blue sippy cup? I now know I have to ask about everything. If I forget to ask I have to be willing to throw toast cut in triangles away and make new toast. I know not everyone is willing to throw away food but I'm not willing to get into a fight over a piece of toast. I do this too! I am realizing I do it way more than anyone else in his life. It stems off so much frustration on his part and lots of times when he is having a problem it helps him forget his problem because he gets so engrossed with making the decision. It only works if I give him 2-3 options, though. More than that and he falls apart.
Regularity - people think she should have a regular bed time and she just doesn't get tired at the same time every night or even sleep the same amount of time every night. I let her tell me when she's tired. It usually happens between 8:30 and 9:30 but I don't complain if it's later than that. She usually likes to sleep with me but sometimes she wants to sleep alone. I let her sleep where she wants. She was nursing through the night until around 2. She still wakes up in the middle of the night and needs hugs. My parents want her to spend the night with them but with her irregular sleeping habits and their reluctance to be flexible, I just don't think it's a good idea. She also doesn't always eat at mealtimes and just eats when she's hungry. That drives her grandparents nuts.
Energy - not much to say about that. She wakes up running and runs non stop until she tells me she's tired and wants to go to sleep. We've actually recently progressed. She used to just suddenly get quiet and we'd notice she was asleep (hopefully after we'd gotten her ready for bed.) Now she tells us ahead of time. If I put some soapy water in the sink, I can keep her busy with that while I do other things for a pretty long time. A sink full of soapy water is the only way my house stays clean.
First reaction - this is the one case where she doesn't fit the "spirited kid" mold. My daughter loves new things. New people, new places, she even usually likes trying new foods. He's about 50/50 but I am definitely a rejector so that is hard.
Moody - She's either very very happy or very very angry. She goes back and forth. She is not very often neutral. If ever. She's happy much more often than angry. He has days. Days where he is in a good mood and days where it just sucks for no apparent reason. I tend to be negative (though not with him, just a practical, half empty how do we fill the glass type person)
Originally Posted by pippet
Hey mamazee... what website did you find that checklist?
Originally Posted by phathui5
I've wanted to go through the workbook with a group of people in person for years. Does anyone know if there's a way to find out when/where study groups for that meet?