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Raising Your Spirited Child and Kids, Parents and Power Struggles both by Mary Sheed Kurcinka.<br><br>
Who read this book? It came highly recommended. I desperately need an advice on how to deal with my definitely spirited sensitive son.
 

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Probably one of the most important books you could possibly read <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"> Really! It's so helpful, informative and supportive! Totally helps you understand temperament, ways to affirm and acknowledge your little one's spirit. I learned so much myself and my spirited temperament, too <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"> I would also look at her other two books, Sleepless in America and Kids, Parents and Power Struggles. All excellent, excellent resources you'll turn to again and again throughout his childhood for reaffirmation and support <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/love.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="love"><br><br><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug">
 

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I really like this book. I purchased it when ds was about 1 and we re-read it often to help with dealing with him gracefully.
 

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I actually only got through the 1st chapter before putting it down. i mean, it fits ds1 to a T, but I just didn't like how the first chapter was written. I'll go back and try reading it again after I finish "The Secret of Parenting".
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">Probably one of the most important books you could possibly read <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"> Really! It's so helpful, informative and supportive! Totally helps you understand temperament, ways to affirm and acknowledge your little one's spirit. I learned so much myself and my spirited temperament, too <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"> I would also look at her other two books, Sleepless in America and Kids, Parents and Power Struggles. All excellent, excellent resources you'll turn to again and again throughout his childhood for reaffirmation and support <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/love.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="love"><br><br><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug"></div>
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Great suggestions!!! Should I get a revised or original edition?
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">I actually only got through the 1st chapter before putting it down. i mean, it fits ds1 to a T, but I just didn't like how the first chapter was written. I'll go back and try reading it again after I finish "The Secret of Parenting".</div>
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The Secret of Parenting - do you like it? What's the approach?<br>
I'm looking for all helpful books
 

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just re-read it and the power struggles one too...Love them both..plan on buying them to have as resources when I set up my home daycare
 

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i really liked "Kids, Parents and Power Struggles" more. i read it first , though so ymmv. KPPS is a longer book (i think) and talks more about all the different temperament types both in parents and kids and since my dd1 isn't a classically spirited kid it fit better for us. i don't really like the title since so much of it is about temperament and how to work together and not necessarily about power struggles. it would be helpful to anyone, really, not just parents caught in a power struggle cycle.<br><br>
i haven't read "the secret of parenting", but i've read "mom, jason's breathing on me" by the same author (anthony wolfe) and while i liked it, it didn't resonate the way KPPS did with me. it felt a little too pat. i did take some good things away from it, but felt like KPPS really got to the heart of the matter that all kids (and parents) aren't the same and they don't all need the same thing. there's no one magic word or phrase or special way to act that will work with all kids. KPPS was one of the few books that really seemed to address this.<br><br>
my dd1 is just not average, y'know? i know all kids are unique, but she's more unique <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/shy.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="innocent"> than a lot of her peers and it helped to have a book that recognized that. dd2 is unique, too, of course, but not to the degree that dd1 is. if i hadn't had dd1 first i would think that dd2 was really high needs/sensitive, etc, but having had dd1 i see that dd2 is further down along the continuum. although she still might be more clingy and sensitive than some of her peers who are quicker to separate from their parents she's not as needy as dd1 was at that age.<br><br>
anyway, i'm rattling on about my kids, but i really recommend KPPS. i think it's my fave parenting book and i've read a lot...
 

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oh, p.s. if you're wanting previews you can read excerpts of all of these at amazon...<br><br><a href="http://www.amazon.com/gp/redirect.html?ie=UTF8&linkCode=ur2&camp=1789&creative=9325&tag=motheringhud-20&location=http%3A%2F%2Fwww.amazon.com%2Fgp%2Freader%2F0060930438%2Fref%3Dsib_dp_pt%2F002-8163404-4894407" target="_blank">Kids, Parents, And Power Struggles</a><br><br><a href="http://www.amazon.com/gp/redirect.html?ie=UTF8&linkCode=ur2&camp=1789&creative=9325&tag=motheringhud-20&location=http%3A%2F%2Fwww.amazon.com%2Fgp%2Freader%2F0060923288%2Fref%3Dsib_dp_pt%2F002-8163404-4894407" target="_blank">Raising Your Spirited Child</a><br><br><a href="http://www.amazon.com/gp/redirect.html?ie=UTF8&linkCode=ur2&camp=1789&creative=9325&tag=motheringhud-20&location=http%3A%2F%2Fwww.amazon.com%2Fgp%2Freader%2F0374527083%2Fref%3Dsib_dp_pt%2F002-8163404-4894407" target="_blank">the secret of parenting</a><br><br>
yo might also like to look through the book list sticky at the top of this forum... <a href="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/showthread.php?t=115037" target="_blank">http://www.mothering.com/discussions...d.php?t=115037</a> .<br><br>
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<div style="font-style:italic;">I actually only got through the 1st chapter before putting it down. i mean, it fits ds1 to a T, but I just didn't like how the first chapter was written. I'll go back and try reading it again after I finish "The Secret of Parenting".</div>
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I'll have to take a look at my copy again. What didn't you like about the first chapter?
 

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I didn't care for the book as a whole. From a UP/non-coercive parenting perspective, I found her suggestions to be manipulative. However, there was a lot of good information for understanding where your children (or yourself) are coming from. So, I liked that aspect of it.
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">I didn't care for the book as a whole. From a UP/non-coercive parenting perspective, I found her suggestions to be manipulative. However, there was a lot of good information for understanding where your children (or yourself) are coming from. So, I liked that aspect of it.</div>
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hmmm...i just finished reading "Unconditional Parenting" and in contrasting the books i don't think i find KPPS manipulative at all. i can't really speak about "spirited child" with any depth so i don't know there. KPPS is much more practical than UP in terms of possible scenarios with UP being much more theoretical and paradigm shifting, but i think the two can complement each other. i'm a pretty practical person, though, so that may influence my feelings about both the books.
 

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Raising Your Spirited Child just seemed to go through a lot of ways to get your kids to do what you wanted them to, which didn't really sit well with me. I did like the explanations of sensitivities and what not of individuals.<br><br>
I agree that Unconditional Parenting is very much philosphical. I was just using it as an example of a style of parenting - not trying to compare the books. There are other books I like better on how to go about non-coercive parenting, but I do like UP as a philosophical book.
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">I agree that Unconditional Parenting is very much philosphical. I was just using it as an example of a style of parenting - not trying to compare the books. There are other books I like better on how to go about non-coercive parenting, but I do like UP as a philosophical book.</div>
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Could you please list the non-coercive parenting books that go well with Unconditional Parenting? That is the parenting style we aim at but I think I would benefit from reading something more practical, too.
 
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