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<p>I have a friend, an online friend, who posted on her Livejournal about how she needs us to pray for her because she just realized she had sex with her husband when she might've been fertile.  She had her fourth child in mid-September, the day before her third child turned one.  She complains about baby #3 taking six whole months to conceive.  She got pregnant with numbers 1, 2 and 4 without any trouble and she is positive that other people who have trouble getting or staying pregnant are too skinny (I am at least ten pounds overweight), implying it's a woman's fault for being "less" fertile than she is.  She complains about her kids constantly and says really awful things about them, she doesn't even try to nurse and looks for any excuse she can to switch to formula (she supplements right away and not-so-reluctantly stops nursing by two months or earlier).</p>
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<p>A few weeks ago she made a Facebook post about how glad she was to not be pregnant anymore (which makes sense after being pregnant for almost two years in a row).  And I know its her FB, but I'm not the only one of her friends with difficulty conceiving or staying pregnant and it seemed insensitive.</p>
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<p>Anyway, with our respective "luck," she'll be pregnant with twins in a week from now and I'll be going through loss #3.  </p>
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<p>I know that's not how it works, it just feels like it sometimes.</p>
 

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<p> ((((hug)))) I went through such terrible jealousy when I had IF and m/c's. I really think you should avoid reading things from her. Why put yourself through it? How annoying!</p>
 

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<p>((((((((((HUGS))))))))) I agree, mama, I would just hide her so she didn't show up on my news feed.</p>
 

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<p>Ugh.  Last year when I lost two babies, for some reason at the same time several people I knew were *really* miserable with motherhood, and venting all over the place and telling the world how awful motherhood is and how any woman who thinks having babies is a good thing really needs to reconsider...and I was so mad I could spit. </p>
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<p>I wanted to say "REALLY??? Your life is SO terrible???  Motherhood sucks?  You're so dedicated to being 'honest' about how terrible it is?  You're mad that you got pregnant again?  Let me tell you what I would give to have a baby waking me up at 2 am and spitting up down my back again."<span><img alt="Cuss.gif" src="http://files.mothering.com/images/smilies/Cuss.gif" style="width:33px;height:36px;"></span></p>
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<p>But I didn't, of course.  'Cause that would be rude. sigh.</p>
 

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<p>Oh yeah. I feel you. One of my best freind's next door neighbour has two young children and did the sneaky to get pregnant  even though her hubby didn't wanna. She's having twins.... My (supposed) friend said to me "Oh, poor 'M' - she's having twins, can you imagine how awful that would be?".  Yep, she was serious. I mean really, what a tragedy, to have two beautiful kids on the way. If only I had half her 'awful' luck. </p>
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<p><span style="color:rgb(0,128,128);">I hear you</span></p>
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<p><span style="color:rgb(0,128,128);">This baby took me 3 years to get pregnant with only to end up with another missed m/c.  My friend has a 1 year old who has big health problems with</span></p>
<p><span style="color:rgb(0,128,128);">her heart. They said they weren't having more kids but they sure didn't try hard enough to prevent it</span><span><img alt="banghead.gif" src="http://files.mothering.com/images/smilies/banghead.gif"></span><span style="color:rgb(0,128,128);">....because of the risk of having another child with those health problems.... well she is pregnant.</span></p>
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<p><span style="color:rgb(0,128,128);"> She is due close to my baby's due date.<span><img alt="guilty.gif" src="http://files.mothering.com/images/smilies/guilty.gif">      Oh and her SO just put on face book they are having  a boy, i put unless she's way farther along</span></span></p>
<p><span style="color:rgb(0,128,128);"><span>it's way too early to know that she figures she's around 10wks.</span></span></p>
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Ugh. <img alt="hug.gif" class="bbcode_smiley" src="http://files.mothering.com/images/smilies/hug.gif"> I agree with the others that it might make sense to stop reading her posts. I've had to unfriend several pregnant people who were due around the same time I was, since even when I hid them I was too tempted to go and peak at how they were doing, and I just didn't think it was healthy for me. <img alt="redface.gif" class="bbcode_smiley" src="http://files.mothering.com/images/smilies/redface.gif"> Good luck making a good decision for you!<br><br>
 

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<p>UGH I totally sympathize.</p>
<p>I have a "friend" that told me (to make me feel better?) on the day I found that my last baby had died at 13 weeks, still in my belly, she said "oh I can't help but be pregnant, my husband just looks at me and I'm knocked up".  Knowing that it took me forever to get pregnant that time....ouch. </p>
 

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<p>I suppose posting something snarky like...  </p>
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<p><em>I am not wasting God's time when there is a perfectly good drugstore at the end of the street with cheap condoms inside.</em></p>
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<p>wouldn't be appropriate. :p</p>
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<p>or something less snarky like...</p>
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<p><em>You should buy "taking Charge of your Fertility" to help you understand better about fertility.</em></p>
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<p>But it's her FB and so you should probably just delete her. Doesn't sound like stuff you want or need to hear :(</p>
 

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I would write that..</p>
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<div class="quote-block">Originally Posted by <strong>babygirlie</strong> <a href="/community/forum/thread/1279619/rant-friends-who-complain-about-being-too-fertile#post_16076667"><img alt="View Post" class="inlineimg" src="/community/img/forum/go_quote.gif" style="border-bottom:0px solid;border-left:0px solid;border-top:0px solid;border-right:0px solid;"></a><br><br><p>I suppose posting something snarky like...  </p>
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<p><em>I am not wasting God's time when there is a perfectly good drugstore at the end of the street with cheap condoms inside.</em></p>
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<p>wouldn't be appropriate. :p</p>
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