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Sheesh.<br><br>
Gosh, I'd feel the need to do something too, but I don't guess there is anything TO do. Don't go back, that's for sure.<br><br>
You know yourself better than anyone. I guess try again to sort out exactly what you need for your forms and find another doctor. This one is useless to you now.<br><br>
I am so so so so so so sorry you went through this!!
 

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Im sure you thought of this...<br>
but...<br><br>
Are there any midwives around? Any doulas? Any birthign centers which r staffed with midwives?<br><br>
heck even a granny midwife who can deliver your child at home?<br><br>
Thats horrible and I hate to say it but, but I wanted the same stuff and used midwives and still things didnt go as i had wanted.<br><br>
*sigh*<br><br>
next time im doing it all at home or using a birthing center<br><br>
God help ya...God help ya...<br><br>
Umm Ibrahim
 

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<a href="http://www.fightcps.com/" target="_blank">http://www.fightcps.com/</a><br><a href="http://www.fightcps.com/articles/whattodo.html" target="_blank">http://www.fightcps.com/articles/whattodo.html</a><br>
Have your dh read through this information and prepare. He should also determine the best driving route to the second closest hospital (assuming the one you just went to was the closest). Then let this go.<br><br>
You, on the other hand, need to just concentrate on the beautiful unhindered birth you will have. You wonder why you let them do this to you? I think it's because you needed this push to allow yourself to trust your body and your self.<br><br>
Getting some of the supplies recommended in the UC forum could be good as well, confidence in yourself and peace with how you know your birth will be doesn't mean you also have to be resigned to washing your mattress or carpet.
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">Sheesh.<br><br>
Gosh, I'd feel the need to do something too, <b>but I don't guess there is anything TO do.</b> Don't go back, that's for sure.<br><br>
You know yourself better than anyone. I guess try again to sort out exactly what you need for your forms and find another doctor. This one is useless to you now.<br><br>
I am so so so so so so sorry you went through this!!</div>
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Sure there is.<br><br>
Report this to the hospital board. It may not do "much" in the short term but it will make you feel better and it will let the hospital know that there are women out there who aren't about to just sit back and let them do unneccessary procedures just because it's standard procedure. If I had known what I know now, I would have filed a complaint after the birth of my son for the rollercoaster ride we were taken on.<br><br>
A bit of a dream perhaps, but maybe one day after enough outraged women speak up policy will change. They do want to keep their customers after all, and if all the women have taken their business to midwifes or handled it themselves, where would that leave them<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/orngtongue.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Stick Out Tongue">
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">Sure there is.<br><br>
Report this to the hospital board. It may not do "much" in the short term but it will make you feel better and it will let the hospital know that there are women out there who aren't about to just sit back and let them do unneccessary procedures just because it's standard procedure. If I had known what I know now, I would have filed a complaint after the birth of my son for the rollercoaster ride we were taken on.<br><br>
A bit of a dream perhaps, but maybe one day after enough outraged women speak up policy will change. They do want to keep their customers after all, and if all the women have taken their business to midwifes or handled it themselves, where would that leave them<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/orngtongue.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Stick Out Tongue"></div>
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"Ethically", this doctor has actually adhered to the "Standard of Care" and no medical administrative authority is going to question that. The fact is, if you have signed on with a doctor/hospital, you have implied that you agree (or at least comply) with the Standard of Care. That's why so many women are choosing to not go through a hospital. They don't want the SOC. (Because the SOC does not serve the majority of women with low risk pregnancies in a healthy way)<br><br>
If this doctor had cut her open and later found it to be unecessary, he still would have been praised for "doing all he could" to save mom and child. A fact that underscores how badly turned upside down medical care is nowadays. Unfortunately, it's like an antibiotic-resitant bacteria .... persistent and mostly unecessary use of litigation (among other reasons) has turned the health care system into a super-bug! Yikes!
 

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I found that when I gave birth I simply waited until the moment to do most of the discussing with the midwife and nurse at the hospital.<br><br>
If you don't plan to have your baby at the hospital don't argue with the doctor about hypotheticals. If he wants to talk about fetal monitoring, laying on your back to deliver, etc. just smile and say you will figure it out when you deliver or some other something vague answer.<br><br>
Do not give them the ammunition to find you "different" or label you a "difficult" patient. Just be ready to stand your ground if you need to go to the hospital to deliver.<br><br>
I know it is hard, it's hard when you're pregnant and it gets even harder dealing with pediatricians and such.<br><br>
Hugs to you. I would also second writing letters to the hospital about your care. I would imagine that they should have monitored your blood pressure first before putting you through all of the other very invasive tests.<br><br>
Let us know how it goes.
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">"Ethically", this doctor has actually adhered to the "Standard of Care" and no medical administrative authority is going to question that. The fact is, if you have signed on with a doctor/hospital, you have implied that you agree (or at least comply) with the Standard of Care. That's why so many women are choosing to not go through a hospital. They don't want the SOC. (Because the SOC does not serve the majority of women with low risk pregnancies in a healthy way)<br><br>
If this doctor had cut her open and later found it to be unecessary, he still would have been praised for "doing all he could" to save mom and child. A fact that underscores how badly turned upside down medical care is nowadays. Unfortunately, it's like an antibiotic-resitant bacteria .... persistent and mostly unecessary use of litigation (among other reasons) has turned the health care system into a super-bug! Yikes!</div>
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I agree about the "standard of care" issue and how obs get away with performing unneccessary csections. Like mine. That's exactly why I have taken away my business from a hospital. That still doesn't mean she shouldn't complain. Nothing will ever change if everyone pretends that everything is fine and dandy. What happened to her was unneccessary and emotionally damaging. If more women stood up to this abuse, eventually it would change.
 

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No flipping WAY would I go to that hospital in labor, I'd be so scared I wouldn't be able to function! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug"> I am SO sorry you had to experiance that!
 

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OMG, I'm so sorry. The part of your story that resonated with me was that you forgot that the dumb nurse used the wrong blood pressure cuff. Medical professionals are always making me forget my good sense and doubt my judgement with their condescending authority and scare tactics. I do my best to stay far away, but sometimes I get sucked in, too. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug">
 

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Thanks for posting that link, SC! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/loveeyes.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Loveeyes">:
 

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No problem. Looks like Kireiemiri's already thinking ahead. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile">
 
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