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Today is not the first time I have heard this from someone in relation to my omni husband when they discover I will not cook meat for him. It irks me to no end.<br><br>
No I will not cook the "poor guy" a steak. First of all, I'm morally opposed to supporting the meat industry. Second, the sight of raw meat makes me want to hurl. Third, the "poor guy" is a fully capable 37 year old man that if he really wants a steak is completely able to cook the damn dead animal himself.<br><br>
When was the last time someone said to him, "You won't even cook the poor woman some tofu?" NEVER. No one has EVER said that to him. Why is this? Hmmmm.... one because this society is so freakin' sexist that no one ever thinks that maybe the man should cook a meal for the family sometimes and two would be because I'm the vegan freak and therefore I should cater to everyone else's wishes and no one should care about mine. No one has ever even asked him if he cooks any of my meals for me, I guess they just assume he shouldn't ever have to. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/irked.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="irked">:<br><br>
I'm a little peeved today.
 

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Isn't it just lovely when the -isms (here, sexism and what? omni-ism?) intersect to push your buttons like that? Grrrr.<br><br>
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<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/hug2.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Hug2"> I can't really comment, I don't hear this cause I still cook meat for hubby much to my disdain <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/greensad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="greensad">
 

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Yeah, we've heard that a lot too. The funny thing is that DH couldn't care less and doesn't mind eating vegan at home. However, everyone seems to think I "don't let him" eat meat. FIL even sends him $10 at his b-day with a note to go get himself a burger. Even my own mother acts like she's doing him this huge favor when she cooks meat for him when we go over. Half the time, he doesn't even eat it.
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">When was the last time someone said to him, "You won't even cook the poor woman some tofu?"</div>
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Well, I'm going to start doing my share to get this out more often.
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">... if he really wants a steak is completely able to cook the damn dead animal himself.</div>
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I'm sorry, but this part just cracked me up! ^__^
 

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Wow, that is really a rude thing to say. I can't even imagine the logic behind statements like that. I have a Vegetarian friend, who would cook meat for her DP, and I always thought that her cooking meat was kind of weird.
 

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I feel better just knowing you all understand / appreciate my rant! I really, really do. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile">
 

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I've actually had a dinner guest (who is a good friend of dh) ask me if I would cook a side of meat for him. I thought he was joking. But no. Cook your own nasty rotting flesh.<br>
I never ask people to make a meal veg for me if I'm eating dinner somewhere, I just eat what I'm comfy with. Argg.<br>
Most people are quite cool though, just a peeve that needed ranting, thanks <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile">
 

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HK, maybe you should enlist your husband in responding to these idiots? You're right, the list of "ism"s in those statements is huge. Even ignoring the veg issue, the implication that it's your responsibility to provide what your husband wants, period, is appalling. The two of you are a team, you're not a servant. It sounds like he's supportive of your decisions, even if he hasn't made the same choices. It's none of these other people's business.
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">HK, maybe you should enlist your husband in responding to these idiots? .... It sounds like he's supportive of your decisions, even if he hasn't made the same choices. It's none of these other people's business.</div>
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I totally agree with this. For me, it's not the comments other people make, it's the fact that DH allows them to make them and doesn't say anything. He could say something like, "If I want meat I will cook it." Or anything. Instead, he just stands there and listens to people beat you up verbally. Sometimes I think, at least with my husband, that he enjoys listening to other people put me down for decisions I've made.<br><br>
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DH is omni but I still have a meat-free home. He doesn't care at all, he enjoys everything I make and he makes some things (mainly pasta - he's not exactly a chef extraordinaire). Although, no ones ever said anything outright I do get the subtle 'jokes' about DHs lack of meat. I think we probably eat a healthier more well balanced diet than any meat eaters I know. Also, this is a moral issue for me and when you love someone you respect what they care about. This may seem extreme, but my analogy is this - if someone were moral against the beating of puppies, but you weren't, would you insist on beating up a puppy in front of them. I sure hope not!! I think some people just don't understand the moral issues of vegetarian/vegan living.
 

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Heehee! What is it with society + men + meat? Most people's first response to my vegetarianism is, "But what about your husband?" (uttered with various shades of meaning from curious to horrified.) I always answer, "He's just happy I cook."<br><br>
In fact he just read this over my shoulder and agreed!<br><br>
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My family is EXACTLY like this!! I say I dont like cooking meat, I hate touching it seasoning it everything.....I dont do it at home, dp wants it he cooks it, but he was a veg for 7 years so he loves all veg food but if we are out to a restaurant or at a family members house he does eat meat...so of course family that sees that makes comments or they talk about how I use to eat meat and cook it and blah blah blah yeah and I use to believe in Santa, we all grow up and change GET OVER IT!<br>
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I'm sorry you have to hear this kind of thing. I get it too but in relation to my DD - "you mean you're going to deprive her of meat?!" Uh, yea, and cheetos, and soda and snickers bars and (oh the horrors!) even McDonalds!<br><br><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/greensad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="greensad">
 

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Watch out - someone might call CPS on you! Isn't the right to pursue a Happy Meal in the constitution??
 

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Oh I am so sorry HK, that's a really dumb thing for people to say besides it just being something they should keep their noses out of.<br><br>
I still cook meat for my omni Dh and Ds, but not all the time. Often they will cook the meat component of their meal, or even the whole thing. My in laws think it's insane that I could eat a meal without meat in it, and they worry that my Dh is "going without". Dumb, dumb, dumb!
 

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You'd think so! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol">
 
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