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I'm asking this question for my sister, I have 4 girls so I really can't answer her question. She has a 4 year old son and was all nervous thinking she has to get him circumcised because his skin is still intact. Her boyfriend told her that his sons are not circumcised but their skin retracts even his 2 year old. So he told her something was wrong. What advice would you give her? I told her perhaps her boyfriends kids' were pulled back by their Pediatrician.. And besides everyone is different. Thanks in advance for your feedback.
 

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It is completely normal for a child that age not to retract. There is a thread somewhere here about "what age did your child retract" or something like that and there are many moms with older nonretractable children.<br><br>
YOu can also read that it is normal on the AAP site. This is their statement on the matter:<br><br><a href="http://www.cirp.org/library/normal/aap1999/" target="_blank">http://www.cirp.org/library/normal/aap1999/</a><br><br><div style="margin:20px;margin-top:5px;">
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<table border="0" cellpadding="6" cellspacing="0" width="99%"><tr><td class="alt2" style="border:1px inset;">Foreskin retraction occurs when the foreskin can be pulled away from the glans toward the abdomen. This process happens on its own. When it happens is different for every child. Most boys will be able to retract their foreskins by the time that they are 18 years old.</td>
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It's completely normal. My ds1 doesn't retract and he's 5 1/2. There's a wide range of normal when it comes to retraction.
 

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Like the pp's have said it is normal. Sometimes it takes till the teen years for retraction to occure when the hormones kick in.
 

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Thanks, this info will definately put my sister at ease. She did find out by the way that her boyfriends boy had theirs pulled back by the pediatrician!
 

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Oooh! No pulling back by the ped. Bad ped! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/irked.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="irked">:<br><br>
ITA with others. It takes years for most boys to retract.
 

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Just let him play with himself. I never discourage it even at my son's young age (12 months). Sometimes he's so rough it looks like he's gonna pull it right off <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"> . Although there's a time & a place for him to play with himself, I'm sure my son will manage to make it retractable with time.
 

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My son is nearly 7 and is just starting to be able to retract a little bit. I came here a few years ago with the same question. My mom was worried as my brother "had" to be forcebly retracted by our doctor when he was 2 because he wasn't retracting yet. Mom left my brother intact, but sje still had a lot of bad information. Fortunatly I learned the truth and left my son alone. Mom regrets listening to the doctor about my brother though.
 

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Thanks for all the info! She feels more confident now that she made the right decision with her son. Now I'm educated too. In case I have a boy!
 

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My 4 yr old is nowhere near retractable. I'm glad your friend is reassured it's normal.<br><br>
I know this isn't the point of the thread, but I really have to wonder what the big deal is about a non-retracting penis in a child... if it ain't broke, kwim? Why SHOULD it retract in a 4 yr old? I just don't get that.
 

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You should send your sisters BF here to read this <a href="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/showthread.php?t=575627" target="_blank">http://www.mothering.com/discussions...d.php?t=575627</a> so he can educate his pediatrician.
 

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<div>Originally Posted by <strong>My_Three_Sons</strong> <a href="/community/forum/post/8024525"><img alt="View Post" class="inlineimg" src="/community/img/forum/go_quote.gif" style="border:0px solid;"></a></div>
<div style="font-style:italic;">Why SHOULD it retract in a 4 yr old? I just don't get that.</div>
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<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/yeahthat.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="yeah that">: That's what I'm screamin, sister. I have read all the retraction-by-ped horror stories and just thought, WHY would a doc think that NEEDED to happen?<br><br>
BTW, I'm really glad to have had this resource before my son was born... we have not done WBV for him but the idea of taking him to a doc for any reason makes me clammy with fear about them retracting him. I've drilled my DH that if we ever have to take him to any doc for any reason, we tell them clearly while looking them in the eye that there is NO reason for them to touch DS's penis, period. And that they WILL NOT touch him or retract him. Period. And I don't care if the doc thinks we're nuts! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/winky.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Wink"><br><br>
Ok, sorry - little OT rant there! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol">
 

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My husband's foreskin didn't retract at 4. It retracts now (and when we were teens), and that's really all that matters <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/shrug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="shrug"><br><br>
love and peace. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/love.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="love">
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">Thanks, this info will definately put my sister at ease. She did find out by the way that her boyfriends boy had theirs pulled back by the pediatrician!</div>
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Ouch <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/bigeyes.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="bigeyes"><br><br><br>
It's perfectly normal.
 
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