Reached the point where I need to slow down (plus a mini rant)

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Pernillep

Discussion Starter · Apr 12, 2009

So, I have finally at 23 weeks reached the point where I can't keep going like I used to. I realized today as I tried to clean the entire house, make b-day cake and prepare in general for tomorrows party that I need to slow down. At 2pm I crashed. Sat down on the couch and didn't wake up for an hour and a half. I don't even remember falling asleep. Just that I was going to sit for a few after mopping part of the floors.

And here comes my "I don't understand men rant". I had prepared DH for today for a week. He knows we need to clean the house and was totally on board, he wants it to look nice for the guests tomorrow (DS is turning 2). He even asked what i needed him to do. I told him specifically; move things to the basement, clean and organize DSs toys and take out recycling. He had a hair appointment and left while I was sleeping. Guess what. The recycling was still sitting here, most of what needed to go downstairs had not, the toys were only half a** cleaned up. Instead he came home and announced with pride that the garage was clean and looked great. I wanted to say YOU IDIOT. No one is going to see the garage tomorrow. Instead I said, you better take our guests out to see the garage since it looks so nice and is the only clean place. That or lock them in the bathroom which I cleaned yesterday.

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I am done for now and need to start the cooking/baking for tomorrow. I decided I will leave the rest of the cleaning to him and we can pick it back up tomorrow morning. I can't move I am so tired. Belly Boy is doing good and calmed down after I napped. He was definitely feeling the extra work and jumping around like crazy.

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mi.birthdoula

· #2 · Apr 12, 2009

I sooooo know where you are coming from!!!!

The only things I asked DH to do to get ready for tomorrows guests' was to do the dishes (move them from the sink to the dishwasher,) and to vacuum the floors. Guess what? It's 7pm, he left to go do the sound for our churches play, and NEITHER are done! Instead he moved the trampoline to a different part of the backyard, and talked to the neighbor outside! He got so mad at me when I asked him if he was still planning on getting them done. I on the other hand had to clean the kitchen, straighten up both the girls' rooms, dust, cook food, clean out the cats area, pooper scoop the dog area outside, clean the bathroom, do laundry, take in DD 2's dress a little, decorate their hats, take the girls to see Easter Bunny (Tradition on day before) and I take the girls to our churches egg hunt. WHEW!!!! I'm tired just thinking about it all. I'm almost done though, and I can DEFINITELY feel it catching up with me now. I've only got to finish 1/2 of DD#1's room (she noticed momma was getting tired so she cleaned as much as she could on her own, and helped in little sis's room - what a good little helper) and take in the dress, and do the hats.
I'm hoping that I don't crash when I sit down to start sewing!

Happy Easter Though!

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Toolip

· #3 · Apr 12, 2009

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Originally Posted by Pernillep

Instead he came home and announced with pride that the garage was clean and looked great. I wanted to say YOU IDIOT. No one is going to see the garage tomorrow. Instead I said, you better take our guests out to see the garage since it looks so nice and is the only clean place. That or lock them in the bathroom which I cleaned yesterday.

Oh my gosh!

I had to crash in here and commiserate!!

This happens at our house before EVERY party! It's always something different though. 2 hours before the party, the counter covered in dirty dishes, floor not swept, clothes on the couch (you get the picture)... I have seen the junk drawer get organized, top of the fridge cleaned off, lawn mowed, organize cupboards, clean out shower, etc.... I mean, yeah, 2 weeks ago that would have been nice!

What is so hard to understand about priorities???

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GenomicsGirl

· #4 · Apr 12, 2009

I like your response to your DH

Too bad he wasted so much eergy on the garage - it seems like he has a lot to do to clean up the rest of the house

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Spring Sun

· #5 · Apr 12, 2009

OOOOH, you hit the nail on the dot! I am so glad you posted this. My dh does the SAME EXACT thing. I kid you not. Last weekend, I was not feeling well and asked him to clean up (the place was a huge mess), so I come back down a little later, and it is better, but still dirty and messy, but he was so happy with himself bc he had spent all afternoon organizing the garage. Are they scared of the house? Yay, I am having a girl!

I am totally exhuasted, though, too. Even jsut a couple weeks ago I was fine going out and doing a 2 or 3 hour shoot. Today I did a newborn shoot and by the time I got home I looked like a ghost and was just exhuasted. I used to schedule two in a day sometimes, and now I know I will only be able to do one a day at the very most. Sigh...

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Grumpy72_ga

· #6 · Apr 12, 2009

HA! I'm with ya.
Guests are due to show up and he says how can I help.... here, do this, this, this and this... in that ORDER (prioritized!) On pain of death if you do something other than these 3 things... I will have to murder you (said with an affectionate grin!) He has learned. But so have I... if I don't tell him EXACTLY what I want he won't do it! LOL!

FWIW, I'm with you... I'm on the slow down too... Doing it very Flylady-esque these days... 15 minutes of every hour is dedicated to one task... what doesn't get done, can wait an hour... I've gone to bed tired and crampy too many times recently, so I'm taking care of me and delegating more!

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FayeO

· #7 · Apr 13, 2009

So glad I am not alone on this issue.

My husband disappears into the garage or basement whenever we need to get housework done.
He "appears" industrious when he does this... but it really is SO not what needs to be done at that moment.

I don't get it.
(this just happened on Saturday before company arrived. He started working on a MAJOR plumbing project in the basement laundry room!)

Faye, mom to dd 1/15/03

: and expecting #2 in August