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Ugh. I just need to vent a little. My day started off SO well, with an early nap from the kiddo and the ultrasound went great - no problems and it's a BOY! Yay! But it quickly turned to S* after I met with one of the OB's in the combo practice I'm using. First of all there are 2 midwives and 2 ob's, only one of each have I met so far. They rotate shifts so I won't know who I'll be stuck with when I deliver. And besides my very 1st appointment which lasted a nice long time and I got to ask all sorts of questions without feeling rushed, I've felt like a patient on a conveyor belt - waiting 1/2 hour to get in, wating another 15 min for someone to even come into the room, and then meeting with whomever for all of 3 minutes. I might be a little spoiled here, though, because last time I had a home birth midwife and spent AT LEAST an hour with her every visit.
This visit she checked the heartbeat and was practically out the door when I stopped her to ask about my edd. I really want to try to push it back as much as possible because they have a 41-week limit and I was overdue with ds, and trying for a VBAC. So I am (understandably, IMO) quite nervous about being induced. The OB was just really not listening to me and insisted that they already have me at 2 days over what the sonogram says so I should be fine. She kept saying that it's too soon for me to be worried about this kind of stuff and that I should just "relax". I was trying to explain that I don't want to get to the 41 week point and have to face induction or a repeat c, OR risk being thrown out of the practice. She just reiterated that they DO NOT allow people to go over 41 weeks, period. And that I'm welcome to go somewhere else for care, but no one is going to give me some sort of "guarantee" that everything will turn out perfectly because things happen. I'm not saying everything she said was wrong, it just didn't exactly assuage my fears. I just felt like she was super anxious to get the hell out of there the whole time b/c she had other patients waiting, and this "drama" I was creating wasn't worth the effort. Anyway, I just left feeling crappy about the whole situation. I am stuck with this practice because of my insurance, and am keeping my fingers crossed that somehow, some way, I'll be able to switch out to an all-midwife practice by September. It really, really sucks to HAVE to see these people because of insurance.
Ok, well that was just the MORNING.
When I got home, I texted my mom the news about having a boy. But on SUNDAY, I'd texted my mom a funny (somewhat dirty) picture of some woman's chest with bunny ears headbands on her breasts, with little eyes and nose and whiskers painted around the nipples. It was certainly not disgusting, just in poor taste. It was certainly meant for her eyes only. I'd noticed that she called immediately afterwards but ignored it because I was at my in-laws, and we were about to eat. I figured she was calling to wish me a happy easter and I called her later on our way home.
So right after this text this afternoon, I got a call right back from her. Only it wasn't her. It was some random woman, demanding who I was and how I got that number. I was like, who are YOU and how did you get my mother's PHONE? Anyway, it turns out that I have been texting the wrong people - my mom had changed her number several MONTHS ago and somehow I never got the text SHE sent with the new one. The old number belongs to an 11-year old girl(!!!!!!!!), and this woman was PISSED. She was screaming - literally - that I had sent her daughter pornography and would PAY. She said her father in a magistrate (whatever that is) and that she'd be pressing charges because sending porn over the phone, especially to a minor, is illegal. I kept trying to apologize (at one point when I guess she actually heard me over her rant) she aid that my apology doesn't mean ANYTHING because I'd already done something illegal and I'd have to pay for that. I really, really, tried to keep my cool, but after a good 10 minutes of being yelled and at berated while trying to explain that I *obviously* would NEVER purposely send naked pictures to an 11-year old, or ANY stranger, I freakin LOST IT. I screamed back (not that she stopped talking) and eventually called her a very nasty name. And hung up.
Anyway, my mom felt terrible, not that it was her fault, and tried to call this woman as well, but she ended up with pretty much the same result - this woman threatening that she was going to press charges and we'd "pay", and my MOM ended up hanging up on her too. I know she's probably some nutcase who like to get on her high horse and make life difficult for others, but I feel really horrible about this. Just NOT a good end to my day, you know? I feel like I never got to celebrate the news of having a baby boy, can't even really focus on it or get excited. Hormones, probably, are not making this better. But I just have felt like crying all freakin day since all of this went down.
Anyway, sorry to rant, and sorry this was so long. Feels better to get it out though, so thanks!
This visit she checked the heartbeat and was practically out the door when I stopped her to ask about my edd. I really want to try to push it back as much as possible because they have a 41-week limit and I was overdue with ds, and trying for a VBAC. So I am (understandably, IMO) quite nervous about being induced. The OB was just really not listening to me and insisted that they already have me at 2 days over what the sonogram says so I should be fine. She kept saying that it's too soon for me to be worried about this kind of stuff and that I should just "relax". I was trying to explain that I don't want to get to the 41 week point and have to face induction or a repeat c, OR risk being thrown out of the practice. She just reiterated that they DO NOT allow people to go over 41 weeks, period. And that I'm welcome to go somewhere else for care, but no one is going to give me some sort of "guarantee" that everything will turn out perfectly because things happen. I'm not saying everything she said was wrong, it just didn't exactly assuage my fears. I just felt like she was super anxious to get the hell out of there the whole time b/c she had other patients waiting, and this "drama" I was creating wasn't worth the effort. Anyway, I just left feeling crappy about the whole situation. I am stuck with this practice because of my insurance, and am keeping my fingers crossed that somehow, some way, I'll be able to switch out to an all-midwife practice by September. It really, really sucks to HAVE to see these people because of insurance.
Ok, well that was just the MORNING.
When I got home, I texted my mom the news about having a boy. But on SUNDAY, I'd texted my mom a funny (somewhat dirty) picture of some woman's chest with bunny ears headbands on her breasts, with little eyes and nose and whiskers painted around the nipples. It was certainly not disgusting, just in poor taste. It was certainly meant for her eyes only. I'd noticed that she called immediately afterwards but ignored it because I was at my in-laws, and we were about to eat. I figured she was calling to wish me a happy easter and I called her later on our way home.
So right after this text this afternoon, I got a call right back from her. Only it wasn't her. It was some random woman, demanding who I was and how I got that number. I was like, who are YOU and how did you get my mother's PHONE? Anyway, it turns out that I have been texting the wrong people - my mom had changed her number several MONTHS ago and somehow I never got the text SHE sent with the new one. The old number belongs to an 11-year old girl(!!!!!!!!), and this woman was PISSED. She was screaming - literally - that I had sent her daughter pornography and would PAY. She said her father in a magistrate (whatever that is) and that she'd be pressing charges because sending porn over the phone, especially to a minor, is illegal. I kept trying to apologize (at one point when I guess she actually heard me over her rant) she aid that my apology doesn't mean ANYTHING because I'd already done something illegal and I'd have to pay for that. I really, really, tried to keep my cool, but after a good 10 minutes of being yelled and at berated while trying to explain that I *obviously* would NEVER purposely send naked pictures to an 11-year old, or ANY stranger, I freakin LOST IT. I screamed back (not that she stopped talking) and eventually called her a very nasty name. And hung up.
Anyway, my mom felt terrible, not that it was her fault, and tried to call this woman as well, but she ended up with pretty much the same result - this woman threatening that she was going to press charges and we'd "pay", and my MOM ended up hanging up on her too. I know she's probably some nutcase who like to get on her high horse and make life difficult for others, but I feel really horrible about this. Just NOT a good end to my day, you know? I feel like I never got to celebrate the news of having a baby boy, can't even really focus on it or get excited. Hormones, probably, are not making this better. But I just have felt like crying all freakin day since all of this went down.
Anyway, sorry to rant, and sorry this was so long. Feels better to get it out though, so thanks!
