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My dd is 5 mo and ebf. I plan to ebf as long as possible and to bf for a minimum of 2 years. Lately I have been really hating it. Firstly dd is easily distracted so we have to be in the bedroom which is honestly getting really boring for me because I can't do anything with out her pulling off then getting upset because she is hungry. I don't know if the next issue somehow related (ie I notice it more because I have nothing to do while bfing).<br><br>
Lately I have been feelign really overstimulated. My nipples feel sensitive. It isn't painful but more kind of tickly. It makes me feel uncomfortable and like I really don't want anything touching my nipples. They are not raw or anything like that and I don't think it is a latch problem but who knows. Aside from soreness the first week I have had very little discomfort with nursing. I have been doing block feeding because of overactive letdown so I nurse from one side for several feeding than switch. My dd has been nursing for long period of time20-40 minutes at each feeding. I used to wait until she spit it out but lately I have been pulling my nipple out when I just can;t stand it anymore and she seems asleep then putting it next to her mouth-if she latches back on I keep feeding her, if not I stop. I don't know if she is just sucking or eating-is there a way to tell? I hate pulling her off because she is skinny and very active and in teh 10% so I feel she needs all the BM she can get. Is this normal? Is there anything I can do? The only thing I can relate the feeling to is when you become overstimulated sexually and can't be touched-maybe that is why it is making me feel so uncomfortable. I am also a sexual abuse survivor so having to be touched on my breasts even in a absolutely non sexual way like bfing is really unpleasant and sometimes upsetting to me. I don't want to feel this way as up to now I have loved my nursing relationship with my dd and have felt really good about my body being a positive thing that is feeding my child. I absolutely do not want to stop nursing my dd and she will not take a bottle so I can't even get a break. I don't think the pulling off while she is still eating is negatively effecting her but I do think she is eating more frequently and waking more at night which doesn't help. Is there a way to know if she is getting enough milk and i can pull off? Anything I can do for the sensitivity?
 

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I've been there. 4-6 months was really hard for me. I can tell you that at 11 months it is much much much better. It sounds like maybe you could use a little break - can your parnter or a grandparent watch the baby while you run to the grocery or go for a walk, just to get out of the house? A walk around the block a couple of times a week could do wonders for you!<br><br>
As for nursing just in the bedroom - is this because you have other children or your spouse is at home? I would try to find times of day that are quiet in other areas of yoru house, when you are out you could try your car or dressing rooms.<br><br>
You can tell if she is just sucking or eating by listening for swallows. Is it just suck, suck, suck, or suck, suck, gulp? I think unlatching her is fine since you offer again to make sure she has had enough. It may lead to more, but shorter, nursing sessions during the day too.<br><br>
I guess the bottom line is that you can do it! It is normal to go through hard nursing times like this but they don't last forever.
 

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I have a 5 month old and she is doing the same thing with the on again off again stuff. Also thrashing her arms and legs and arching while nursing. It is kind of annoying, but I just keep telling myself it's just a phase and try to laugh about it. I don't have a nursing necklace, but maybe that would help. DD also thinks it's funny if I nurse her in a different position than usual and stays latched on longer because of the novelty of it. Right now if I sit her on my lap sitting upright she can nurse and look around at the same time, she seems to like that more...<br><br>
Hope it gets better for you soon mama!
 

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<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/hug2.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Hug2"> Hang in there mamma! You're doing a great job. This was me when dd was 5/6 mo. It's a trying time because they are more alert to the world around them. I too had to nurse in the bedroom with curtains pulled to get in a decent feeding. And I can totally relate to the nipple thing. When I couldn't stand it any more and dd was just suckling on my nipple I would pull her off. I know they say you should let the child lead in that area, but sometimes...<br><br>
I agree with the pp that it's a phase and it gets better, that's my experience.<br><br>
About the weight. If she's active and alert I wouldn't be concerned. Also, the wet diaper thing applies. My dd is on the petite side but very active and eats whenever she wants. I think LLL says that a better way to determin if bf babies are getting enough is to look at length, not weight.<br><br>
You know, you might be able to pump some and let your partner give it to her from a glass if you need a break. I wish you all the best!
 

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Another thought....<br><br>
Maybe it is thrush starting up? For us, when we get thrushy, there is lots of fussing at the breast. Also, there's alot of fussiness at the breast when my baby is starting a growth spurt. Could that be it? Teething? Any of these issues (or all at once sometimes!) can cause the things you described. My newest baby goes thru what I call 'minor major growth spurts' right before her 'major major growth spurts". maybe she's just weird, lol.<br><br>
Otherwise, yeah, this can be a trying time for nursing. Would your baby fret w/a light blankie tossed over her head while nursing? Maybe that would help her keep on task?
 

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Thanks mamas! I have tried putting a receiving blanket and a cover up and sometimes it helps but other times she just keeps pulling it off. I did feed her in the living room today and it tool a lot longer to get her to stay latched but once she messeda round for a bit she got down to business and stayed on. She actually let me read for a littel bit. I do think she may be going through a minor major growth spurt (like pp) said. Today was a little better as far as the sensitivity. I think it is just really important for me to remember 1)that I am lucky to be able to nurse and have this bond with my dd and 2) she is just being who she is and not trying to be difficult (I KNOW this but sometimes I need to remind myself because I start to get resentful) and 3) that nursing is my choice not something that is being done to me and I can stop anytime I want (even if I know I want to do it as long as possible for my dd). I think as a survivor sometimes I feel like I have no control over my body and that my dd has just taken over-knowing that I can stop anytime(even if I won't) helps me feel less negatively.
 

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babydot! sometimes tries to pull that on off on off thing.... if she doesn t get down to it after a bit i know shes just goofing around.... i just button up and we do something else for a few minutes..... i just smile and play with her for a bit and then try again i know when she s serious about the boob and when she s got that "whatevah" attitude <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"> and my nips hurt a lot too i need my boobs in a bra 24/7 keep up the tough but great work mamma!!! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug">
 

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Keep up the good work - you can do it!<br><br>
I'm pregnant (5 mos) and nursing DS @ 18 mos and my nipples are unbelievably sore and sensitive, so I can kinda relate. I've tried gentle nipple massage prior to nursing and it has helped, although not eliminated the problem. Maybe it will help you too??<br><br>
Good Luck and Congratulations on your determination!!!<br><br>
BTW... do you attend La Leche League meetings? If not, go to <a href="http://www.llli.org" target="_blank">www.llli.org</a> and find where a meeting in your area is and contact the leader. She may have suggestions, and attending a meeting with other moms who are both having challenges and are successful may really be a boost to you emotionally!
 

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I can only nurse dd in a dark quiet bedroom these days too. She doesn't seem to notice if I have the radio on, though. So I listen to NPR & have found that I actually look forward to that time now (though I do miss being able to be social while breastfeeding).<br><br>
Hang in there!
 
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