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I had a prenatal appointment today and the OB was filling in for my midwife because she's on vacation. She basically shot down my whole birth plan and told me that most likely I'll need medications and that I will be required to have an IV upon arrival. WHAT? How can that be a requirement? Isn't everything MY choice? She said it's just in case something goes wrong and I need to be booked for a c-section. Can't someone put a fricking IV in IF I have an emergency? Why does it have to be automatic?<br><br>
Not to mention that she said it's Massachusetts state law to put the antibiotic ointment in my son's eyes when he's born. How can that be a law? It's for potential STD's/infections being passed to the baby via the vagina. If I don't have any STD's or infections how could my baby get one? I'm so pissed I don't even know where to begin right now. I fought with her for a good hour. I am on fire right now!<br><br>
Can anyone help me prepare for my next visit for my midwife? I want these things to be MY choices!
 

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Did you post this in the wrong forum?<br>
Someone brilliant once said, you buy the hospital ticket, you get the hospital ride. Gotta love that. Very true. No, they can't put ointment in your baby's eyes if you tell them not to. Of course, they might anyway. Technically, everything in the hospital is your choice. In reality, it rarely translates that way.
 

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I think maybe you meant to post this elsewhere? This is the unassisted birth forum. But I'll hop in on your question anyway. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"><br><br>
First thing is - how do you feel about switching care providers? This OB sounds like she runs a tight ship. One question is whether your midwife can or is willing to get around the OB's requirements or not. If you aren't totally confident that the midwife will back you - against the OB's recommendations/purported requirements - then I think it's time to start looking for a different practice. Sometimes midwives in OB groups are okay, but sometimes the rules are quite tight and you don't get substantially different care from a midwife versus an OB. I don't know your exact situation, but it's definitely something to think about. I personally would want the backup or supervising OB to be supportive of NCB, and it doesn't sound like your OB is.<br><br>
As far as the ointment goes, yes it is law in some states, but I thought you could still skip it if you signed a waiver, but I'm not sure about that.<br><br>
Good luck - I personally would switch HCP to avoid an uphill battle during the birth.
 

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Sounds like you will need to labor at home until transition...or maybe "accidently" give birth at home and inform the midwife later.<br><br>
It's not too late to look into a change. You can find a homebirth midwife or a birthing center. It's sooo much better when your wishes aren't even questioned.<br><br>
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Ladies maybe this post is here because this mama is going to end up UCing and will need our support to get there. Weird things happen that lead us along a new path. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/winky.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Wink"> There are no accidents in life. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"><br><br>
As for the eye ointment, you will have to research the laws for your state. I think you can sign a waiver for anything, BUT they can also refuse to give you your baby too because *YOU* aren't doing what they feel is in the best interest of the baby. While you are in the hospital your baby belongs to the hospital!!!!<br>
Something to keep in mind. They can hold your child from you, take your child away from you, call CPS and take legal actions. Yes, you read that right. It is all legal. So when refusing treatments they can over ride you by threatening to take away your rights, your child, your life basically.<br><br>
As for the IV issue, you can have them put in a "hep-lock" which is the start of the iv without actually having fluids pumped into you letting you be more mobile.<br><br>
If it were me, I would be finding another way. Midwife home attended birth if you feel you still need assistance or start looking into unassisted birth more. Anything to keep that baby and you safe. You can't trust the medical profession to act in your best interest at all. They work for themselves and for the $$$s they get. They cover their butts even if it puts a mama at risk, so it is time to find a way to birth safely within your comfort zone. imho.
 

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I live in MA and refused the eye gunk for my last baby and just had to sign a form. HTH!
 

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I usually don't post in this forum as I had hospital deliveries, but the Massachusetts part caught my eye.<br><br>
I worked in a large Boston hospital as an OB RN: high risk antepartum/postpartum & level 1 nursery. We had moms with birth plans all the time. We had moms refuse stuff all the time (we has some pretty strange requests for stuff too but that's a different post).<br><br>
Moms labored without IVs if they wanted too. We routinely had moms decline vaccines, vit K, erythromycin eye oint, circumcisions. There was such a huge mix of patients in the city that it was impossible to have blanket rules regarding labor. Does your midwife have privileges somewhere less restrictive? If not and this particular hospital is your only option, you could consider a well versed letter to the chief of obstetrics detailing your conversation with the doc in question and outlining <b>your</b> plans for labor.<br><br>
I wish I had more advice but I've never worked anywhere that was so rigid. I wish you well.
 

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Why don't you just UC?<br><br>
Check out the resources here, Laura Shanley's site and book, Unassisted Homebirth: An Act of Love, Emergency Childbirth, etc.
 

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EEK you got a lot of good advice. I have birthed in MA and nothing I have wanted has been granted. The problem you are going to face is when you go into labor....who is on call? Unless you have a planned homebirth, you are stuck with whoever.
 
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