I'm sorry that your ped treated you like that. I don't think that's just 'how it is' when you go to the ped, he sounds like he has particularly awful social skills. I would definitely try to find a new doctor - trust your dd, especially if she's not like that with the eye doctor.
Really troubling Ped visit--what should I do?
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This is why I hate going to the pediatrician. Really. We don't vax and generally don't do well baby visits, but I wanted to have a ped just to answer questions and deal with the occasional things I don't know how to deal with.
Yesterday I took dd in because she had an accident this past weekend where she hit the bridge of her nose on a futon frame. I didn't think her nose was all that swollen (dh claimed to see swelling) but her eyes were especially puffy and her left eye watery. I called the ped and explained, and he wanted me to bring her in.
So I did, and they went through the weighing, temp, pulse-getting that dd HATES. It took the nurse a wrist, two fingers and a toe on my dd before she got a pulse. Then the doctor comes in with a woman I am assuming was an intern and asks me to tell him what happened. I explained to him about the fall and the watery eye and he mumbles something about pink eye.
I explained to him that the only part of her left eye that looks even mildly irritated is the site of her strabismus surgery 2 months ago. He says it is not unusual for only one side of the eye to be affected. Then he mentions that her eyes are puffy. I tell him that they are both often puffy and tell him that we have started on her dairy products over the last few months and that I worry that we may have done it too soon (I had suspected milk allergy) He immediately said "No, it's not that," and told the intern that he wanted to collect a urine sample for some scary sounding syndrome that he never tried to explain to me. All the while he is poking around dd's ears and body and she is clinging to me not wanting him anywhere near her. The Doctor turns to the intern and says gravely, "she has some anxiety issues."
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: I told him that she does fine at the eye doctor and that she is probably just not comfortable with all the touching. By the time he is done, he is "positive" that dd has pink eye.
Against my better judgment, I agree to let them put a little bag on dd's vagina to collect urine although I was pretty confident dd would not pee in that bag. And she didn't. She started ripping it off and then I thought, "this is ridiculous" and I helped her take it off and pull her diaper up. Then she peed
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Well the intern comes back and I tell her that dd would not pee in the bag and she's talking about "cathing" my baby, and I said no way. I asked her about the scary syndrome and she said that it is nephrotic syndrome. I know that has something to do with kidneys, and that terrified me so I looked up when I got home and I don't understand why the doctor would want to test my dd for something serious like that and not explain it to me. Is this just not good doctoring or is this what it means to go to the ped? I just feel so confused and I don't know whether to try to get the urine sample or find another ped who can deal with my dd's "anxiety issues" or what. The main reason I chose this guy is because he is cool with not vaxing and claims to be very ap (even though he told me that if I did not wean dd before giving birth In October she would be jealous of the baby and I would have a terrible time). Do I need to choose another ped or just get over it? DD has never really been sick but for a couple of colds, so I am not well versed in this whole taking the baby to the doctor thing. I just don't like that I still am upset over this visit, even after sleeping on it and talking to DH about it
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Any advice?
TIA,
naismama
Yesterday I took dd in because she had an accident this past weekend where she hit the bridge of her nose on a futon frame. I didn't think her nose was all that swollen (dh claimed to see swelling) but her eyes were especially puffy and her left eye watery. I called the ped and explained, and he wanted me to bring her in.
So I did, and they went through the weighing, temp, pulse-getting that dd HATES. It took the nurse a wrist, two fingers and a toe on my dd before she got a pulse. Then the doctor comes in with a woman I am assuming was an intern and asks me to tell him what happened. I explained to him about the fall and the watery eye and he mumbles something about pink eye.
I explained to him that the only part of her left eye that looks even mildly irritated is the site of her strabismus surgery 2 months ago. He says it is not unusual for only one side of the eye to be affected. Then he mentions that her eyes are puffy. I tell him that they are both often puffy and tell him that we have started on her dairy products over the last few months and that I worry that we may have done it too soon (I had suspected milk allergy) He immediately said "No, it's not that," and told the intern that he wanted to collect a urine sample for some scary sounding syndrome that he never tried to explain to me. All the while he is poking around dd's ears and body and she is clinging to me not wanting him anywhere near her. The Doctor turns to the intern and says gravely, "she has some anxiety issues."
Against my better judgment, I agree to let them put a little bag on dd's vagina to collect urine although I was pretty confident dd would not pee in that bag. And she didn't. She started ripping it off and then I thought, "this is ridiculous" and I helped her take it off and pull her diaper up. Then she peed
TIA,
naismama
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Actually, I liked the intern. She explained things better than the doctor did and was more understanding.
Originally Posted by quirkylayne I'm all for interns - people need to learn and have experience treating patients before becoming doctors. But if at any time I have a problem with an intern or nurse I request to not have them there or that they be replaced. They are not my medical provider and I can choose if I want them there or not. |
Ok, she got a bump on her nose. How does this relate to her KIDNEYS?
Find a new doc.
My 2 yo old ds has anxiety too- I started giving him some homeopathic remedies that have helped- I can't remember all of them off the top of my head (nak) but one is chamomile. You may want to explore this option as opposed to the crappy allopathic route..... and find a new ped
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Ruthla,
I think you are right about the intern being there. I totally felt as though the purpose of the visit was to teach her, not to diagnose my dd and give his attentions to us. I told my mom--a 26 year nurse and very mainstream--about the visit and her first reaction was "Sounds like he was showing out for the intern."
Thanks mamas so much for your support and advice. I am going to work on finding another ped. I'll try my tribal area, and I'll ask my midwife when I see her next week. Although, she did mention before that she loved this ped but cringed when I told her he had advised that I let my dd cry to get her off the breast because if I didn't she would be terribly jealous of the new baby and make things really difficult in our home. BTW, that was 4 months ago, and I am still nursing my dd
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Oh, and her eye stopped watering the next day. She has nothing that even REMOTELY looks like pinkeye.
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--naismama
Originally Posted by Ruthla IMO, the doctor was being unprofessional, and certainly had a poor bedside manner. I wonder if he would have ignored YOU less if the intern hadn't been shadowing him- she had his attention instead of you. If this doctor is normally a good doctor, but had one "off" day, then I'd suggest going back but requesting no interns during your visit. However, if this doctor always has this awful an attitude, then I think it's time for a new doctor. I'm not saying it's "bad" to have an intern there- just that sometimes having another person there changes the dynamics and can make communications worse. If you think that may have been the case this time around, then try without the intern. However, if you think the dr was just being disrespectful and it had nothing to do with the intern, then definitely find somebody who's gentler with DD. |
I think you are right about the intern being there. I totally felt as though the purpose of the visit was to teach her, not to diagnose my dd and give his attentions to us. I told my mom--a 26 year nurse and very mainstream--about the visit and her first reaction was "Sounds like he was showing out for the intern."
Thanks mamas so much for your support and advice. I am going to work on finding another ped. I'll try my tribal area, and I'll ask my midwife when I see her next week. Although, she did mention before that she loved this ped but cringed when I told her he had advised that I let my dd cry to get her off the breast because if I didn't she would be terribly jealous of the new baby and make things really difficult in our home. BTW, that was 4 months ago, and I am still nursing my dd
--naismama
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