[Sativarain1]

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[Sativarain1]

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[shantimama]

<p> Exactly. It is so unfair. <span><img alt="hug.gif" src="http://files.mothering.com/images/smilies/hug.gif"></span></p>

 

[Halfasianmomma]

<p>ah crud. The legal system really sucks sometimes. Ok, a lot of times.</p>

 

[~Charlie's~Angel~]

<p>OK, I may be REALLY underthinking this, but cant they put an ankel bracelet on him, release him for work, then when he comes back to jail, remove the anklet to be plugged in, put him IN THE CELL WHERE HE BELONGS, and then do it all over again the next day?  I mean I dont know anything about how any of that works, but seems like a sure fire way to keep his victims safe from is unpredictable rages if you ask me. </p>
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<p>What a crock. </p>
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[doubledutch]

<p>that is ridiculous.  i'm sorry - but i'm glad to hear your anger.  i hope that will help keep you safe.</p>

 

[zoeyzoo]

<p>:hug You've come so far in the last three weeks. I'm proud of you. I'm sorry to hear about this. Yes, the legal system sucks. I think most of us can post complaints about our abusive partners and charges or custody battles.</p>

 

[DeerMother]

<p><br><br>
This is a huge step for you. You're working through it. I know it is hard, but you are doing great in recovery so far.</p>
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<div class="quote-block">Originally Posted by <strong>Sativarain1</strong> <a href="/community/forum/thread/1279464/really#post_16046497"><img alt="View Post" class="inlineimg" src="/community/img/forum/go_quote.gif" style="border-bottom:0px solid;border-left:0px solid;border-top:0px solid;border-right:0px solid;"></a><br><br><p>another thing, his lawyer keeps talking about his 'livelihood'  well (abusive person)  didn't think of my livelihood when he abused me constantly or my children's livelihood watching their mother be abused. or my daughters fear of him because of his actions and scary behaviorl. He didn't care that I have nightmares and woke up crying sometimes, it would only piss him off to see that reaction... But his livelihood is worth so much? What about us and what we endured because of him?</p>
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[Sativarain1]

<p>Thanks. It's just really surprising they released him already.</p>

 

[*MamaJen*]

<p>That sucks that they're releasing him so early. But I'm so happy to hear you recognizing your right to be angry at him. That's so important.</p>

 

[shantimama]

<p>Yup.<br>
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<div class="quote-block">Originally Posted by <strong>~Charlie's~Angel~</strong> <a href="/community/forum/thread/1279464/really#post_16046793"><img alt="View Post" class="inlineimg" src="/community/img/forum/go_quote.gif" style="border:0px solid;"></a><br><br><p>OK, I may be REALLY underthinking this, but cant they put an ankel bracelet on him, release him for work, then when he comes back to jail, remove the anklet to be plugged in, put him IN THE CELL WHERE HE BELONGS, and then do it all over again the next day?  I mean I dont know anything about how any of that works, but seems like a sure fire way to keep his victims safe from is unpredictable rages if you ask me. </p>
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<p>What a crock. </p>
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[Theia]

<p>I agree with everyone else, it is really crappy that they let him out already.  But you are doing so well!  It is good that you are angry about what has been done to you and your DC, and that you are angry that he gets off easy without real consequences for his actions.  I'll pray for your safety and that he chooses to stay far away from you. <img alt="heartbeat.gif" src="http://files.mothering.com/images/smilies/heartbeat.gif"></p>

 

[Sativarain1]

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<p><span>Thank you all for support. I noticed all day I was more anxious, I didn't realize how safe I had been feeling these last 2 weeks. Anyway I am not angry at all, it's just that when his lawyer is going to talk about his well being. It seems fair that the judge should think of our's as well. I didn't even want him initally to go to jail over this, it's just that him being there I felt safer.<img alt="grouphug.gif" src="http://files.mothering.com/images/smilies/grouphug.gif" style="width:41px;height:25px;"></span></p>

 

[wytchywoman]

<p><span><img alt="hug.gif" src="http://files.mothering.com/images/smilies/hug.gif"></span> You have every right to be upset about this. Unfortunately this is a huge fault that exists in our legal system. More emphasis is placed on the rights of the defendant than on the rights of the victim. Are you in contact with your local victim witness agency? In most counties they are affiliated with the county attorneys office, but sometimes they can be stand alone private non-profit agencies. It would be a very very very good idea to get in touch with an advocate. Just like he has a voice in court (his attorney), having an advocate will give YOU a voice in court as well.  If you are having trouble locating the one for your county please PM me. I have worked in this field before and would be glad to help you find the agency you can call to ask for an advocate.</p>
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