[goylesgirl]

Dp has been having a really hard time lately, but so have I. I get zero support and zero communication from him. I can't say anything about it though because of his depression. He is on meds currently and seeing a therapist. The problem is I am really angry and resentful, so it is very hard to be supportive especially when he doesn't always "seem" depressed. As long as I don't say anything and he can do whatever he wants and everything is on his terms, he seems in a good mood, enjoying his hobbies and even socializing. Meanwhile I am trying to take care of the house (he freaks out if it is a mess, but does little to help clean) and 4 kids, one of whom is only 4 mo. I know depression is hard, but I sort of feel manipulated and taken advantage of.

 

[Lindy]

I can relate, but unfortunately I have no answers. Maybe find some female friends you can vent to. Good luck.

 

[To-Fu]

It sounds like you could really use some relief yourself. Have you thought about seeing a therapist as well?

 

[lovingkindness]

I, too, can relate.

I also second the idea of a therapist for yourself. It's nice to have that venting place and an objective opinion about the situation.

It's so hard to feel like you're taking care of EVERYONE, and unappreciated at the same time.

 

[GradysMom]

as someone who experiences depression, i would suggest you may be being taken advantage of... and that couple counseling may help.

Personally, when I have episodes I consider it my job to get righted again so that I can fullfill my commitments as parent and wife. Perhaps I am this way because my 63 yr old mother still thinks it is everyone elses job to manage her moods, tip toe, fix her life and simply cope with her "uncontrollable" outbursts.

Just a thought... maybe dp doesn't realize they are leaning on you way too hard to fix their life up..