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My 8 month old daughter has recently discoverd a love for snacks. In the last few weeks she has gotten 2 teeth and just learned how to chew and swallow solid food. She's also become a very fast crawler and developed quite a little temper (they sure change fast don't they?). She's constanly getting into things/trying to climb on things that arn't safe, and I've found the easiest way to redirect her w/out it causing a fit is to move her and give her a bite of food. I realised today that over the course of the day she is getting A LOT of snacks, probably more than she should be getting (she seems more interested in food now than <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/winner.jpg" style="border:0px solid;" title="BFSymbol"><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/greensad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="greensad"><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/greensad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="greensad"><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/greensad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="greensad"> ) My concern is that giving her food as a distraction could some how be bad for her development? I almost feel like I'm giving a dog a cookie or something, YKWIM? Maybe you don't <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"> I warned that this might be a ridiculious question. Anyway, I'd love to get some feedback on this, thanks.
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">I realised today that over the course of the day she is getting A LOT of snacks, probably more than she should be getting (she seems more interested in food now than <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/winner.jpg" style="border:0px solid;" title="BFSymbol"><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/greensad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="greensad"><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/greensad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="greensad"><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/greensad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="greensad"> ) My concern is that giving her food as a distraction could some how be bad for her development? I almost feel like I'm giving a dog a cookie or something, YKWIM? Maybe you don't <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"> I warned that this might be a ridiculious question. Anyway, I'd love to get some feedback on this, thanks.</div>
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If you're mama instincts alerted you to say this may not be the best idea...then you might want to look at some new options or some other things you can do as well.
 

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Why don't you distract her with nursing rather than food as such, but also you could distract with toys, playing with her etc. my dh is excellent at this sort of thing - I'm still learning from him<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/winky.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Wink">
 

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My instinct says that's not such a great idea. I don't think it would hurt to do it once in a while, when no other redirection works. But, food is *such* a psychologically complicated issue. Superficially, it should be no different than redirecting with a toy or anything else. But, food is... just different. I'm not positive it would make things difficult down the line, for her or for you, but I wouldn't be willing to mess with it. Let her body tell her when she's hungry, don't "tempt" her with food and mess with those signals.
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">My instinct says that's not such a great idea. I don't think it would hurt to do it once in a while, when no other redirection works. But, food is *such* a psychologically complicated issue. Superficially, it should be no different than redirecting with a toy or anything else. But, food is... just different. I'm not positive it would make things difficult down the line, for her or for you, but I wouldn't be willing to mess with it. Let her body tell her when she's hungry, don't "tempt" her with food and mess with those signals.</div>
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Thank you, you put my thoughts into words so well, I'm going to make a concious effort to use more toys/activites as redirection rather than food. I wish I could still use Bf'ing, but she won't go for it much any more <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/greensad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="greensad"> to many exciting things to see and crawl too.
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">Thank you, you put my thoughts into words so well, I'm going to make a concious effort to use more toys/activites as redirection rather than food. I wish I could still use Bf'ing, but she won't go for it much any more <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/greensad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="greensad"> to many exciting things to see and crawl too.</div>
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That probably had more to do with all the food. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/winky.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Wink">
 

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It's only a few short steps from that to distracting her from sad things with food... so I think your instincts about it being a bad precedent are good, mama. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile">
 

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hmm, so what about offering them some protein when they are really cranky as a way to stabalize them and help their bodies feel better? I will do that with my dd and I hope it's not messing with her hunger cues. any thoughts on that?
 

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i remember at 8 months dd was really excited about food and there was one time i was afraid she wasnt interested in nursing .... i did try and try to make sure she nursed enough (more skin contact, etc), even to limiting her solids and once had to pump to relieve engorgement - fortunately it lasted only a couple of days (how long they seemed!)<br><br>
i personally think if what you are offering is healthy food then it is completely reasonable that she is satisfied by it. i often find that when dd is easily frustrated ("cranky) it really means that she is hungry (Or sleepy. Or both.) and food is just what she needs.<br>
There are so many healthy treats for 8 month olds - puffed grains were a big hit at that time, i remember (arrowhead mills sells organic puffed whole grains without any sugar/salt). fruits, etc...<br><br>
as far as not messing with hunger cues, i was careful abou this too. rather than offering too profusely, one could casually get the snack out and put it nearby. dd would crawl across a room for rice puffs! we wondered if she was getting as much calories as she was using <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol">
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">hmm, so what about offering them some protein when they are really cranky as a way to stabalize them and help their bodies feel better? I will do that with my dd and I hope it's not messing with her hunger cues. any thoughts on that?</div>
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Well, I think there's a big difference between offering someone food because you think they may be hungry, and offering food just as a way of distracting. My DS is pretty vocal about telling me when he's hungry, but I remember there being a fairly long gray period where he definitely needed to be reminded to think of food (and sleep) because he would forget and start acting horribly. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile">
 

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as far as not messing with hunger cues, i was careful abou this too. rather than offering too profusely, one could casually get the snack out and put it nearby. dd would crawl across a room for rice puffs! we wondered if she was getting as much calories as she was using</td>
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Funny, that is exactly what we are giving her. Lots of banana and cooked veggies too, but she loves the rice puffs most of all.<br><br>
Unfortunatly she is now in the middle of some hardcore teething, and she is still not nursing well. She will refuse the boob but reach and claw for any food she sees or anything she thinks is food, I don't feel like I'm doing anything wrong by giving it to her. She will still nurse when she gets tired, or bored it seems, but I can't use the boobie as a magic cure for everything any more because she just refuses <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/greensad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="greensad"> Anyway this thread is getting a little OT, but I think I got what I needed out of it, thank you ladies!
 
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