It is easy to refuse the Vit K shot, just tell them and they have no legal mandate to make you give it to your child. Repeat your preference often and don't allow baby to be out of your room without your hubby there as well if you are still concerned.
However, the law is that there are no exceptions for the eyegoop so if they push it there is not much you can do. Sometimes hospitals push it and sometimes they don't, it seems to be hit or miss these days. However, I would certainly ask if you can skip or delay it if that is what you wish. It may work out just fine.