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Has anyone registered online, but not had anyone buy the gifts? At my bridal shower, we registered at a place 20min. away-very mainstream. We registered for stuff we <span style="text-decoration:underline;">really</span> wanted about 45min. away at a specialty home/cooking store. Only my maid-o-honor bought us something there-wedding included! I am planning to register for cloth diapers, slings ect. online, but I'm worried my low tech family/friends won't buy there, and I'll be stuck with tons of gift cards to Target, where I can't buy most of the things I need/want.
 

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Maybe you could send out a reminder about the online registry with the URL to it, and then request that instead of gift cards that you receive cash, and even if it might seem a bit weird to your family you would at least get the things you need instead of what they give just because they find it easier.
 

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This JUST happened to me. I registered online because we're kinda crunchy & didn't want a bunch of crap. My shower was just this past Saturday & I didn't get a single thing from my list. I ended up with a bunch of mainstream stuff (Disney princess books & several of the same things) I was just really appreciative that people were kind enough to have a Shower for me. Now...what to do with all this stuff?
 

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I've been worried about that happening. We registered at Babies R Us for some mainstream stuff (car seats, etc.) and at <a href="http://www.thethingsiwant.com" target="_blank">www.thethingsiwant.com</a> for everything else (slings, cloth diapers, etc.) and I REALLY want people to use the online registry!<br><br>
On the BRU registry there is a place for you to write an "intro" to everyone that views your registry either online or in the store. In that intro I mentioned that we have another fabulous online registry for more "unique" items like slings, cloth diapers, etc. and put the website address there. I was kinda surprized that BRU set me out a link to another registry in theirs... but maybe they just haven't noticed yet!<br><br>
I don't have any showers planned yet, but if they do hopefully I can emphasize to the host that the online registry is the most important one... yikes, all those cloth diapers look like they will add up! I also know that a lot of our friends and family are fairly internet saavy, so that could help.<br><br>
In the end I will be grateful for any gift we recieve... but it can't hurt to point them in the right direction!
 

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Lioneyes, I haven't actually gotten to the part yet where people start giving us gifts. I have already come to the conclusion, however, that I need to let go! We're going to receive things we like and things we don't. That's just the way it goes. If people are truly interested in what we want, they'll ask. I think you've gone above and beyond the call of duty by registering at 3 places. I could barely stand registering at babies r us and that was just online (and it was the pared down Canadian version too).<br><br><div style="margin:20px;margin-top:5px;">
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<div style="font-style:italic;">My shower was just this past Saturday & I didn't get a single thing from my list. I ended up with a bunch of mainstream stuff (Disney princess books & several of the same things) I was just really appreciative that people were kind enough to have a Shower for me. Now...what to do with all this stuff?</div>
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I have two suggestions.<br>
If you're short on cash, you could put them on consignment or sell them on eBay.<br>
Or, Give them to charity. There are so many women's shelters and similar charities out there, I know they'd just love to have some brand new stuff! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/thumb.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="thumbs up"><br><br><br>
I'm having tons of trouble with the whole shower/gift giving issue too. I live in Canada and all of my family and friends live in the US. (my mom wanted to have a shower without me present?? I put a stop to that...) Luckily, Babies R Us has a Canadian website but many places do not (like Target). I registered there but couldn't find much. Luckily they have bedrails. Most of the stuff we found was washcloths and hooded towels! Frankly, we're getting so much stuff for free or on loan that I don't think we'll need anything at all. But I understand that people want to be a part of the process and that buying for babies is fun.<br><br>
Let us know how your shower goes!
 

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Thanks for the replies ladies. While I totally appreciate any gift that someone thinks to get me, we are tight on money, and I want to get the things we <span style="text-decoration:underline;">need</span>, not just cute, useless things. I think selling some of the items on Ebay is a good idea. I have been to plenty of showers where mamas get the most horrendous outfits for baby. I can just sell them on Ebay, someone will want them! Then I can just buy something I need!
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">I've been worried about that happening. We registered at Babies R Us for some mainstream stuff (car seats, etc.) and at <a href="http://www.thethingsiwant.com" target="_blank">www.thethingsiwant.com</a> for everything else (slings, cloth diapers, etc.) and I REALLY want people to use the online registry!</div>
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We signed up on the thingsiwant site, too, for the same reasons. Cool site!
 

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Yikes. I think this is going to happen to me too. While it's comletely normal for people to buy stuff off a wedding registry, most people don't even think about a registry for a baby shower. It makes no sense to me, since married couples don't really NEED china and crystalware, but expecting couples really do need a lot of practical items.<br><br>
I guess the only thing you can hope for is that people leave price tags on things and that it's from a store where you can do an exchange. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/redface.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Embarrassment">
 

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My sister threw my shower and she included the links to my nurturemama.com and Babies R Us registries, so I did get some of the things I was really hoping for, including the Maya Wrap sling I wanted (Yay!)<br><br>
If you know where something was purchased, you can always return it for cash. Even though a lot of people got me things I didn't register for, they do know my taste so I didn't get anything necessarily tacky or useless, but I too lament that people ignore registries these days. I couldn't believe how much useless Mikasa crystal we got for our wedding when what we really needed were some pans and silverware!!!<br><br>
If you have a consignment shop nearby, that would be a good bet for getting some decent cash for those unwanted items.<br><br>
By the way, if you can sew or know anyone that can, I highly recommend making your own cloth diapers. My mother has been making me some All In Ones with the $10 Very Baby pattern and our total cost per new-born sized diaper is under $3.00. They cost $14.00 if you buy them already made online! Her willingness to do this for us is saving us LOTS of money. And, even used cloth diapers go for almost full price on eBay, for some reason.
 

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I spent some time on Target online, and was actually surprised by how much we *do* need that can be purchased there. Even though I will sling the baby, we still wanted a stroller if someone else will buy it, and then I registered for a baby carseat and a booster for toddlerhood. They have nice boppy pillows and basics like nasal aspirators, etc. I even registered for a breast pump, thinking no one would buy such a personal item, but I bet actually someone will. Then anything else we get I will return for store credit, because I can always use stuff from Target, and the store credit would be helpful just for day-to-day expenses. (I love Method cleaners and laundry detergent!)
 
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