[ladylove]

For you veteran co-sleepers out there...<br><br>
Do you think co-sleeping helps with the relationship/bonding between your children and their dad (or non-nursing partner)?<br><br>
I'm just thinking ahead a few years down the road. DS currently is in an arms reach co-sleeper, but I'm thinking about moving him into the bed when he is just a bit older so he can spend more time snuggling with his dad who works really long hours (and often weekends too). If DH isn't around as much as we would all like, then at least DS would know that his dad is there for him at night, KWIM?

 

[rmzbm]

Definately! All the kids are super bonded to DH and I do think cosleeping helped it.

 

[summerbabe]

YES!!! My DH also has a long day with a long commute. On work days, he only has 1-2 hours of awake time with the baby. Snuggling with him at night helps make up for that! My DH loves co-sleeping.

 

[Momma Aimee]

VERY MUCH SO -- very very vey veyr much so<br><br>
Dh is gone usally 6:30 to 6 pm.<br><br>
Now that DS is up and playing they play a lot. but when DS was tiny..... Dh would hold him each ngiht but really taht hour was all they got.<br><br>
DS has always co-splet, my decision that Dh accepted. well DH fell in love with being able to see DS at night, and when he wok up to watch DS sleeping on me before he left. and Sat and SUnday morning used to be -- and still are -- family cuddle time in bed.<br><br>
DH loves cuddling and playing peek a boo and so on. I remember when DS was just rolling over and how excited DH would be for him to roll over to him in the morning, and when DS got beign enough to crawl over to him and try to climb him -- DH was so intralled.<br><br>
it is their "quiet" time -- not running, not balls and so on,<br><br>
DS is JUST now starting to actually roll over to DH in his sleeop and cuddle and so on -- as we are exp[ecting again we encourage it a lot more, maybe that is it.<br><br>
but i totally feel they bonded more, faster and in a more quiet way with co-sleeping, it really drew DH in and made him less afraid of the baby. and it provided time to them together they would not have had otherwise.

 

[guest9921]

Absolutely.<br><br>
When DS was a wee-one, his favorite time was in the morning. When he woke up, and looked at us, he would just giggle and squeel, laugh and cuddle.<br><br>
It has solidified our family bond ten fold, and wouldn't change a thing for anything in the world.<br><br>
DH has become much more confident as a father, and far more patient/loving.

 

[Shaki]

Yep this is true for us too. DH sometimes doesn't get home before DD is asleep. But she gets lots of morning cuddle time with him. Plus she sometimes wakes in the night says "Daddy?" and snuggles up with him. I think it's been great for both of them!

 

[Momtwice]

This was true for us too!

 

[tatermom]

Us, too. DS loves sleeping between DH and me, and sometimes puts one hand on each of us and says "daddy, mommy, and [DS's name]". <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/love.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="love"> DS loves when DH is in bed with us and when DH gets up in the morning (he gets up a little earlier than we do) DS always notices right away and asks "where'd daddy go??". He loves his daddy, and I think he especially loves that we are all together as a family at night.

 

[cheygirl]

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OMG how sweet. That says it all.

 

[katt]

our babe is a lot younger then everyone else, 4 months, but I know that sleeping as a family is fabulous! DH will play with DS in the am and I can hear squeals and laughter from both of them, I love it and so do they. When DS is sleeping DH will sometimes just lay there and stare at him and love him, precious. Also, DS LOVES to watch DH get dressed in the morning and will just sit there and watch him, enthralled.<br><br>
DS also knows where daddy sleeps and tries to go over there, at first I thought he was after the bright quilt we have, but when I layed him on the quilt, he kept wanting to go to the lump... I think he thought that dad was hiding and he wanted to find him. who knows, either way, very sweet.