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Lately I have had SO many people say "Is he sleeping through the night yet?" that I swear if I hear it once more I'll scream!<br><br>
I was actually getting to a point where I felt a bit down. I felt like I'd "failed". That he "should be able to do it by now" (according to everyone else!) That I'd "spoiled him", "done it wrong" etc etc etc etc.....<br><br>
I was just reading a few of these threads to get some advice and I realised something.... I need to count my blessings and remember: there's always someone worse off than me....<br><br>
Around 9pm I start the bath&bed routine. After his bath, he gets a massage with baby oil, then he is dried and powdered and I put him in his jammies. He has his supper and falls asleep around 10/10:30. At 3-4:4:30 in the morning he will usually wake and need a feed. He will sleep till around6 or 7, sometimes as late as eight! SOMETIMES I am a naughty mummy and I stay in bed to give him his breakfast and we both fall asleep for another hr or so which kind of screws up our routine a little but its soooo nice and snuggly.<br><br>
Now someone beat me round the head with a stick, or send me a cyber hug or something... because actually, I have it easy don't I? And it doesn't MATTER that he wakes once at night in the great scheme of things. Sheesh. And I can just ignore all those know-it-all relatives and friends that think he should be sleeping through the night by now! Why does it matter so much to some people? Is it a bleeding CONTEST or something? It'll happen when it happens, isn;t that good enough for anyone? Sorry, rant over.
 

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Yes, you are very lucky he is only waking once/night!! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"><br><br>
Maybe you've already seen this, but this article really helped me when it seemed like everyone around me was talking about how to force a babe to sleep through the night. <a href="http://www.mothering.com/guest_editors/quiet_place/141.html" target="_blank">Sleeping With Your Baby</a>
 

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I hate that question "is your baby sleeping through the night?"<br><br>
In my mind, are there any babies that really sleep through the night? Even CIO babies don't sleep through the night, they just cry through the night while the parents are sleeping in another room. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/gloomy.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Gloomy">:<br><br>
DD#1 didn't sleep through the night until she was 22 months old, and then it was only because she was weaning due to my new pregnancy. But when she was an infant, I'd say dh and I got plenty of sleep, because even though she woke up at night to nurse, we'd sleep right through it.<br><br>
waking up once a night is not bad at all! my child did not do that for us until she was maybe 20 months old!
 

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if I had to guess, I'd say your baby is 4 months old! Thats when my ds was waking only once and I came here to boast about him sleeping soooooo well and predictably. He got over it pretty quickly <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"> He is now 13 months and for the last week has been waking like a newborn again to nurse because his molars are coming in.<br><br>
So, not to burst your bubble or anything, but..... This won't last! (most likely <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"> )
 

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You are correct about his age - he is just over 4mo. But he has woken a max of once a night since he was born. As a newborn he did stay awake for longer, until his days and nights got to be the right way round. We sorted that out in a few weeks. Then, when he was around nine weeks he slept through for a while.... now he is back to waking once a night again! I am not sure what has caused the regression, I wish I did because then possibly I could go back to those glorious unbroken nights again.... but c'est la vie.
 

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Yes, you are very lucky indeed that he is only waking once a night, and probably many people here now hate you. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/loveeyes.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Loveeyes">: <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/winky.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Wink"><br>
My ds1 was always a night-waker and a light sleeper - at 2.5 yrs he sleeps through on many nights now. But now I do get to be on the other side of the fence, with ds2 being more of a sleeper. He's never slept alll the way through, but has had phases of only 1-2 wakings. The teething (4,5,6+ months) can mess with the sleep though! But I hope your luck continues!!
 

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Pffffffft. Come sleep at my house for a night, and you'll know how lucky you are! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol">
 

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Um, yeah. Dd wakes 8 times a night. She is a wiggly sleeper and needs constant reassurance throughout the night. She may only nurse once or twice, but she's awake plenty. We're working on it... <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"> Oh, and did I mention at 2 months she was sleeping 7 hour stretches?
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">if I had to guess, I'd say your baby is 4 months old! Thats when my ds was waking only once and I came here to boast about him sleeping soooooo well and predictably. He got over it pretty quickly <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"> He is now 13 months and for the last week has been waking like a newborn again to nurse because his molars are coming in.<br><br>
So, not to burst your bubble or anything, but..... This won't last! (most likely <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"> )</div>
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<br><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"> Same thing here. I remember lurking on this board and being so horrified by the sleep stories. MY baby did so well! Went to sleep.. slept 5/6 hours.. nursed.. slept another couple..<br><br>
Then it all fell apart and he woke about 6 times a night until he was a year old.<br><br>
OP - you're doing great. Soon it's likely that your DS' bedtime will shift earlier to around 7 or so. Your goal is 14-16 hours sleep in any 24 hours (from 'sleepless in america' and my own experience too).
 

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I'm so tired of people asking if my 5 month old is sleeping through the night that I actually bought a t-shirt that says 'NOT Sleeping Through The Night'. Now people look at me shocked that a 5 month old would dare to wake up hungry in the middle of the night and even more shocked when I tell them I'm nursing him and I go to him if he wakes up once or a dozen times! I live in the retirement capital of Canada so all the elderly woman think I am crazy for not only going to him at night but also breast feeding! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol">
 

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I'll trade!!! You are very lucky. I would love to get that much sleep. It sounds very UNBROKEN up sleep if you ask a mama who only gets to sleep in 1-2hr stretches.
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">now he is back to waking once a night again! I am not sure what has caused the regression, I wish I did because then possibly I could go back to those glorious unbroken nights again</div>
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There's a notorious sleep regression at 4 months. I remember thinking that I had caused it, until I read these:<br><a href="http://www.kellymom.com/parenting/sleep/4mo-sleep.html" target="_blank">Wakeful 4 Month Olds</a><br><a href="http://moxie.blogs.com/askmoxie/2006/02/qa_what_are_sle.html" target="_blank">What are Sleep Regressions Anyway</a>
 

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Wakes ONCE a night, I wish!! Lucky woman, enjoy it while you can.<br><br>
DD slept like that at that age too. Now I'm lucky to get 2.5 hrs at a time. We cosleep but she is very rambunctious when she wakes to eat so I don't sleep through it. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/greensad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="greensad"><br><br>
I did meet a bf mom whose 12 wk old sleeps 14 hrs at night. I wanted to hate her until she told me he doesn't nap well and her 3 yo still wakes multiple times.<br><br>
When people ask if DD SSTN (especially at that age) I laugh and say No (like of course not and regard them like they have 3 heads <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"> ) and mention that it's common for bf babies. They seemed to ask more at that age. But really, why do they want to know? My family said bc they were concerned about me. Nobody was concerned about how much sleep I was getting when I was a stressed out insomniac workaholic. At least now I can nap (I only have 1 child).
 

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I wish!! My 9 month old still wakes at night and feeds since he is beside me in bed. I'm trying to move him to a crib so that perhaps he'll start to sleep thru.
 
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