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My dd has reflux, and every time we see a GI doctor, I leave feeling like a bad mother. She's not gaining weight well, and they're varying degrees of appalled that she's still nursing, or still nursing a lot. They also think that it's impossible to consider how the reflux is affecting her nightwaking since she "probably only wakes up because she wants to nurse." If anybody else were posting this, I'd be all over it, verifying that EBF is a great thing to do for a child, and that it is NOT going to negatively affect weight gain, etc. But somehow these doctors' appointments leave me flailing and upset, feeling like I'm a bad mom.<br><br>
My baby is nursing constantly around the clock, too. She's teething. I'm tired from that (although it's a phase), but it really rubbed it in the doctor's face-- she latched on six or seven times while we were there. She was probably anxious, too, though. We were there for over an hour, and he never said a single word to her, even when he examined her! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/yikes.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="EEK!"><br><br>
I feel icky. I need a pep talk.
 

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How could you wean her at a moment when she isn't gaining weight? Nursing is like nutritional insurance--you know she will eat and that it's good food for her.<br><br>
Plus it's comforting for her and you are worried about her being in pain.<br><br>
Maybe you need a more compassionate doctor. I live near you, I'll ask around.
 

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The doctor didn't even speak to her!?! That is horrible. What kind of bedside manner? Relax, you definitely care about her WAY more than that so called pediatrician does. ((Hugs)) You are doing a good thing. Don't doubt it for a minute.
 

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you are doing great. bm is THE best stuff out there!<br><br>
that doctor should be fired imho! there are much better ones out there from the sound of his bedside manner.<br><br>
if you are at all interested in alt therapy for reflux you should check out bowen therapy, it works great for reflux<br><a href="http://www.bowtech.com" target="_blank">www.bowtech.com</a>
 

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I would have thought the same, that the fact she is still nursing is good. You'd think GI doctors would comprehend that! It's probably just they've never seen an almost 18 mo baby still nursing - I mean how often would they come across one? Sorry you are the one to educate them.<br><br>
My 8 mo dd is teething now and she's really stepped up her nursing too. Cause she's getting older, the bottle feeding ILs expect that she'll be nursing less. But she's nursing more cause of the teething. She gets upset and irritable easily and wants to nurse. Some people just don't understand the comfort babies get from BF. I find it really weird that they don't see it as a good thing.<br><br>
Anyway we all know what a great thing you're doing. And I'm sure your dd does too <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile">
 

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I just had to post to this. I EBF my DS with reflux until he was 2.5. He was a very frequent nurser (my LLL friends and I used to say that he only nursed once a day- for 24 hours, lol!). At 2 yo, he nursed as much, if not more, than a newborn. The BM was so soothing for his poor esophagus.<br><br>
If your DD isn't eating much food, chances are weaning her won't help with that. BM is the best food for her b/c it is not only the most nutrition-packed food available but also a wonderfully soothing drink to help ease her discomfort.<br><br>
As for nightwaking- DS's would increase substantially when his reflux flared. And teething will make it flare like crazy! The saliva of a teething baby is so acidic that it just makes reflux kids feel so much worse. What better way to help them feel better than nursing? Lots of cuddles and nice, soothing milk <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"><br><br>
You are doing the best thing for your DD, don't worry! I know it's hard to feel that way when you walk into such a medicalized area- they want everything measured and accounted for. Too bad they don't take the emotional benefit of nursing into account (never mind the physical benefit that they are also ignoring).<br><br>
Take care and keep up the good work!<br><br>
Daniele<br>
Mom to Carla (May 9, 1998), Jacob ~my reflux babe~ (Feb 3, 2000) and Aaron (Feb 28, 2003)
 
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