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sorry bout that <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/shy.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="innocent">
 

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You shouldn't tease us like that. We want something juicy!! C'mon, woman, tell us something exciting! You can't just leave us hanging!!<br><br><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/ROTFLMAO.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="rotflmao">
 

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sorry - i removed it myself right after posting it. i was being superstitious. since y'all want to know i guess it is a sign for me to put it back up.<br><br>
basically i am wondering how you manage your "fears" and intuitions that something bad might befall your child. sometimes i feel like something horrible is going to happen (hence why i removed the first post - freaking out that by writing it i would cause it) then other times i feel like i am just being a mom and going through those emotions because they are natural. they are of course everyone's worse fear and why they come up from time to time.<br><br>
i guess it is a two part question. one - how do you manage those emotions when they come up. and two - what helps you discern between what is an intuition and what is just general anxiety.
 

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Darn girl, you killed the thread when you actually made it <b>about</b> something. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/ROTFLMAO.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="rotflmao"><br><br>
I don't discern between anxiety and intuition because I don't believe I have any natural intuition. Sometimes people think I <b>should</b> be worried about something I'm not, but then I worry a lot about things beyond my control. Worry is the wrong word--I have read Gavin deBecker, so I know what he says about engaging in needless worry. In some ways, that is what has made me less vigilant in some areas; I don't think there is a true concern. But then the way other people look at me, I start to wonder.<br><br>
One of the things I do is acknowledge my fears openly, which I think helps. Like when my baby is napping for a long time in another room, or even in the sling, and people comment on it, I might say, "Yeah, she's really sleeping well--either that or she's dead." People get so upset when I say this. One person just said, "Well, let's hope she's sleeping" with a laugh, but I've gotten the shocked, "Amy, why would you say such a thing!?" comments as well. I have a fear of her going to sleep and never waking up, and when she sleeps for a long time, both my husband and I start to worry she might have died. I say it out loud almost to make it not true, as if somehow I when I expect bad things to happen, they won't actually happen. But also, when I make such a comment, it prompts me to go up and check on her.
 

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I was told when I was pregnant that one thing is that "your heart is on the outside of your body" after you have your children.<br><br>
I don't think we will ever escape these fears. I always run things through my mind and they freak me out. When dh or any of my siblings take them some where I am always pacing. One of the big reasons I have so-slept was the fear of them not waking up. My youngest dd won't co-sleep with us so I am constantly checking on her even if it wakes her up sometimes.<br><br>
No advice, just know how you feel. I will be reading the answers to your questions for sure.<br><br>
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<div style="font-style:italic;">Darn girl, you killed the thread when you actually made it <b>about</b> something. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/ROTFLMAO.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="rotflmao"></div>
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:LOL<br><br>
I do the same thing, Amy, about making jokes. When C. was first born people would ask me how he was and I'd say, "Well, he's still alive!" Which actually did seem amazing to me, given how much I worried about SIDS, is he eating enough, etc. plus he was so tiny and helpless! It truly DID seem incredible to me that despite having clueless old me as a mom, he was still alive! :LOL But that response definitely seemed to make people uncomfortable.<br><br>
I look at older kids, like 8 or 10, out riding their bikes around the neighborhood or whatever, and it's hard for me to imagine getting to a point where C. is out in the world, all by himself, where there are drunk drivers and child abductors and undercurrents and mad dogs and poisonous snakes and meteors... *shudder* I try not to think about it, not because I'm superstitious but because I don't need that kind of stress and worry in my life.
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">I was told when I was pregnant that one thing is that "your heart is on the outside of your body" after you have your children.<br>
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Ain't it the truth!
 
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