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Just 2 short years ago I was posting on here about how to get DH on board with homeschooling. He was TOTALLY AGAINST it. It was the first real issue we ever disagreed on in regards to our kids and it got pretty terrible-he wouldn't compromise or read anything about hsing at all. it finally came down to me just putting my foot down and my son did not get on the bus for the 1st day of 1st grade. Not a great way to do it but it's what it took for our family.<br><br>
Wellll.....fast forward to the present and he is totally on board and supportive. He even understands about making everyday things into learning opportunities such as reading recipes or instructions with our 8 yr old to counting and encouraging basic addition with my 5 yr old.<br>
He had them helping today with lunch and talking about the recipes, measuring, and timing.<br><br>
Then he was reading an article to my son about a 9ft long wild pig (yes, really) and had him get the tape measurer to see how big that was and comparing to other things.<br><br>
This was not an automatic thing for him. He really had to see for himself how much they were learning just by asking questions. I started being a little sly about it and engaging the kids in question/answer discussions or having them read instructions, etc. when he was around and he picked up on it after a few months.<br><br>
I loved watching these interactions now <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"><br><br>
We'll be moving this fall and I smile each time he says "well, since we're homeschooling we can live in the country and not worry about the schools and buses." <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/loveeyes.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Loveeyes">:<br><br>
So don't give up if your DH isn't supportive yet! I couldn't get my DH to read books or articles, it just took TIME and him seeing the kids learning. He had to see how much less stress we had dealing with school schedules and he realized that our kids had a much better chance of learning our values when with us vs school peers/teachers.<br><br>
Just wanted to share <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/wink1.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="wink1">
 

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Thank you! My super-resistant dh has reluctantly agreed that "for the time being" hsing is the thing to do. He's coming around, but still has reservations. Good to know that there's hope for the future. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/winky.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Wink">
 

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i'm so glad!<br><br>
my hubby wasn't crazy about the idea either - i met him when i had 2 kids from a previous marriage and was already homeschooling (we have 2 together) but he is coming around from when we first met <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"> . he can really see the difference the way we have been raising the kids (AP) has made in who they are becoming so he is definitely more supportive now.
 

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I'm glad to see this too. My dh has agreed to HS for K this year for our twin boys, but it has taken a lot of work to get this far, and he has stated that his comfort level with HS at this point does not extend much past first grade. This is influencing how I will HS them - I will take a much more structured approach than I am inclined to because I know that's what he would prefer. And since I'm not so structured, it will probably help me to be more organized, i.e., I welcome his injection of formality since this will be a joint effort. He is very interested in helping as well. Only one more week of preschool, and then it's all us. Scary but exciting!
 

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The same thing happened with my DH too. When I brought up the idea of HSing, he was totally against it and would not compromise at all. I was pretty upset about it, BUT I planted some seeds. When he complained about the, "lack" of socialization of HS kids, I mentioned the negative and unnatural socialization of PS, etc.. However, the good thing is that he actually started to pay attn to the PS kids in our community and noticing negative socialization that they displayed that he had never thought about before.<br><br>
I basically left him alone and did not mention HSing to him. However, there were times he'd say stuff like, "it's too bad that when the kids are actually old enough to enjoy some of these spur of the moment day trips that we take, that they will be stuck in school." I would say, "weeeell, you know, if we HS, that would be a non-issue." He'd complain about how crowded the zoo or science center were on the wknds. I would say, "weeeell, if we HS, we can visit during the wkday when the facility is quiet and slow." Then it helped that he told ppl, "well, my wife thinks we should HS." I think he expected these other guys to say, "oh, she is nuts." However, almost all of these guys said, "oh, that is great, I wish we had HS'd our kids, blah, blah, blah." It really made my DH think about his over-glorification of school and realize that HSing would be a great fit for our family.<br><br>
Now, he goes around telling ppl we are going to HS and all the positive things associated with it. I'm actually glad that I did not have to debate with him to convince him why we should HS. It was good that he came around on his own time and that we are now on the same page.
 
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