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<p>I've recently decided to selectively vax DD and the nurse at our daycare said she would help with the religious exemption form when the time came. I've read all that is required from the health department and will write a letter stating our religious exemption, however today the nurse said she has reviewed DD's health/vaccine record with the health department and the only way I can get a religious exemption is if I have a letter from our religious group. I told her we are flying back to our home state this month and we will discuss it with someone in my husband's church (Catholic). The nurse then told me that the only one is Scientology and good luck with getting it. I'm fuming right now. I gave the daycare DD's records for their use, not to share and discuss with the health department.</p>
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<p>First of all, can they share the records with the health department? Secondly, I thought that all I needed was a note from me stating it's against our religious beliefs and what church/affiliation/cult or whatever should NOT matter!</p>
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<p>Please help me figure out this situation. I'm not from this state and don't know all the rules 100%. DH is military and we will only be here until the end of spring, but I work and go to school and DD has to be in daycare.</p>
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<p>Also, the only vax DD hasn't gotten is chicken pox and I'm pregnant. I'm not comfortable exposing her at this time to the virus (naturally or chemically). It posses health risks to me. The last time she was vaxed she had MMR and something else (can't remember right now) and she reacted with a fever and got white bumps all over her leg she was injected in. We didn't take her to the pedi because it happened on the weekend and cleared by Monday morning so we don't have her reaction on file.</p>
 

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<p>A religious exemption does NOT have to be from a "recognized" church.  A friend of mine simply put "The Church of Mom" down as her religion.  Her kids are in the Newport school system.  Another friend just had her doctor write something up that said, "Discussed vaccination, decided against it" and that counted for medical in Lincoln.</p>
 

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<p>I know the religion does not have to be recognized, but the nurse at the daycare said the health department told her they will not accept an exemption form unless I have something from the "church."</p>
 

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<div class="quote-block">Originally Posted by <strong>mrsberman</strong> <a href="/community/forum/thread/1282835/ri-religious-exemption-help#post_16085546"><img alt="View Post" class="inlineimg" src="/community/img/forum/go_quote.gif" style="border:0px solid;"></a><br><br><p>I know the religion does not have to be recognized, but the nurse at the daycare said the health department told her they will not accept an exemption form unless I have something from the "church."</p>
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<br><br><p>Well, if you're the Church of Mom, I would suppose that you, as supreme leader and priestess extraordinaire, should be able to write up something saying it's against your religion.  It frustrates me that she said "the only one is Scientology", because that's simply not in line with the law.</p>
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<p>Do you have a friendly pediatrician?  They may write something up for you for medical.  Mine did (I'm immune compromised, so we are skipping some vaccinations).  All her letter said was simply that DS has a medical exemption; no additional "proof" was needed beyond her word.</p>
 

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<p>Our pedi is at the Naval Clinic and he ripped me a new one when I said I didn't want the CP vax. Pretty much told me DD could die from CP and a load of other crap that I think he either made up or is misinformed on. We're going to switch our insurance to one that covers civilians, but with school, finals, holidays etc we most likely won't have everything completed in time. I see how the Church of  Mom thing would work, but I thought they weren't even supposed to ask for that sort of information. I even said that to the nurse and that's when the Scientology comment came about.</p>
 

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<p>I live in Rhode Island. My kids are fully vaxed, but you could try using the same thing I say to the school department when they are ridiculous with their demands regarding homeschoolers.</p>
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<p>"Please show me the law which states ________, and I will be happy to comply."</p>
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<p>The <a href="http://www.health.ri.gov/requirements/SummaryDaycarePreschoolAndSchoolAndRecommendationsForGrantingExemptions.pdf" target="_blank">RI Dept of Health</a> has a whole section on this, along with a sample of the form used for religious exemption (updated April 2010). Nowhere does it say your church leader has to sign anything. It only says the parent has to sign. It sounds like the nurse is ill informed or is projecting her own opinions into your issue.</p>
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<p>Is this a civilian daycare, or is it on the base? Might make a difference, although I doubt it.</p>
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<p>I would, however, not use the Church of Mom line again. I am 100% not religious and am actually sort of offended by religious exemptions, but using a religious exemption when it doesn't truly apply to you is unethical IMO. I could have lied and gotten a religious exemption in order to homeschool more easily when we were stationed in Virginia, but I think that sort of thing does a disservice to those who really qualify for those exemptions.</p>
 

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<p>This is Kindercare. I've read the Health Department's website but they are telling me differently. I think the nurse might be confused or the woman at the Health Department is.</p>
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<p>I see nothing wrong with using a religious exemption. It all depends on how you interpret it. If RI allowed for philosophical exemptions, parents wouldn't be forced to use these measures to choose how they want their children to receive their immunities. I prefer to get them naturally if possible. If not, then I'll cross that bridge when it comes to it.</p>
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<p>My big issue is exposing her to chicken pox when it could be dangerous to me with my pregnancy. They can't guarantee she won't get it from the vaccine.</p>
 

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<p>You (or someone you know) can get ordained as a minister for free...google "become a minister."  I've seen Universal Life Church (ulc.net) referred to quite a bit on here.  Hope you get it worked out!</p>
 
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