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So many resources say how important it is to get babies on a consistent schedule. They make statements about how difficult it is for babies unless they sleep/eat at the same time everyday. Personally, I don't do well on a structured schedule. Something always interferes and I just like being flexible with my schedule (the reason I make a TERRIBLE employee).<br><br>
Does anyone have any experience with a flexible routine? I prefer to feed the twins when they are hungry and help them sleep when they are sleepy, etc...<br><br>
Sometimes it makes for less me time as one baby will be up (inevitably my daughter who doesn't like to sleep) while the other sleeps contentedly...then they switch. This is more inconvenient than anything else. I actually like the alone time with each baby. When they are both up I feel like one always gets the short end of the deal.<br><br>
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Oh man, all the twin mommies I've met (outside of MDC and my BF) are obsessed with routine and schedule. "You can't raise twins without a schedule! You'll die! They'll never sleep!" Oy vey. I'm sure it's easier to some extent if you stick to some schedule, but I've never been able to do it very well, especially when they were little.<br><br>
I did find that once they were eating solids full time, we fell into a general routine, because we'd eat meals around the same time each day (+/- 30 minutes or so) and then the naps would fall in around that. But if something came up that was fun or important, we'd just work it out as we went along.<br><br>
These days they actually seem more routine than they ever were before, but I still can move their nap around if necessary. Bedtime is usually the same but not always, and no one has died yet for lack of a solid schedule. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"><br><br>
Just do what works for you guys. For me, I actually do get frustrated if one naps and the other does not, but maybe it's because they are pretty well in synch and nap together 99% of the time, so the days they do not feel very weird to me. But if you are OK with it, just go with it - you'll all be happy if mama's happy. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile">
 

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I am not a "scheduling" person either, I hated the fact when DD was born my Dr was telling me I had to feed her every 2 hours and wake her if necessary. I just didn't get it, I am from the school of never wake a sleeping baby, not wake the baby and force her to eat, plus I did try for a day or so and it never worked. Fast forward to today my DD is 18 months and we do have a little bit of routine, but it's just because I am home and we do the same things every day, but not at the exact same time every day. I go with the flow, yesterday she didn't nap except for 5 minutes in the car and she fell asleep eating dinner. We don't do nightly bath-time because DD hates baths and has extremely dry skin if she over bathes. My friend one the other hand is a complete control freak with schedule, nap at this time, eat at this time, blah, blah, blah....So we rarely hang out because it will disrupt her son's life. I can understand some routine, but so many people go completely overboard, measuring ounces of food, when to eat, everything must be done at this time all the time, I like flexibility.
 

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This is exactly where I am at. We have approximate times that things happen. They are both so young yet, I am sure it will become more routine as we add regular meals and such. I just think life is so much better when you can go with the flow. I don't want to be a person that says, we can't do that because it will disrupt their schedule.<br><br>
Thank you for validating my thoughts on this and giving me support around doing what makes us happy and not what "we are supposed to do."<br><br>
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Just be warned that for the majority of kids, once they're toddlers and down to one nap, you'll be forced into being that person. Toddlers are SO routine driven it's not funny. Most people have a body clock that makes them tired at the same time each day. And believe me, that can work to your advantage when trying to get them to sleep!<br><br>
I think that's what the mad schedulers are confused about - older kids like routines, babies like to be fed when they're hungry and put to sleep when they're tired.<br><br>
One thing I have seen twin mothers do that makes life easier is to feed both babies when one gets hungry overnight (if they'll eat then). That will give you a bit more sleep, hopefully.
 

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We don't have a schedule per se, but DS usually goes down for his morning nap around the same time (9:30-10am), wakes himself up around noon just when I am walking in the door from work (!!) for lunch and then goes back down for hsi second nap around 2. I do try to put him down to sleep at the same time every night because it seems to make a difference in his "up" time in the morning. On Wednesdays, we throw his daytime "schedule" at the window because we take him to storytime at the local library...so we entertain him until storytime and then he goes down for his first nap afterwards and the rest of the day shifts a little later. He's actually a pretty flexible little kid.<br><br>
That being said...I sometimes use his "schedule" as a defensive weapon if the in-laws are proposing something that sounds exhausting and silly like lunch in a "nice" restaurant. Really?!? With my 6mos old?!?! Why can't they pick up bagels and come to my house...
 

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I'd say we have a "plan" when ever dd wakes up she wakes up, then she eats then she plays. If she's showing signs of being tired I lay her down and she naps (or I hold her) and that continues for 12 hours until its bed time. which varies based on her last nap and what time she got up. One day when she's an adult she'll have to get up at the same time everyday and have responsibilites and right now I just want her to have the freedom to sleep longer in the morning or go to bed later. She is only 5 months old <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"> On top of that, putting an exact schedule into place would make me want to run away. I am SO not a schedule person. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile">
 

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I think routines are a bad thing in most cases.<br>
I look at my sisters who have a strict routine and are not able to be spontaneous or if anything intereferes with their routine- especially nap or bed time- then the kids are complete wrecks. Where is the fun in that?<br>
They may tsk tsk me and dd eating when we are hungry and sleeping when we are tired, but at least we have the freedom of flexibility, and we don't fall to peices when something changes. Unless of course we are hungry, then we are both very grumpy people.
 

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<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/winky.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Wink"> I totally do that, to get out of doing things that just aren't appealing or baby friendly<br><br>
Before my twins were born I decided not to impose a schedule on them, for the same reason you don't, so I could get to know them as individuals. They nurse on demand and sleep when tired and have done so from the start. Funny thing is that they ended up being on the same "schedule". They get hungry and tired at the same time, and have since they were just a few weeks old. I do night nurse on demand as well, and that varies. DD is so busy during the day she will only nurse for a short time and then get distracted, so she nurses a lot at night.<br><br>
At 9 months, it's rare for one to be awake while the other is sleeping, it happens a couple of times a week, and I really do enjoy the one on one time that allows us.
 

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I haven't had twins and I'm sure that's a whole other issue! We've never done a schedule but as my first got older I found that a flexible routine worked for us. We tried to go for naps and bedtime at around the same time everyday. Obviously there were days when things came up but it gave me a sense of direction for my days.
 

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we have aroutine. Pm me if you'd like. I do not hav etwins but from 3 monthson I did in home daycare so 40 hours a week it was like I had twins. Nighttime wise I cannot help a ton except for what we did.
 
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