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<p>I noticed a few people in the other thread talking about how great both their parents are. So why not give dad's their day in the sun too?</p>
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<p>My dad was and still is awesome. We had a bit of a strange dynamic admittedly, in some ways it was very much father/son, in others it was more like best friends. By the time I was about 14/15 years old, he trusted me to make my own choices and really only offered his own point of view. When he found out about DH and I there was absolutely no adjustment period, he just accepted that I was in love with another man and welcomed DH and DD with open arms. And when I did have issues that I was unwilling to discuss and were causing me problems, he did everything in his power to help me without violating my privacy to find out what was causing it (eventually he learned that his brother had sexually abused me, and he made sure that everything in regards to that was addressed).</p>
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<p>He's not perfect, but he's the best dad I could ever want, and not to sound corny but if I am half the parent he was (and is) then I'll know I did a damn fine job of it.</p>
 
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<p>I like this thread!</p>
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<p>My dad is a strong yet sensitive, loving person. He has been a great father to me, a wonderful partner to my mother and an amazing grandfather to DS. Of course, it hasn't been rosy the whole time (very protective father + teenage girl = WWIII) but he was always there when I needed him and stood by my side as I made the mistake of marrying my first husband. He was also there to help me pick up the pieces when it ended. I am like him in so many ways...even though I was in denial for many years. I even ended up with a man with a lot of the same qualities as my dad, and I couldn't be happier.</p>
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<p>Hooray for dads!</p>
 

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My dad is so great for so many reasons. He's one of those people who just goes out of his way to be supportive and helpful. He's one of the few unconditionally loving people I've ever known. He was a big ol' jock of a guy who never had a son... And did such a wonderful job raising his three daughters. He managed to strike the right balance between rough and delicate... He wrestled with us and played Barbies with us.<br><br>
Also, a great cook :).
 
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<p>in our family the roles was reversed. it was my father who was the nurturing 'motherly' figure and my mom the opposite. my dad couldnt wait to come home from work and no matter what kind of day he had - they were LOOOOOOOOOONG the moment he walked in teh door my mom was free. he was the one that gave us our bath, told stories, helped with hw, did all PTA conferences.</p>
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<p>my dad and i were similar in personality so we were very very close. dad and i could sit for hours and talk our time away. when i went to college he read up my geog text books so he'd know what i was stuying. as i grew up he started asking me more and more for my viewpoints.</p>
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<p>he was extremely cautious parent. used to get sooo mad with me giving me the silent treatment when i disobeyed him in my teens. i kinda ignored it. he was our nurse taking care of us when we were ill when he was home.</p>
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<p>no one loved me as unconditionally like my dad did. no one i feel can ever love me as my dad did. he was soooo proud of me. i feel honoured and priviledged that i was able to nurse him in his last days of his life. we were the closest during the last few days of his life. the way he called my name - nothing has been heartwrenching than that.</p>
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<p>he was a conservative, strict parent who sometimes spanked us. yet i knew he would do his utmost to take care of us - even from himself if necessary.</p>
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<p>i sooo miss my dad. no one deeply cared about me like my dad did.  </p>
 
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<p>My Dad was great also.  He died in 1996, but there were a lot of really cool things about him.  Some of the things that I think that were great about my dad really wouldn't translate in this day and age, but he was ahead of his time in some ways.</p>
 

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<p>My dad ROCKS!</p>
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<p>He's 85 years old; he was 53 when I was born. He's a WWII vet, and has had a huge variety of careers throughout his life, as well as owning many different kinds of businesses, all of which were successful (and one of which actually made him quite wealthy). He served our country on an aircraft carrier in the Pacific, became a barber, a police officer, a taxi cab driver, an armed security guard, a farmer, and owned businesses including a convenience store, a liquor store, a pawn shop, two hotels, an arcade/used book store, a car dealership, a taxi cab company, and I forget what else. By the time he was 7 or 8 years old, he was making more money than his own father by working as a mini-businessman, and wise enough to help his family by providing goods (groceries, etc.) rather than cash, because he knew his own father would drink up any money he gave to the family.</p>
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<p>I have many, many fond memories of spending time with him as I grew up, mostly time we spent working together, but also things like falling asleep sitting on his lap when I was 3 or so every night (we're both nightowls.. my mom would sometimes find us in the morning, curled up together and sleeping after we'd watched late night reruns of Star Trek, Bonanza, and other old shows). My dad taught me to hunt, to fish, to forage for wild mushrooms and edible plants, to protect myself, to perform maintenance on a home, to swim, to spot a swindler or dishonest person, to handle my money, and many, many other valuable life lessons. And he always made it fun.</p>
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<p>I greatly admire my father's intelligence, which doesn't take the form of "book learning" at all, but he has this incredible ability to see an abandoned building and immediately visualize how it could be turned into a profitable business with very little investment. I only wish I could do that!</p>
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<p>He has his quirks, some of which I share -- like his sensitivity about feeling rejected, need for reassurance from loved ones, and dislike of being alone. He's also crude as hell and I know far more about my parents' sex life than I ever wanted to, LOL! He's also often unwise (in my opinion) about spending on large items like property and cars, but eh.. it's his money and he can do with it as he sees fit, so long as my mom doesn't mind, and especially considering his age. Despite his emotional sensitivity and fear of rejection, he is an incredibly strong man. He has suffered with severe, extremely painful spinal arthritis for many years, yet he manages to live a full life and is very much capable of taking care of himself.</p>
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<p>He's been married to my mother for more than 40 years (she's 25 years his junior and disabled with cerebral palsy) yet he still loves her fiercely (and she him); it's a joy to see how they take care of each other, almost never argue, and still hold hands and pause to hug occasionally while they walk together through the grocery store. They never, ever go anywhere without each other... not even to run a quick errand, and they are always sitting close together at home, though often doing their own thing (Dad watching TV or reading, Mom surfing the web on her laptop). My relationship with DH is similar and I only hope that it remains that way over the next 33 years.</p>
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<p>Dad showed me everything a husband and father could be. I only wish he was younger and in better health, since I know that at 85 years old, our remaining time together has begun to run short, and already I see the way that age has begun to affect his memory (I've told him at least two dozen times that we don't watch TV, and he's been equally shocked each time!). But I treasure every moment we have together, even though it's only a few hours a month now that we live quite a ways apart, and I do my best to make sure that he knows just how much I love and value him. If I can be half as good a parent to my children as he has been to me, I'll die happy.</p>
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<p>My dad is also awesome.  He had high expectations of all of us, and just knew that we could do anything we wanted.  He's got a few little quirks, but who doesn't?  He talks too much, and getting off the phone is IMPOSSIBLE when he's on the other end.  He loves his kids more than anything though, and is the greatest grandpa ever!  He's young like my mom, which is great - he could carry my almost 2yo to the top of a mountain if given the chance!  I love my parents, they're the best ever!</p>
 

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<p>Oh, I'm very lucky when it comes to my dads! Yep. I've got TWO awesome dads. My bio dad and mom divorced when I was 4. My parents shared custody equally, so my sister and I were with our dad half of the time. He tried so hard to manage a household, and did a very good job of it even though he had no experience in that area. He always took us on the most fantastic vacations. He still does! He takes my sister and me and our families on vacation frequently. He goes on big trips every now and then and invites either my sister or me to go with him. He helps with his grandchildren--A LOT!</p>
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<p>My stepdad married my mom when I was 7. That was nearly 30 years ago! While things were tough at first, he eventually became a second dad to me. He's fun to talk to, and always there to offer support. Not to mention the fact that he's an AWESOME "Poppy" to his grandchildren!</p>
 

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<p>My dad is one of my favorite people.  For my mom the kids were always a chore, something that had to be done.  She never took much joy in us, but my dad always did.  His time was spent working, watching football, or being with us kids.  He drank hard and heavy for a long time while married to my mom, but once they divorced everything changed.  He's been there for me, my dh, my kids, my sister and her kids absolutely any time we've ever needed him.  Right now money is tight and our van isn't running and he's practically bullying me to borrow money from him.  I don't want to, but I love that he is willing to do it without us asking.  He's a great dad and an even better papa.  All four of his grandkids light up when they hear we are going to his house, or when he comes to visit.  It scares me how much he's aged in the last ten years.  He's almost 71 and every day I realize a little more that he's not going to be around forever.  It hurts so bad to think about.</p>
 

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<p>My dad is amazing.</p>
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<p>He's stuck with my mom through thick and thin, including mental illness on her part.  And always demonstrated *loving* and compassionate committment to his wife and kids.  He gave us a great, well-rounded education in literature, the arts, and linguistics. </p>
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<p>He urged us and taught us to be responsible adults, but has always been extremely generous about helping us out when we need a leg up.  When my husband was having culture shock issues and being rather horrible to my parents, dad kept mom from falling apart, and maintained a peaceful and open-hearted attitude that eventually brought my husband around.  He gave me sound advice when dh and I were having marriage troubles.</p>
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<p>And he is the most excellent grandpa in the world.  He reads to my boys every night, takes them on long hikes, and generally has stepped in to provide them with a much needed male figure in their lives while dh is away.  My children's vocabulary exploded after a year with grandpa (from a little above grade level to my 7 yo having a 10th grade vocab and a 7th grade reading level!).  He is strict without being mean, and very fair and loving in his way of discipline.  My sister and her baby live here, and he takes the baby most every Saturday while she's in class. He's amazing with the little one.</p>
 

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<p>My dad was not awesome groing up.  After he and my mom divorced we had a strained relationship.  We are both hot headed and fought a lot and he was not an adult :p</p>
<p>NOW, as a dad and as a grandpa he is amazing.  He will come over after a full day of hard physical labor or a full 9 hour day of school and work on me if i have injured myself (which i seem to do a lot!)  He watches my kids nearly every saturday and they BEG to go over because he is so fun.  He is very into his church and knows i don't believe in it but he never says a word aobut it to me.  He is kind and respectful and thinks i am a great mom and tells me so. </p>
 

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<p>My dad had a mental illness (schizophrenia) so he wasn't a great dad most of the time.  When he was on his meds (and they were working), he was very loving and funny.  He and my mom divorced when I was young and he wasn't around much when I was growing up.  </p>
<p>When he was in the right frame of mind, he did try to be supportive and caring to me in his later years.</p>
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<p>Sadly, my dad died.  I still feel guilty about not being there (in another state) with him when he passed away.  Honestly, I didn't even find out that he died until a month after the fact.  I still don't know what the official cause was (he had multiple health problems, including cancer.)</p>
 

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<p>My Dad is actually my step-dad, which makes him even more amazing to me. My mom and my "real dad" (as I've always referred to him) divorced when I was only 2. I don't have any memories of my step-dad being anything but my dad. My bio-dad was minimally involved in my life, but he never was able to fill the father figure role.</p>
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<p>My Dad is one of the funniest people I know. He's caring and compassionate, even though he has a rough exterior. He definitely has the "tough guy" facade, but I know he's not like that. He is opinionated and crazy, and just has a great personality. He's an awesome grand dad.</p>
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<p>I'll never forget the look on his face when he saw me just before I walked down the aisle at my wedding. I knew deep in my heart that I was his daughter and that he loves me so much.</p>
 
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<p>I love my dad so much. He is awesome!</p>
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<p>He served our country in the Navy for 6 years (Silent Service). He married a women 4 days after their first date because she was pregnant and had a 2 year old son ("No child should grow up without a father."). He stayed with her despite her severe mental illness until after we were grown. He adopted my brother, and raised my other brother as his own. He overcame a drug addiction (coke). He rarely drank and  when he did it wasn't to inebriation. He hunts whitetails with the same group of best friends he's had since he was 11 or 12. He's ridden his motorcycle up and down the East Coast, and up a mountain. He's rocked out at Ozzy & Pink Floyd concerts. He used to turn on Pink Floyd, clean the house, and bake the most awesome chocolate chip cookies... but I didn't put two and two together until earlier this year. <img alt="thumb.gif" src="http://files.mothering.com/images/smilies/thumb.gif"></p>
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<p>He was the County Commander of the American Legion. He was the treasurer for the union. He's had the same job for over 30 years, only calling in when he was actually in the hospital. </p>
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<p>He put up with a severely mentally ill wife until almost 2 years ago, when he finally escaped. Now he's engaged to a wonderful woman I absolutely adore. Through all the trouble his soon to be ex wife has caused he's remained strong. </p>
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<p>Despite his Irish Catholic upbringing, he's become surprisingly open minded. When I dated men from other races he didn't express disapproval. When I dated females he quietly accepted it. But, if I brought home somebody he didn't approve of, he would be sitting in the living room cleaning his guns. </p>
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<p>He taught me respect for guns, and proper flag etiquette. When a funeral procession goes by, I always stop, take off my hat if I'm wearing one, and drop my head out  of respect for the departed. He donates blood as often as he can. He votes in every election. </p>
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<p>He can sport a leather jacket as well as he can rock a sport coat and scarf. </p>
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<p>We live almost 900 miles away from each other now, so I won't see him that often. I did visit with him a couple days ago, though, and while I had a horrible weekend prior to that, he got me laughing so hard my sides hurt. </p>
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<p>He might not be my biological father (we aren't sure about paternity), but he's my dad and I love him.</p>
 

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<p>This thread could make me cry<span><img alt="heartbeat.gif" src="http://files.mothering.com/images/smilies/heartbeat.gif" style="width:17px;height:15px;"></span></p>
<p>I love my Dad! He's always been a big part of my life. He's funny,compassionate, understanding, you name it. He is a role model to me. He is patient and loving, does good deeds for his community,volunteers,cares about the environment,etc. He's great to my kids and to all of his family. He's super creative and I can always call on him to do something around the house. I think he can do just about anything he puts his mind too, and his heart in!  I know I stressed him out when I was growing up and making lots of mistakes but it never changed the way he treated me.</p>
<p>Kuddos to all Dads!!</p>
 
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<p>My dad is a great man, very wise, very kind, very giving, highly intelligent, reliable, caring, loves God and his family and guns.  He is great with kids.  I love spending time with him and love him very much.  I lucked out.  </p>
 
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<p>My dad is literally the best person I know.  He's an amazing inspiration to all who know him and is loved wherever he goes.  I have never before met such a kind, selfless person that was also able to manage having clear boundaries.  He will never be walked on, but will always extend a hand to all who need it.  He has had three careers, and in each and every one he was recognized for his leadership abilities, compassion and ability to get things done while doing what was right.  As a police officer he was even respected by those he arrested.  That's saying something.</p>
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<p>He has found home in his final career as an ordained minister.  After seminary he took on a fairly conservative church that was falling apart and has brought it back to life.  He has also continued to volunteer his time at nursing homes, prisons, police departments etc.  He's the person that everyone can (and does!) go to when they need help.  I am so proud of him and feel unbelievably lucky to know him.</p>
 

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<p>My dad told my sister that he would rather see me dead than married outside of his religion (the religion they raised me in).  Yep, that pretty much sums up my dad.   (Sorry if this was supposed to be a positive thread only.)</p>
 

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<p>:Hugs A&A. my xmother in law's family cut her off after she married my xfil because he was from asia and she was a direct descendant from the pilgrims. her parents did accept her over time, but the rest of teh family completely disowned her and her community disappeared forever till hse found a new one.</p>
 

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<p>Well my bio dad is a piece of crap I not so lovingly refer to as the sperm donor... however my step dad is pretty awesome.  He genuinely is a good guy.  He isn't really a prefect dad or anything to really brag about as we have always clashed, he has no understanding of children and development, and has no patience coupled with minor anger problems (not anger management bad.. just.. problems) but he started dating my mom when I was a surly angry depressed 13 year old and I managed to not scare him away at all.  I think a lot of men would have been scared away.  I was absolutely horrible.  Down right awful but it was still always clear that he cared about me and intended to at least do better than my own father did.</p>
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<p>My step dad definitely did better.  I really like him a lot now and get along great with him although we rarely spend time together.  He and mom are going through marital problems that I hope they can resolve because I want him around.  He is adorable with kiddo although he needs a lot of help with patience and understanding toddlers.  He has ZERO experience with children under the age of 10 hahaha.  I'm hoping they CAN resolve them... from my own point of view and not knowing much, I feel a lot of issues are that my mom is pretty aggressive and sometimes mean and step dad, despite his patience and anger problems, is pretty.. well spineless... and after so many years that dynamic just finally exploded.  My mom has been a LOT better, not just towards him but also to me and my brother so I'm hoping that it really will last :D  I'm sure there are plenty of other issues of course but most of the arguments I have ever seen always stemmed from mom being a lot.... bigger.  I know that was the main problem I had with her growing up!  Step dad is great though :D</p>
 
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