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A lot of people on the other thread said they put away certain things before guests come. So what are you all putting out of sight and where do you put it ?<br><br>
I always make sure toys that my kids do not want to share are out of reach. Most go back into their rooms though there are a couple of things which live on the top of the sitting room shelves. The shelves are pretty tall so I don't think the kids notice them.<br><br>
I make sure the pile of CDs and remote which usually live by the TV are out of reach. Generally I try to make one room as childproof as I can.<br><br>
And after the other thread I'll now be making sure to stick the fruit bow out of sight.<br><br>
For LLL meetings, kids parties etc I put up a stair gate so the kids don't go upstairs (we have a downstairs toilet). If DD has a friend round they can play in her room. I still help her put away "non sharing" toys and get out something suitable before the friend arrives.<br><br>
I close doors to rooms I don't intend people to go in but I don;t make so much effort to remove stuff from them. You may well find all sorts of things in my dinning table if you were to go in there.
 

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I put away toys the kids do not want to share.Money bowls,purse with credit card/checks.I even put away spare keys.Anyone can snag something while visiting or servicing in the home.<br><br>
Lol, I even put away the rabbit,dogs and cats in a locked area.Don't want to deal with scratched or bites.
 

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My main concern is safety, then avoiding tantrums about toys. I make sure all cords are up out of reach, things can't be pulled off shelves etc. I can't 100% proof my house for accidents, but I really do my best.<br>
One time when ds1 was about 2 years old we went to a party at a new house. I was sitting inside the house, but could see him through the windows on the back patio with the other children. I turned away for a minute while nursing his brother and when I looked back, all I saw was a flash of brown. He was wearing a brown outfit. The kids had managed to turn on the plugged in treadmill. some bigger kids had got it going and in a few seconds, my baby got on it and got flung straight off. It was so scary and it could have been such a horrible situation had he landed on the concrete on his head. It was going top speed. Fortunately by the grace of God, ds was okay.<br>
It emotionally scarred me. I couldn't believe it was plugged in with little children coming over. So I am now anal about making sure children will be safe at my home by hiding cords and such.
 

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The only thing I will put away is need-to-be-stored wine. If we've happened to just received/bought something that needs to be cellared for a few years and it hasn't been put away yet, we'll put it in the wine cellar because all our friends know that any wine on the main level is open for grabs. In fact, we've sent people to the cellar to pick something out and usually just say "nothing in the crates" or whatever to distinguish between what can be drunk now vs what needs to wait.<br><br><br>
Other than that? Mi casa es su casa. And we mean it. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/thumb.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="thumbs up"><br><br><br>
I was reading the other thread and some of you would be scandalized by our parties! I just had a huge dinner party here on Saturday with our wine club and each couple brings a dish. Well, just about everyone brought their ingredients and cooked here. Which means people are in every cabinet and fridge and nook and cranny in my kitchen getting things, using things, etc. It is always so much fun.<br><br>
People are free to wander around if they need some quiet time as well. There have been times when I'm not sure where everyone is. We also have a key hanging up just for overnight guests if they need to leave and come back for any reason. In the morning, I expect guests to forage for whatever it is they need to start their day if I'm not up yet. Though if it is their first time here I try to leave the basics out before I go to bed.<br><br>
We've been known to go to bed and leave guests to their own devices a few times if it gets way too late. Last time was NYE. I gave up at around 3 or 4 am with instruction to turn the fireplace off before they retired.<br><br>
I want people to feel welcomed and relaxed and at home. I think we achieve that and it is reflected in how well our gatherings go.
 

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I put away ds' big metal ride on fire truck. I hide it in my room. It is heavy and our house is small. I am afraid of kids getting all wild and fighting over it and someone getting hurt.<br><br>
Depending on the guest I sometimes put away ds' big Bruder truck that he got for Christmas. He has some friends who have broken his brand new Christmas toys in the past and I don't want a repeat with this one.
 

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Don't ask for full reason why, but I always double check and make sure my "lotions" and "potions" <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/innocent.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="shy"> have been securely put away.<br><br>
There is nothing like an emergency to show our your and your dh's intimate business.
 

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Nothing really. I make sure ds's wallet and my purse are out of reach and that I've put all my meds up, but other than that nothing. I don't ever really have people I don't know really well/trust in my home.
 

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Can't think of anything. Everything I put up is up for other reasons already-booze, special chocolates, expensive science experiment stuff...
 

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I stash chips and candy, partially because I figure other kids' parents don't want them filling up on them and partially because I want them to not get eaten up by a bunch of kids just because their parents won't buy them those items. I've never limited food and ds does pretty well with moderating those things. I'll stash special fruit because ds eats very few fruits. I may splurge and get him organic raspberries because they are one of the few fruits he eats. I don't want to feed those to kids who will eat anything because they are so expensive and hard to find in stores.<br><br>
If little kids are coming, I make sure dh's medicines are out of reach.<br><br>
I put away certain toys that tend to just be strewn about rather than played with, ones that are for older kids and need gentle handling, and ones that just don't work well in a crowd.
 

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The design and layout of our kitchen is such that food wouldn't be out in the open.<br><br>
Hard to explain but stuff just isn't on display. Plus, I am sort of anal about keeping the counters clear so there wouldn't be say, a box of crackers or snacks just hanging out on the counter to tempt guests.<br><br>
Also, DH has this <i>thing</i> about fruit flies and under no circumstances would plump, tempting, seductive plums be allowed to lounge about near the window. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"> If I try to ripen something on the counter, he will put it in the fridge as soon as he sees it.<br><br>
What would I put away?<br><br>
Certain type of wine and liquor. Occasionally we will visit a specialty store and stock up on some hard to find favorites. If we are having a party, I don't want someone pulling my Brand X wine out of the fridge for general consumption. We always have way too much planned food and beverages available so I don't feel weird about hiding something I want to enjoy later.<br><br>
Same goes for certain cheeses.<br><br>
Anything personal like bills or mail.<br><br>
I said in the other post that DH operates under an open kitchen/cupboard method but the more I think about it, we don't have people coming into our house that would want/eat food that was set aside for later.<br><br>
DS's friends don't come over yet, I don't offer my house as a venue. Our guests are family and friends, neither of which would search for food.<br><br>
I suspect later on, when DS is old enough to have friends over after school and such, DH may feel very different if he comes home from work on a Friday to find his favorite snacks were Hoovered up by teenage boys.
 

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I hide anything that might be embarrassing (personal care items or bedroom stuff <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/winky.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Wink"> If it's out where someone might see like a counter or the bed)<br><br>
Other than that I pick up so it looks neater...our stuff tends to get spread out around the house. We're pretty laid back about people coming and making themselves at home. If there's a special food or something we'll tell them but that doesn't happen very often. And even then it's usually "Just don't eat it all"
 

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I close doors to bedrooms and that's it. It would never occur to me to hide my purse, and my children never had toys they wouldn't share. When we had teens at home, our place was often the hangout, and we allowed them to eat anything as long as they left at least one Pepsi for Dad. The only thing off limits was the alcohol, and they never asked anyway.
 

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And that is a valid choice for YOU to make as a host. However, other forms of gatherings are just as valid and I'm astounded that you would imply that doing things differently than you chose to makes someone unwelcoming or cold.<br><br>
I don't put anything away. I assume people will be respectful of my space and responsible about asking. Of course, we don't keep much snacky food here and if we do have some it was probably bought for the people coming over.<br><br>
I'm so bad at meal planning that if something was designated for another meal, my guest would probably know about it since I'd be talking about how happy I was that I finally got ready for a meal in advance "look, look, I even remembered to go buy ingredients!!!"
 

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I barely tidy my house, let alone put extra things away! The only exception is that when the few friends i have with little toddlers come over i lock my bedroom and the study doors, mainly because both rooms contain stuff that could be dangerous and/or is expensive to replace if it gets broken.<br><br>
Other than that they can have at it, i am way too lazy to have shame about my house and i theoretically allow DD to qualify a few no-sharing toys (but it's always the same very obvious ones, like the bedtime lovies) but we've never had an issue with that either.
 

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I always assume people will be respectful of my home and and our things, but that is not always the case. If we are having a party, I may put my purse away, lock the cats up in a bedroom and crate the dog if need be. Really it depends on the event. If we are having a party/gathering that is preplanned then I expect some rummaging in my kitchen (our kitchen has no doors) and most of the time people will ask for whatever they need.<br><br>
If it is more of a spontaneous gathering, like a bunch of teens showing up during dinner, I can't necessarily feed them all because I did not plan for that. Sometimes when the rest of us are done, I will offer them whatever is left. They will often run out and get their own food, since I can't possibly always be prepared for a bunch of them showing up at once.<br><br>
There have been some cases where I am a bit taken aback by what people think is acceptible to do/partake of in my house, maybe because it is not something I would do. One time we had a b-day party for my them 8yo ds. We gave him a rather involved lego set that he had already put together...a helicopter with some sort of base. At the party, I allowed a girl a little older than ds in the room with all the legos, which is usually gated off. I specifically told her not to touch the helicopter, as it was new and a b-day present. Well guess what? Not only did she take it apart, it was methodically strewn throughout the room and mixed up with a bunch of other stuff. I knew the girl had some SN, although since the parents allowed a fair amount a freedom while they were at our house, I thought she'd be fine. We were unable to rebuild the helicopter. Now we just keep it gated. It is not OK for guests (children or not) to dismantle all my ds's legos that he has spent hours upon hours creating huge complex games with.<br><br>
Another time, I invited some friends over to make candles. I had some very expensive, thin sheets of beeswax to decorate the surface of candles that were already made and put this out and told them what it was for. Next thing I knew every sheet of the decorator wax was wadded up and rolled in balls, some was used to decorate other candles but in mass quantities. The mom sat and watched the whole time. They took most of the wax home, since it was their stuff they created with it. Maybe I'm wrong, but I do not expect that kind of behavior from guests. My way of dealing with it would be to not offer the wax again or not have these people over for such an event.<br><br>
I do not think it's wrong to expect some common sense boundaries from guests. When it's kids I expect the parents to maintain the boundaries (when the parents are here with them). That is what I would do as a guest. I guess it's the idea of what those boundaries are that varies widely.
 

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Wow. This thread just added to my stress about having people over.<br><br>
We don't put anything away. I never even thought about putting toys away or not sharing my food. I don't leave food out on my counter so that isn't an issue for me but if my friends want to rummage through my cabinets because they are hungry that is totally okay. If they asked for something that I absolutely HAD to have for a special meal plan that evening I would let them know.<br><br>
My kids are happy to share their toys and they usually bring out their most special items to show and share with their friends immediately. We do keep my oldest son's room closed off because he has dangerous to small children stuff.<br><br>
I also usually put my gigantic golden retriever (125 lbs) behind a baby gate because he is very friendly and sometimes knocks small children down with his tail.<br><br>
Now I'm wondering if I should be going through my home a little more carefully!
 

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It depends on who is coming over.<br><br>
We have neighbors and my dad and local friends stopping by all the time. I like impromptu visits and people learn this quickly. Our house is an "as is" type place. All doors are open and all items are in their usual places. We have a small house, so it is easy to keep track of people without even thinking about it. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"> Keep in mind I keep a "guest-ready" house, so any items we wouldn't want seen or used by others would naturally be put away in our daily routine.<br><br>
If we are having a playdate, DD can choose to put away toys or activities she doesn't wish to share. She and I did this a lot more when she was younger. We cleared more space for four girls to be able to do the activities we/she had planned before her birthday slumber party last month, but I do not recall DD choosing to put anything specific away.<br><br>
If we are having a party, then we might clear more space for folks (move tables, borrow chairs, rearrange furniture, etc) and we may put certain things up high or in a closet. Depends on who is invited. When I do mom's morning at my house, I encourage everyone to come. If they have little ones not in school, then bring toys for them. We're past the little kid toys stage, so they'd be bored otherwise. I also remind the moms our house is no longer baby-proofed specifically. (It is not a hazard for little ones, though.) We adjust the location of where we sit and hang out based on the needs of the group. Dinner parties are more typical with everyone eating together at the table and then the kids going off to DD's room or the living room to play while us adults hang out in the kitchen (table is in here). Kids love hide-n-seek and I don't usually have any restrictions. We did have an impromptu party recently, though, and I had a lot of scrapbooking supplies out for a specific upcoming event and I asked them to stay out of the family office. It is unusual and they didn't always remember, but it was all good.<br><br>
My kitchen is usually open and everyone knows it. Still, they ask before getting anything. When one mom was dropping off her oldest DD for the slumber party, the younger one was eyeing the cream cheese filled strawberries. The child asked her mother (for permission), who then asked me (etiquette). This is the only time I have had to say no. The party was only four girls and was nearly 24 hours long. I had exactly what I needed with extra food for the party attendees, if needed, but it was different food. It would have been very obvious it one strawberry was missing. This particular family is often at our house and us at their house, so they knew it was a specific instance and no one's feelings were hurt.<br><br>
If I held all the mom's mornings at my house or if I held a regular meeting at our home, I would do things a little differently. If the attendees were friends (mom's mornings), then I would ask everyone to bring a dish to share each time. It would add more variety and take the burden of food prep off of me every single time. If the attendees were casual acquaintances and some strangers for a monthly meeting (like the other thread), then I would put more things away and be more assertive in designating which rooms were the appropriate places for guests. I have not had either situation come up for me, though, so I cannot say for sure.
 

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I make sure to put away DH's medicines, personal papers and DD's special toys. Oh, and I make sure to log off my email. Soooo many people ask to use the computer these days.
 

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We don't put anything in particular away, but we don't have much out to begin with. If we're just having 1 or 2 well-behaved kids over to play, I leave pretty much everything out. If we're having a bunch of kids for a birthday party or there will be kids over who have shown themselves to be particularly destructive, I'll put away almost everything (which just entails bringing a few toy bins upstairs and informing them that the upstairs is off-limits) and just leave out the few things it's okay for them to use. I do turn the computer off so that if anyone presses the keys nothing will happen.<br><br>
When we have adult guests over, I don't put anything away, but then I've never hosted a group of adults I don't know well.<br><br>
It's never occurred to me to hide my fruit bowl. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/wink1.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="wink1"> Although now I will check to be sure that everything in it is stuff I wouldn't mind a guest eating. I can just see my DH opening the cereal cupboard the next morning and wondering why two almost-perfectly-ripe pears are peering down at him. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/orngbiggrin.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="orange big grin">
 
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