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A few comments in the 'birth pool on the 2nd floor' thread have got me wondering. A friend of mine who has had two homebirths was saying that her midwife gave her a lot of restrictions during the first few weeks after the birth. No stairs for a week, no driving, no big outings for several weeks, etc. I was never given any of those sorts of restrictions after my hospital births.. they said to listen to my body and if I started to bleed heavier, that meant I had overdone it and to rest for a good while. My friend said this is a difference between midwifery care and OB care--midwives take better care of you.<br><br>
I'm just wondering if this is a common thing. I had no problem doing stairs (granted, maybe only every other day the first week), driving, etc. I think we went out to an indoor playspace when my youngest was about two weeks old, though I did have family there in case I needed help.. and by the third week we were back to our regular routine of playground playdates and whatnot. But I've always felt really great.. it seems weird to be restricted so much.<br><br>
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My MW gave me pretty tough restrictions for the first 48hrs, basically only get up to go to the bathroom, but beyond that it was just, "take care of yourself, don't try to over do it, know your limits for a little while" I guess it just depends on the midwife.
 

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Personally, I wouldn't listen to those restrictions. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/shrug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="shrug"> I do what I feel is best for me. I've had 4 c/s and never had those kinds of restrictions! If you need to take it easy, do. If you're ok to do that stuff, do it.
 

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My mw's never placed "restrictions" on me, but rather suggested that I stay in bed for 48 hours, and then take it really easy and listen to my body. They also suggested I not do any stairs for a week as stairs are really hard on your pelvic floor. All of this was said in a loving informative way, with no pressure or negativity. I love my midwives.<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/love.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="love">
 

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My MW did give some ideas for restrictions (no up and down stairs for the first day, only 2 trips the second day, 3 the third etc) BUT I had a really peculiar tear that I declined stitches for and we were going on the "keep your legs together" idea.<br><br>
-Angela
 

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I don't know what she normally recommends, but I already told my midwife she will be recommending lots of rest to me (she is game)! I had a hospital birth last time, no restrictions on anything, but I felt overwhelmed with everyone around at the hospital (think pizza party in the hospital lounge with both sides of the family...I could barely even walk there but I had to go!) and especially upon returning home. The inlaws were here every day and I felt I had to come downstairs and hang out with them in the living room. This time I am staying the heck away from everyone and using the "I have to take it easy and stay upstairs for a week, my midwife says so" as my excuse!
 

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We are doing the 5 days in bed, 5 days on the bed, and 5 days around the bed after this baby...basically staying on the 2nd floor until she is about 2 weeks old. We are doing this voluntarily--not b/c i need physical restrictions, but b/c our society does quite enough to rush us back to our lives before our babies and our bodies are ready and we are choosing to limit peoples expectations of me so that i can heal and rest and just enjoy my family.<br><br>
I was so gung ho about showing everyone that i was bouncing back after the last baby that i wore myself out needlessly and tried to play super-mom, super-woman. I am going with the Scarlett O'Hara, helpless, bring my family casseroles attitude this time!<br><br>
So, i'm sure that your MW's instructions are suited more to your emotional/mommy needs than your real physical recovery needs...so as long as you feel good and know that you are not over obligating yourself, then i'm sure you will be fine by listening to your body!
 

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Thanks for the responses! Maybe it does vary on people's past experiences, and that's why my friend's midwife was pretty adamant about getting rest.<br><br>
With my previous births, I never rushed anything, never did anything more than I absolutely had to, etc. My husband took a week off both times and will again this time, so for that first week I really don't need to do anything other than feed the baby and shower.. my husband even does a lot of the diaper changing. It's more that I get that horrible cooped up feeling, especially since the weather will be so nice, and since (in the past) I've felt more than able to get up and be present, even if I'm just lounging on the couch.<br><br>
With my second, my pediatrician was really concerned about the August heat and the baby getting dehydrated (we already were dealing with PCOS-related supply issues and the accompanying weight loss), so I was stuck in my bedroom with the A/C rather than in our un-A/C'ed living room. I definitely got a little stir crazy.<br><br>
Luckily, our whole living space is on one floor, it's just that I would have to go downstairs to leave the house.
 

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Actually, Scarlett O'Hara scandalised her family by how quickly she recovered from childbirth. Sorry... I'm a geek, it had to be said. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/orngtongue.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Stick Out Tongue"><br><br>
So far my midwife has only said that I shouldn't lift anything heavier than the baby for the first two weeks (ie. baskets of laundry). Our house doesn't have stairs, so she didn't mention them. I'm hoping she recommends rest, because I'm lazy. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/orngtongue.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Stick Out Tongue"> Plus, the more I can languish in bed, the fewer visitors I have to see!
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">My MW did give some ideas for restrictions (no up and down stairs for the first day, only 2 trips the second day, 3 the third etc) BUT I had a really peculiar tear that I declined stitches for and we were going on the "keep your legs together" idea.<br><br>
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That's what I was told as well. I had my tear superglued (which, may I say, ROCKS and I totally recommend it if you have an option), and had to keep my knees together for 3 days -- which let out much walking or stairs anyway.
 

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I tell clients no housework for 2 weeks. I tell their families (husbands, kids, moms) that too <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/wink1.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="wink1">. It takes about 10 days for the uterus to return to its new normal post pregnancy size, so the risk of a pph is lower after those 10 days. That's also when the lochia changes from red to brownish/yellowish/pink, because ideally the placental site is no longer bleeding (if you've rested!).<br><br>
I say 2 weeks because I know that if someone told me 10 days, I'd probably be up and doing stuff at 7 or 8, so there's about a 4-day buffer on my pp instructions <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/shy.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="innocent">. That's also when the lochia changes from red to brownish/yellowish/pink, because ideally the placental site is no longer bleeding (if you've rested!).<br><br>
I've always totally overdone it after my births (I was at the grocery store 2 days pp with DS2 and went straight from the hospital to wal-mart with DS1!). This time I plan to REST, REST, REST for the ENTIRE two weeks I tell my clients to rest.
 

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I was given the exact same instructions at my hospital birth that my MW gave me for my HB: no stairs for 48 hours, no driving for 2 weeks, no housework for 2 weeks, and no lifting anything heavier than the baby for two weeks.
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">I was given the exact same instructions at my hospital birth that my MW gave me for my HB: no stairs for 48 hours, no driving for 2 weeks, no housework for 2 weeks, and no lifting anything heavier than the baby for two weeks.</div>
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The no driving I would have issue with.... <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"><br><br>
-Angela
 

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<span>My mw's never gave me any restrictions just told me i'm likely to bleed heavier when i go out or over do it.</span>
 

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Fortunately mine have never said anything--because I wouldn't listen. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"><br><br>
I feel SOOOOOOO much better after delivery that I will NOT be kept in bed any longer. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"> 8-9 months of vomiting, in the case of my current and 1st pregnancy lots of bedrest.. forget staying there any longer!<br><br>
I don't overdo things and do listen to my body, but I am plenty active too. I was out driving/walking stairs/etc pretty quickly after delivery. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol">
 

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No restrictions, but I've always been a fairly active person. We took our first family walk across town when DD2 was 4 days old, the only reason we waited that long was because the weather had been cold, I obviously had no tearing or anything. I go by my body, if it hurts, I'm tired, or bleeding increases then I'm doing too much.
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">The no driving I would have issue with.... <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"><br><br>
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Just out of curiosity.. why do they say no driving? Seems like a pretty sedentary activity to me..
 

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At the Farm they just told me not to shower standing up for several days, in case I fainted (but I did it anyway), to be careful and slow going up and down stairs, and to try not to sit cross-legged (which I kept forgetting, since that's how I ALWAYS sit, but I was okay). <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile">
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">Just out of curiosity.. why do they say no driving? Seems like a pretty sedentary activity to me..</div>
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Yeah, I thought that one seemed strange too - until I tried it!<br><br>
I had a very bad delivery with my first, and basically felt like I had literally been hit by a truck for about a month afterward. I tried to drive once at the two-week mark, and it hurt so bad I didn't try it again until 3 weeks. You'd be surprised how much of your core muscles are used in balancing as you drive and your inner thigh muscles and tendons and pubic symphisis etc. if you have to make a sudden braking or move.
 
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