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What has someone (no naming names!) done at your home to cause them to never ever be invited back?<br><br>
Or what would be an absolute deal breaker for you?<br><br>
Interested to see what the limits of others are.
 

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Someone once attempted to spray paint their hair (and their child's hair) in my bathroom while standing about 4 inches in front of the WHITE bathroom door. They were irritated when I asked them to go outside to do that.<br><br>
It was the straw that broke the camel's back so to speak. Previously there was a napkin throwing incident (across a table loaded with crystal that was thrown hard enough to hit the chandelier causing it to clank into itself, and this was an adult, not a child) and sending their child down one morning to be taken care of while they slept in - without asking first!<br><br>
3 strikes and you're out. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/irked.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="irked">
 

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<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/orngbiggrin.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="orange big grin"> Oh good, I was hoping you'd share what could make you kick someone out for good, I knew it had to be amazingly uncouth.
 

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When I was young, (6 or 7?) early one morning, the little boy(around my age, maybe younger) who would come to visit his grandparents by himself from out of state(and across the country) wandered into our house(nobody knew) and proceeded to wander around until he came to my parent's bedroom, where my mom was getting dressed. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/bigeyes.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="bigeyes"> I'm pretty sure we weren't even allowed to play with him after that. (not that we liked him anyways, we used to mix dirt(and all its little creatures) and water in an old coke bottle with a straw and told him it was coke. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"> we were mean!
 

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People who let their kids DESTROY things & don't even apologize or offer to help clean up or repair/replace broken things. A little girl of one of my friends has gone so far as to take a loaf of bread out of my cabinet, dump the entire loaf out on the kitchen floor, and stomp/dance on top of it until it was all squished & ripped all over the floor. (Did I mention this was while I was refereeing a fight between two of her kids -- she has four -- in the back of the house, while she was outside smoking & talking on her cell? <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/irked.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="irked">) The same friend would let her toddlers use the potty at my house without even helping them, & I would find poop smeared on the toilet & pee on the floor almost EVERY time after they left. Once I find her daughter's wet panties in my BATHTUB, and her mom didn't even know she had wet her pants. The last straw with them was when her oldest little girl (the same one from the bread incident), at my daughter's birthday party, grabbed Dora's face completely off of my daughter's birthday cake with her hands before my daughter had even seen her Dora cake that she was so excited about <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/greensad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="greensad"> They don't come over anymore. I just can't.
 

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I guess if someone smoked in my house.<br><br>
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if someone used inappropiate language infront of my children.....(ie. retard, something racist........etc) I would ask them not to and if they didn't listen....they wouldn't come back.
 

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Anyone who is stuffy or stuck up would never be invited back. We're laid back <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/drink.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="drink"><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile">
 

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*I've never had to ban someone from my house but one of dh's brothers isn't welcome at our house (except for twice/yr bday parties where dh makes sure he is on his best behavior). He doesn't like me and is very disrespectful when he talks about me to dh, and the main reason is that he has made a scene at 2 of my kids' bday parties before.<br><br>
Dh doesn't have much of a relationship w/him anymore bc he is just a mess (extremely jealous of my dh, always has been, and tries to tear down dh and our life as much as possible which never works).<br><br>
I have let a friendship die though bc it seemed like every time I talked to this person she would ask for something way over the line and it was uncomfortable inviting her over or spending any time w/her at all.
 

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Never had to ban someone from my home either, but any type of bigoted talk is not permitted. Neither is destruction of property, dangerous activities, or violation of personal space will get you a "We don't allow that here" the first time, a "You need to leave if you can't stop..." the second time and I suspect someone who still insists on coming over and engaging in that behaviour will probably end up banned.<br><br>
So far, we've only had other people ban themselves from out house because they don't like that they aren't allowed to tell racists jokes, or in the case of my in-laws, teach my children that homosexuality is a mortal sin and their daddy and papa are going to burn in hell.
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">So far, we've only had other people ban themselves from out house because they don't like that they aren't allowed to tell racists jokes, or <b>in the case of my in-laws, teach my children that homosexuality is a mortal sin and their daddy and papa are going to burn in hell</b>.</div>
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Holy heck, they thought that was ok??? Good grief. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/irked.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="irked"><br><br><br>
Oh, my other bannings happened from:<br><br>
1. A couple with the usual uncontrolled kids/lack of parenting/proven track record of breaking things without caring or replacing. They got mad at me for not letting them bring their kids to an adult party (one where I ship my son off to a babysitter's for the evening) and came to the party and refused to acknowledge me - even when I spoke to them. They turned and walked away!<br><br>
2. Two women who played the RSVP game a bit too much with me. Oh yes, we'll come - you know, as long as you are footing the bill and something better doesn't come along. Then they cancelled on me last minute (to an event I needed to give a final count for) and then I find out they had plans that night via Facebook? Uh, yeah.
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">Holy heck, they thought that was ok??? Good grief. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/irked.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="irked"></div>
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They tried it once with DD. Only once. And we both made it very clear to them they were not to talk like that in front of DD and if they couldn't stop themselves, they are advised to stay away. They chose to stay away. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/greensad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="greensad"> They are other wise very nice people, and probably would have been wonderful grandparents if they could just not be so... ugh!
 

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A friend of mine brought her three children to my daughter's funeral--all four of them in flip flops, tshirts and shorts. The mind boggling disrespect for what we were going though, well I never got past it.
 

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<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug"> That is so beyond words...<br><br><div style="margin:20px;margin-top:5px;">
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<div style="font-style:italic;">A friend of mine brought her three children to my daughter's funeral--all four of them in flip flops, tshirts and shorts. The mind boggling disrespect for what we were going though, well I never got past it.</div>
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Showing up 4 hours late for a B-BQ so your child could take a nap and not calling to say your going to be late. Then stay until midnight untill we have to physically kick you out.<br><br>
Repeatedly kicking my dog and calling him a P$%#Y because he doesn't bite or attack you.<br><br>
Coming to my house, bringing your children and then not letting them play with mine.<br><br>
Coming to my house getting drunk and falling through my dining room table. Getting off the floor and then telling me it's my fault because my table was so cheaply made.<br><br>
Yes, these stories actually happened, and yes, these stories involved the same person every time but at different time periods. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/angry.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="angry">
 

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Showing a pattern of ignoring our expressed rules.<br><br>
Punishing my kids. Not treating them with respect.<br><br>
An extremely punitive attitude towards their kids (I have a family member who we don't invite over any more because it's so uncomfortable to be around them while they parent).<br><br>
Unruly children who aren't being parented.<br><br>
Those are things I've encountered. I'm sure there are all kinds of scenarios that I haven't thought of that would have someone banned from my house as well.
 

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For real?! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/jaw2.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="jaw2"><br><br>
Coming to my house getting drunk and falling through my dining room table. Getting off the floor and then telling me it's my fault because my table was so cheaply made.
 

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The guy who called another friend's 2 year old daughter promiscuous when she hugged my then 2 year old son (ex still had him over in the garage or the basement)<br><br>
My ex-mil, who threatened to take the kids and not let me see them anymore (this was while I was still married) She was still welcome to visit her son and the kids, but I left the house while she was there.... actually, that probably wasn't too smart... she could have changed the locks while I was out! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/winky.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Wink">
 

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we stopped having end of the season picnics for my hubby's softball team because of one 4 year old girl and her parents.<br><br>
she went in our house and unmade all the beds - as in pulled everything off them and then dragged the blankets/pillows/whatever around the house and even dumped the pillows in the tub. mom and dad were outside and probably had not bothered to wonder where she was for an hour at that point. i had no idea, but another friend saw it and got her outside and tried to clean up, bless her.<br><br>
she also broke our computer table - took the slide out keyboard drawer off (i saw this one myself and i booted her outside and didn't let her back in the house)<br><br>
same child, later that day, i walked two of the moms and their kids over to the playset they have here at the condo and the little girl tagged along. no worries on that, she was fine and just played with the other kids. but, before we walked off, i told the dad she was coming with us. he said fine and off we all went.<br><br>
we got back to the party after about 40 minutes and the mom and dad were drunkenly screaming at each other about how the other wasn't watching her and now she was kidnaped while the other guests were actually calling her name to find her. one was on the phone to 911 already.<br><br>
i reminded dad that i told him that she'd be with us and he called me a liar - even though the two other moms heard the whole thing and confirmed that we had told him. how lovely to deal with the police when they showed up... and the drunk dad was all "no need for you guys to be here, go find some real criminals or something!" <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/duh.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="duh">
 
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