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[Rant]It's hard for me to admit this since I'm always harping on people to love their mama bodies, but I'm feeling really insecure about the weight I gained in the short period of time I was pg with the m/c. I never have morning sickness so I gain weight FAST when I'm pregnant and I gained at least 10 lbs this time around. I can't help but think, "Man, I look like sh!t and have nothing to show for it."<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/greensad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="greensad"> At least with Isadora I looked like sh!t but had this lovely labor and incredibly sweet baby as a result.<br>
Now, I have trouble squeezing my chub into my normal clothes and DO NOT want to wear maternity clothes. Plus, my chest starting getting zitty when I was pregnant...I have no idea why and it's not stopping! Plus, I have to wear these godawful pads for my seemingly endless spotting - my pad trash could fill a landfill (yeah, I know...cloth mama pads. I have a ton but they aren't comfy at all).<br>
It just sucks.<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/eyesroll.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="roll"> [/Rant]
 

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Boy, can I relate! With my 1st m/c, I was 13 wks, and had felt very sick, and the only way to relieve my nauseousness was to eat a little bit all the time. So I was saddled w/ extra weight and nothing to show for it too. After the m/c, I dropped 10 lbs w/o trying, but eventually gained it back. I have struggled w/ weight my whole life. I've recently lost 10 lbs, but that was due to gall stones. But I can really relate to feeling bad bc you are chubby. And also the pad thing. Whenever I've had m/c's, I hate the pad-wearing-for-weeks ordeal! I too use disp bc I can't afford to put out the $$ for cloth. But the disp make me itch, and they are so hot, and I get to where I am just so sick of pads I could scream!<br><br>
Anyway, I'm not being much help, am I? I just wanted to let you know you aren't alone. I'm sure you will drop some weight, and the zits will subside as your hormones balance out again. And soon you'll be able to give up the darn pads (at least for a month anyway <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/irked.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="irked"><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile">. Hang in there mama!<br><br>
BTW, for me the best way to lose weight is just to not take 2nd helpings of anything. You'd be amazed how you can lose weight by just that one simple thing. If it's a snack, not a meal, just put what you think is a decent portion in a bowl or something, and put the package away. The weight will drop off if you do this. And it doesn't take any fancy diet food, or preparation.<br><br>
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<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug"> I'm sure you're still beautiful.
 

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Erika, I can totally relate. I have been bitter about the extra 15 pounds I am still carrying around. Luckily, I didn't gain any wait w/ my last pg/mc, but I didn't lose during that time, so I still am 15 lbs over what I think is a healthy weight for me. I have had weight issues all my life also, but in the last 10 years I have been running. A few years ago I got into doing triathlons, and had just done an Ironman a few months before I got pg the first time. I am used to being strong, and in pretty good shape (although I have never been thin), so I am extra frustrated. And going back to running w/ this extra weight is bothering my knees <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/hopmad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hopping mad"> . Here's the thing, though. I am through with being hard on myself!!! So I am a little chubby right now, so what??? With what all of us here have gone through, the last thing we should be is hard on ourselves for extra weight. I <i>refuse</i> to obsess about it; I have more important things to worry about, kwim??? <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/thumb.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="thumbs up"> Hang in there!<br><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/broc1.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Broccoli">: <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/carrot.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="carrot"><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/banana.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="banana"><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/broc1.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Broccoli">: <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/carrot.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="carrot"><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/banana.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="banana">
 

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<table border="0" cellpadding="6" cellspacing="0" width="99%"><tr><td class="alt2" style="border:1px inset;">Here's the thing, though. I am through with being hard on myself!!! So I am a little chubby right now, so what??? With what all of us here have gone through, the last thing we should be is hard on ourselves for extra weight. I <i>refuse</i> to obsess about it; I have more important things to worry about, kwim??? <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/thumb.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="thumbs up"> Hang in there!<br><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/broc1.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Broccoli">: <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/carrot.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="carrot"><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/banana.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="banana"><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/broc1.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Broccoli">: <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/carrot.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="carrot"><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/banana.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="banana"></td>
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i totally agree with brooke.<br><br>
i have found it very frustrating, especially because my dh and i are ttc, and i am afraid of losing weight while ttc, i don't want it to affect my cycle in any way, so the weight is staying put for now. it bothers me, but as soon as i start thinking the thought 'jeez! i look SO freaking fat and gross and horrible' i shut it off and walk away from the mirror. i have a little bit of control at least over what i will allow in in addition to my grieving- feeling bad about myself for being chubby and blubby, well, there's not alot of room in my life for that now. i hear you, though. sometimes it helps to look in the mirror, look yourself in the eyes only, and give your ~self~ a positive affirmation, like <i>'i am a beautiful strong woman, and i am thankful to be alive'</i>. i try and do that after i catch a look at my body in the mirror after a shower... it helps alot!
 

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I can really relate to your post and it helps to know I'm not alone. I was 10lbs over when I got pg so I was already wearing my biggest sizes of clothes. I didn't gain any weight while pg but once I m/c-ed my weight has started going up even though I am eating less now. I've got thyroid issues so maybe that's it. I just really don't want to have to buy bigger clothes so my selection is limited.<br><br>
I know I should exercise but I'm having the hardest time getting motivated. I have a yoga dvd that I enjoy but I don't think it will take much weight off. I live by the beach so I'm going to try jogging/brisk walking if the weather ever improves-we've had crazy wind and hail the past two days.<br><br>
And I am loving comfort food these days...sour cream, mochas, chips, potatoes, cookies etc. I'm not giving up my coffee but I am eating Kashi GoLean cereal for one or two meals/snacks a day. My dh lost weight years ago doing that and it is pretty healthy-not tasty though...oh well.<br><br>
I am ready to feel strong and confident again. I want all of me healed from this time. (((hugs))) to those of you going thru this too.
 

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I can totally relate. I gained 10+ pounds because I had to eat crackers/buttered toast/sprite ect ALL day to not get totally sick.I cannot fit into my jeans so I just kind of look frumpy all the time...plus I cannot excerise until I am healed from my hemmorage trauma...about 1 more week.<br><br>
But, I am back on my mostly raw foods diet of amlost all veggies and fruits and some nuts and grains. This way I can be back to my normal clothes in about 2 weeks and it is also good for my health. I read that it is good to lose pregnancy weight fast after MC to avoid wearing materinity clothes and feeling sad...I know that feeling..I had to wear my maternity capris the other day.....<br><br>
Plus I am a total health freak so I am really excited to eat my raw foods/running and start FEELING like myself again instead of soo blah and tired!<br><br>
All that said, I also agree with pp, for what we've been through we need to cut ourselves a little slack in this area!!!! Love, Jennifer
 

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Thanks. It really helps to know I'm not alone<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/love.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="love"><br>
And, most of the time I'm ok with being out of my weight comfort zone but I guess with all of the emotional turmoil from the m/c I'm just ultra sensitive right now.<br><br>
ETA: I've been thinking of you, surfmama - how have you been?
 

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thanks for asking about me...I've been doing better each week but today has been crappy! warning <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/irked.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="irked">: rant ahead--I heard back about my bloodwork and everything is great except my thyroid. I was diagnosed hypothyroid this past summer and had it nicely under control before the pg but now it is wacky again so I have to play phone tag with my midwife, dr and endocrinologist to try to get this fixed. I'm just sick of going to dr/midwife visits...I don't want to have to talk about my m/c again and I don't want anymore blood tests. I haven't had to talk to my primary dr since I found out I was pg and she isn't the warmest person so I'm not sure she'll respond well when I tell her. And the last thing I need now is to deal with my thyroid making me feel crummy on top of this stuff. But on the other hand, maybe my weight will come off once I get on the right thyroid med dose.
 

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Surf mama- I am sorry youv'e got thyroid issues on top of everything else. That totally sucks!!!<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/irked.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="irked">: . But that definately explains the hard weight loss. If your PCP isn't so warm and fuzzy, perhaps you should shop around for a new one. I think you deserve a little sympathy from your doctor!<br><br>
P.S. Why would you even <i>consider</i> giving up coffee, woman? You are crazy!!! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/wild.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="wild"><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/caffix.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="coffee"><br><br>
Erica- Glad us other fatties could make you feel better!<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol">
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">Surf mama- I am sorry youv'e got thyroid issues on top of everything else. That totally sucks!!!<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/irked.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="irked">: . But that definately explains the hard weight loss. If your PCP isn't so warm and fuzzy, perhaps you should shop around for a new one. I think you deserve a little sympathy from your doctor!<br><br>
P.S. Why would you even <i>consider</i> giving up coffee, woman? You are crazy!!! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/wild.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="wild"><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/caffix.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="coffee"><br><br>
Erica- Glad us other fatties could make you feel better!<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"></div>
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Ditto what Brooke said. I know people with thyroid issues and it's no fun.<br>
Seek out a new doc who you feel more comfortable with. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/love.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="love"><br><br>
I knew I'd get some chunky mama love if I came here<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/winky.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Wink"><br>
Speaking of, I feel particularly loathesome today. I'm totally busting out of my pants and feel like I'm trying to pull off some cool look but wind up looking frumpy. I just feel puffy.<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/irked.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="irked">:
 

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I just refuse to squeeze myself into anything small. Around the house and yard I'm wearing a big comfy pair of dh's sweats.....very unattractive but very comfy. And when I leave the house I have one pair of jeans I can still comfortably wear. And a pair of elastic waist khaki pants that I bought to wear mid way thru my pg with dd....they were a thrift store find. So technically I'm not wearing maternity clothes although both pairs of pants were my bigger clothes that I wore during dd's pg. I am giving up on trying to look cute for this month. dh still wants me...especially after going so long without anything...I'm still not really wanting sex but I'm able to get in the mood every now and then. Okay maybe I should scoot before I keep rambling...<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/redface.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Embarrassment">
 
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