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Hi Ladies,<br><br>
Wow, MDC was down just as I needed you most!<br><br>
I found out on Fri. that I have a blighted ovum. I spotted twice last week, called the mw, not really concerned but just to check in since I hadn't had an u/s or heard the hb yet. So I went in and she didn't hear the hb- again, I thought things might still be ok on the u/s- but she couldn't palpate my uterus at 12 weeks, and started preparing us for a m/c so I knew it was bad news and the u/s confirmed it.<br><br>
The biggest blow was then to find out I had to get a d&c- I had been preparing myself to accept the loss of the baby and the aftermath of m/c but hadn't even thought of needing a d&c and I'm terrified of it. I put it off as long as possible, but with the holidays, a toddler, no back up childcare, and a job that I can't miss and don't get paid if I am off, I had to schedule it. So that will be tomorrow.<br><br>
I guess I'm not surprised, b/c all this time I have been posting how my symptoms were so mild, I wasn't getting any bigger (like at 12 weeks not showing at all and wearing regular clothes). I just wish I had gotten an u/s sooner- I will next time for sure.<br><br>
So now I am sadly in the club of women who have had a loss. I am disappointed not to be able to continue with this group- I have really enjoyed it and was looking forward to following our pregnancies from start to finish!! Aja, I guess I'll have to un-sub from the yahoogroup. Oh well, with any luck I'll be back on the due Nov. '05 club <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/thumb.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="thumbs up"><br><br>
My very best wishes to all of you for healthy, joyous pregnancies and births.
 

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What sad, sad news. I am so sorry! Please accept my deepest condolences for your loss.
 

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I am so sorry <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/greensad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="greensad"> Blighted ovums are no fun, I had one last December. I hope the d&c is not so bad....in the end, it may be better than letting it go natuarally (saying that because after my first blighted ovum, which passed naturally but very painfully, I'd prob choose to have a d&c should it happen again.)<br><br>
Anyhow, so sorry for your loss, and I wish you a good recovery and lots of support from family and friends.
 

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Oh Mary, I'm so sorry. What devastating news. Sending you big cyber hugs and strength for you to get through tomorrow.<br><br>
We will miss you on the June boards.
 

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i'm so sorry, if you feel up to it, please come in and tell us how the d&c goes. we'll all be thinking of you tommorrow i'm sure.<br><br>
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thinking of you.... <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug"><br><br>
please take care of yourself and and know that I am truly sorry for your loss.
 

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Hey there Mary,<br>
The same thing happened to me in August. I felt the exact same way; like something wasn't right; I wasn't growing and all of that jazz. Never had a problem with pregnancy either but every time I went to the bathroom I was expecting it and waiting for it to happen.<br>
I hope everything went well with the d&c! If it's any consolation I got pregnant the second month after the m/c. I ovulated about 14 days after it happened which absolutely amazed me. Even though I was put off by what happened I was in awe of my body that it knew what to do. That it knew when something wasn't right and it knew how to get back on track. Although it was a big set back it was also something very interesting that I'll never forget.<br>
So this is the pregnancy following the blighted ovum for me. I had an u/s at 6 weeks to confirm the pregnancy and since then I've been able to relax. Not something I had expected to do for this pregnancy but I felt better with confirmation.<br>
Anyhow, if you need to talk pm me and above all, take care of yourself!<br>
Karen
 

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I'm so sorry to hear this. I hope you are doing OK from the D&C. If you look around there are many of us who have had m/c at different stages. There is a forum on pregnancy loss. I found the women on there very helpful.<br><br>
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I'm so sorry to hear this. I hope you are doing okay and don't listen to all of the stupid things well-meaning people say to you. You are entitled to grieve this loss and do so for as long as you need to. My thoughts are with you.
 

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Thank you SO MUCH for all of your support. It really does make a world of difference for me to know that so many (if not most) women go through this at some point, and that a successful pregancy can follow!<br><br>
I think I will check out the pregnancy loss boards...thanks...I'm sure that will be really helpful.<br><br>
I went in for the d&c on Wed.- on the way there in the car the m/c started- I was totally soaked in blood by the time I got there and they rushed me to the outpatient surgery unit- I was thinking maybe I didn't need to get it done b/c it was happening on it's own. But we decided to go ahead and get it done so it would be over with and we could move on. Everyone there was so nice, it was nice for once to be taken care of. Really, I am never one to say this- but in this case the hospital was the best place to be- I am shuddering to think what would have happened if I were alone with my son or at work.<br><br>
It was over relatively quickly and boy, they sure do more you through recovery fast! The pain and bleeding were not much at all- the meds helped a lot of course.<br><br>
We stayed home for Thanksgiving and had a nice time together- we are really fine and looking forward to moving on.<br><br>
Thanks again, and I really wish you all beautiful babies and births this coming June <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile">
 

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<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug"> Thinking of you and am thankful to hear that things went smoothly for your d&c.
 
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