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sad that friend circed (mostly just venting)

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i know there are lots of threads like this, but i just need to get this out and knew this would be a safe place to do it....

my friend had her baby boy a few days ago and i found out today that they circed him, and although i'm not surprised, i'm still sad and sick over it. last i had heard, she was leaving decision up to DH
:....and i know that the mama "researched" the issue and even watched circ videos with her DH and they *still* decided to do it. She knows my thoughts on it, too. it just makes me so sad. i'm trying to be a good friend to her and support her post partpum, especially in breastfeeding her son (which she is ambivelent about at best), but it's really, really hard. Part of me feels like i should have done more to convince her and her DH, but i wonder if anything more i said could have made a difference. now i'm just trying to do what i can to help her keep breastfeeding, but i'm not even optimistic about that.
: i have a feeling this is the beginning of the end of our friendship; not about the circ issue alone, but our diverging viewpoints are becoming more and more glaring as time goes on.

that's all...just thought it might be cathartic to write this down...sending it out into the (cyber) universe in hopes of letting some of the sadness and guilt go...
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Originally Posted by beachbaby
i know there are lots of threads like this, but i just need to get this out and knew this would be a safe place to do it....

my friend had her baby boy a few days ago and i found out today that they circed him, and although i'm not surprised, i'm still sad and sick over it. last i had heard, she was leaving decision up to DH
:....and i know that the mama "researched" the issue and even watched circ videos with her DH and they *still* decided to do it. She knows my thoughts on it, too. it just makes me so sad. i'm trying to be a good friend to her and support her post partpum, especially in breastfeeding her son (which she is ambivelent about at best), but it's really, really hard. Part of me feels like i should have done more to convince her and her DH, but i wonder if anything more i said could have made a difference. now i'm just trying to do what i can to help her keep breastfeeding, but i'm not even optimistic about that.
: i have a feeling this is the beginning of the end of our friendship; not about the circ issue alone, but our diverging viewpoints are becoming more and more glaring as time goes on.

that's all...just thought it might be cathartic to write this down...sending it out into the (cyber) universe in hopes of letting some of the sadness and guilt go...

: I'm sorry - I know that it's sad when it happens... but lets just hope they have a girl next... or show better judgement!

Keep on trying!
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yep it sucks! you try to be supportive, educate them, let them diaper your uncirced sons to show it's not scary...and still they just don' t get it! ugh.
it's appalling (sp) to me actually that a mama would just leave it up to dh and not take a stand and defend her son-brings out the mamabear in me!
kel
I just lost a friend over this issue too. It is hard for me. I am sad. She was a longtime friend. We actually had nothing in common to begin with. We just coasted along together for many years based on our shared mutual history.

I look at people who circumcise in a whole new light now. Even friends & family. I look at them with unimaginable disgust and contempt. I can't turn it off.
Ditto. I find myself moving farther and farther away from one of my best friends. I just cant stand to be around her and her boys, knowing that she did that to them just because she doesnt like the way uncut guys look. Like she is going to be sleeping with them! And then she has the nerve to ask me to change their diapers, like I want to see their mutilated penises. GRRRR!!! It makes me so mad!! I seriously hope the baby she is preggo with is a girl.
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