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I'm sad to see DD move out of our bed, but I'm starting to feel it's time. She's almost 2.5 and DH and I want to start working on DC#2. She actually has gone out and slept on the couch in the living room on her own accord and stayed there all night. I can't believe she's already 2.5... forgive me for being sad but this time has flown by. I'm scared I'll miss seeing her face every morning when I wake up.<br><br>
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Have you mamas had better luck setting up their bed in their room, or setting it up in yours and moving it to their room later?<br><br>
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bumping- son will be 3 in May. He has a bed in his own room but doesn't want to "sleep alone" - don't blame him, so anyway should I put the bed in my room and see if he will sleep on it or is it too early to really move him yet? Any thoughts?
 

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I'm SO glad that I'm not the only one asking myself these questions. My 3 1/2 year old sleeps with me. It's been our lifestyle since she was born. I'm not in a hurry to move her into her beautiful room but have been wondering if there is a right time. She's not interested in sleeping alone in her room and I can relate to that. We are just us two in the house so I don't have any other "pressures" to worry about. I've asked her off and on if she wants to sleep in there and she says, "someday I will. Right now I want to sleep with you." However, she did come up with the idea that I move her bed into my room and she'll sleep in it. A fabulous idea I thought since I can turn a pretty much unused room into a playroom/office. So I'm going to try that and I'll let you know how that works out.
 

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If you DD is 2.5 and doing well sleeping other places w/out you....I would take a cue from her and foster an environment in her bedroom so that she transitions NOW while she wants to. I firmly believe that there is a point where kids are ready on thier own, and if you miss this window it makes it harder down the road.<br><br>
We have one dd who was AP'd, and still at age 10 (!) does not like to sleep w/out us. We are really really working on this w/her, and I have posted here earlier for advice. While it may be hard to let go of your dd now, I would honestly go for it. You can still give her all the love, attention and giggles during the day.<br><br>
I am still a firm believer in the FB. It is the most secure, nuturing way to promote close familial ties. However, it would have been much better for my dd if we had taken her cue when she was really little and let her sleep in her own bed. I kept her w/us for purely selfish reasons....she was a sweet little cuddler and I thought it would be horrible for her to sleep w/out us...even though she wanted to and slept better when she wasn't w/us.<br><br>
Now, at age 10 and 90lbs (she almost my height and weight) it is just to much.
 

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Thank you sunnymom95 - - your response was actually very helpful to me!! I often wonder if I've kept my daughter in my bed for selfish reasons. Even though I know she wants to sleep with me, I think I may have missed the window! I bought my daughter a new bed and moved her into her own room just shy of 2 years old. She was so excited and did great in her room with sleeping through the night and only getting up early in the morning for a snuggle in my room. Somewhere along the line those early morning snuggles turned into sleeping in my room. Then we moved to a new place about a year ago. I decorated her new room just how she wanted it and she slept a short time in her new room but then again, some where along the line she started sleeping with me and she doesn't want to sleep alone in her room.<br><br>
I love bedsharing with my daughter but I really do want her to have her own space before she's 10!! As I mentioned before, I am going to turn her bedroom into a playroom/office and we will share a bedroom. That seems like a good first step as she wants to sleep in her own bed but just not alone in a room. So I'll go through the arduous task of taking her bed and my desk apart so I can move them! Not looking forward to the work of it though!
 
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