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I have been brestfeeding for two months now, and will do so for about a year. I never new what people ment when they said that having kids ruins your breasts , and that some women formula feed to keep them nice looking.<br>
Well I beieve now I do!! Quite simply my boobs are disgusting!! I am in my early 20s and they look like I am 60. I am really depressed about this, I dont feel sexy and young, and I used to have the nicest breasts, I took such pride in them. Now I cant even look at myself naked, and I need to know if this is permanant damage? What are they going to look like when I stop nursing? Will they tighten up a little or are they going to look they way they do when they are empty of milk?<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/confused.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Confused">: <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/confused.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Confused">: <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/confused.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Confused">: <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/confused.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Confused">:
 

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i feel for u im in my early 20s as well and ive been over a year. It is dusgusting but i feel that its worth it to benefit my child. Think of it that way. Im married so its not such a big deal. Hubbie loves them just how they r. Try wearing nice tight- fitting sports bras for support. At least when they are full of milk theyre perky lol. If its that big of an issue when uve finished having kids get them done. Its all part of being a women. My thing is that if u have big ones its ok that they sag, little ones just dont look good. Oh well good luck to u and i hope ive been a little help.
 

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i feel for u im in my early 20s as well and ive been over a year. It is dusgusting but i feel that its worth it to benefit my child. Think of it that way. Im married so its not such a big deal. Hubbie loves them just how they r. Try wearing nice tight- fitting sports bras for support. At least when they are full of milk theyre perky lol. If its that big of an issue when uve finished having kids get them done. Its all part of being a women. My thing is that if u have big ones its ok that they sag, little ones just dont look good. Oh well good luck to u and i hope ive been a little help. U may get lucky and they will stay bigger, but they may get worse. Sorry.
 

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Good for you for breastfeeding your baby!<br><br>
From what I understand, it's the pregnancy/childbearing that does a number on our breasts, and that even women who formula-feed to avoid the sagginess get saggy boobs and stretch marks just like the rest of us!<br><br>
Since I'm still breastfeeding my 14 month old ds, I can't tell you my experience with how my breasts look after weaning, but I'll tell you what, I'm so proud of them for feeding and nourishing my baby that I will <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/love.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="love"><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/love.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="love"> them no matter what. It is hard to give up that youthful perkiness, though.
 

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It's pregnancy and the passing of time that make breasts sag, not breastfeeding. Some women are just more predisposed by genetics to have saggier breasts than others. Likewise, there's really no way to predict what your breasts will do when you wean, unless maybe you ask a few family members who also nursed what happened to them.
 

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I think it is so sad that you are disgusted by your miraculous baby feeding breasts, and saddened that a poster would blithely suggest getting them "done" after bfing is over. Implants?! eek! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/yikes.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="EEK!"><br><br>
You are meant to have pendulous breasts. Adolescents have perky boobs, moms have pendulous ones. We live in a youth oriented, male dominated society. It is unrealistic and woman hating to expect to retain perky 14 year old style breasts all through your adulthood.<br><br>
All that said, many moms find their breasts regain some semblance of pre-pregnancy shape after lactation is over.
 

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i'm 25 and have been nursing for 25 months. mine are definately sagging too. i didn't much like nursing bras and prefer regular bras for nursing because the underwire hasn't caused any problems *for me*. i've found that nice pushup bras can give a much needed lift and help me feel a little sexier. it helps that dh doesn't care what shape they're in, he just want dd to share :LOL
 

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I know how you feel. I think my boobs may be past my waist after I get done nursing this baby, but it doesn't bother me too much. I just don't go braless any more, and I wear sports type bras as much as possible. The local hospital here offers an outpatient procedure to "lift" the breasts, and it does not involve any implants from what I understand, so I would consider that if it got so bad that I couldn't stand it. But really, I wear my saggy boobs like a badge of honor. They symbolize my love and dedication to my babies. The majority of American women (sadly) seem to chose formula feeding, but I am dedicated enough to my children to sacrifice my perky breasts in order to give them the best. I'm proud of that, and you should be too. I look at my chubby little baby, and I feel such a sense of pride and accomplishment.... I DID THAT!!! I made and nourished that healthy little baby!!! I never looked at my perky boobs and felt a sense of accomplishment or pride.
 

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I was more concerned about this in my twenties, now that I'm older I don't care so much - because the truth is I was never satisfied with my breasts at any age, I always felt they could be more this or less that. Now, I realize that they finally got something right - they are great at feeding my babies! I feel kinda proud of them now!<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/orngbiggrin.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="orange big grin">
 

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My boobies went back to normal after I tandem nursed my dd's for a total of 4 1/2 years. I was a B before then a D while bf then a B again. I am a C with DS and my boobies look the same as last time. I never wear a bra. I hate them. I wear tight tanktops or cami bras.<br><br>
Love your boobies however they are. I would also get a lift if I need to and have spare money but never implants. I prefer my boobies when they are little. I am definately getting my yoni repaired after I have one more baby because all my stitches ripped out after my first birth and it still hurts sometimes.
 

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I unfortunetely have not had the opprotunity to breastfeed...that is the hardest thing that I am working through with my grief. I dreamed of nuturing my sweet child...and am not able too...Anyway...I am 28 and my boobs are terribly saggy...so it has nothing to do with breastfeeding...it has to do with pregancy. I do know the disappointment of looking at your breasts and wondering how much saggier can they get? Just be thankful that your sagginess is contributing to the health of your precious baby.<br><br>
As far as feeling sexy...it's all in our attitude. At first I was depressed at my sagginess, but as soon as I accepted it as a "badge" of pregnancy...and can joke about it, I am no longer ashamed to have my DH look at me. Now that I am accepting of my body, he is too...confidence in yourself is what makes you sexy. Just don't compare yourself to society's expectations...they have the privledge to be airbrushed to perfection, which we don't. Continue breastfeeding your baby and enjoy your little one.
 

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Just to make the point in simplest terms: pregnancy, genetics, gravity an/or age make the breasts sag, breastfeeding does not.<br><br>
Our society makes us think perky breasts are the most desirable, b/c, frankly, our society is sick and hates and fears women's procreative powers.
 

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DaryLLL iwas in no way insinuating that a boob job was a good idea. If there is that much of an issue with the dislike of anyones breasts that is always an option i myself would never. I feel as though u r nourishing your child first and formost and who cares if they sag. Breastfeeding may infact be a cause has anyone done any research on the fact. u all take things way to seriously. Life si short and if thats the way to make it better than so be it. Sorry but i stand on all the things i post and if anyone has a prblem with that they can come to me. My boobs didnt sag until after i started bf and im my family they all breast fed and are big breasted very few have saggy boobs so......... Oh well Good luck to you all in whatever u do adn to happy healthy children and life.<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/love.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="love"><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/orngbiggrin.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="orange big grin">
 

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i didn't breastfeed, but still my boobs dropped like anchors!<br><br>
i doubt it was breastfeeding, but more like being pregnant and the milk comming in in the first place (which you can't prevent)<br><br>
not sure if that helps much, but im having same issue. i think it is just part of getting older :-(
 

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I know this doesn't help but my boobs started sagging after I had my first son. And I didn't breastfeed him! yep that's right he was formula fed and my boobs were still ruined after I had him. Pregnancy affects your boobs period, BF or not to me.
 

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Mine went completely back to normal between kids--I had my first in 1998 at the age of 28 and the second in 2002 at 32. I'be been nursing for 18 months now with ds2 but I suspect they'll pop back up with a little weight lifting and the end of lactation, whenever that'll be <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/rolleyes.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="rolleyes">: .<br><br>
It's ok to mourn the loss of youth. But to miss out on admiring what your body can DO--that's just cheating yourself.
 

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I don't believe that nursing makes our breasts sag. I feel it's pregnancy that does it. Even if you didn't breastfeed your breasts still grow and fill with milk during pregnancy.<br><br>
I do know how you feel, only I've always looked this bad. :LOL
 

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just echoing the others. but i have always been the saggy baggy elephant.
 

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<table border="0" cellpadding="6" cellspacing="0" width="99%"><tr><td class="alt2" style="border:1px inset;">Just to make the point in simplest terms: pregnancy, genetics, gravity an/or age make the breasts sag, breastfeeding does not.</td>
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Nope don't buy this at all! If this were true my left boob would be the same as my right. Both of my girls favored the left side and that boon hangs much much more then the right side.<br>
I do agree that milk coming in is what causes the most strech.<br>
Oh and after nursing #1 dd for almost 3 years I lost my breast and had little droopy breasts...but wouldn't change anything!<br>
Now dd#2 is on her way to weaning and I know what to expect. Just like the rest of your body ...it'll never be the same. But look at what you made!
 

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<table border="0" cellpadding="6" cellspacing="0" width="99%"><tr><td class="alt2" style="border:1px inset;"><i>Originally posted by briar</i><br><b>Nope don't buy this at all! If this were true my left boob would be the same as my right.</b></td>
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I think everyone is different. Maybe it added to it in your case, but still, even people that FF will have the same problem to some extent. My kids favored the left side and it's my right side that's the worst. If I had the money I think I would actually have a reduction/lift done.
 
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