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In July we moved from Omaha to a very small town in central NE. The job is great for my DH. I am able to stay home with my children 24/7 and the money is wonderful. However after we moved we started noticing some strange things about DS #1 and now he is being followed for possible autism<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/greensad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="greensad">. So now I am in this small town (2000 people), with nothing to do with my kids during the day, and my DS is going stir crazy in the house. We seriously go NOWHERE because there is no where to go. He is receiving speech and OT through the public school here, but it is so minimal. The closest big town is an hour away and that is a lot of work to go down there alone during the day with 3 children under 4.<br><br>
I am planning on moving back to Omaha with my children while my DH stays here to work. He will be about 3 hours away. He will be coming to visit us on Friday, Saturday, and Sunday every week. I am going to be renting a house. My parents and my sister will be there to help us out.<br><br>
Just wondering if anyone is living away from their spouse and if you have any advice for keeping things somewhat normal for their children and marriage.
 

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Well my situation is slightly different. DH is military, so he's away from home a lot for extended periods of time. I find a few things really help keep life normal for DD. First, we stick to our regular routines. For us, it's playgroups, activities, getting groceries, meal times the same, etc. I think kids thrive on routine, especially in disruptive situations.<br><br>
As for our marriage, we communicate a lot. We talk on the phone and on messenger several times a day whenever possible. I try to always have something interesting to tell DH, and don't spend our time talking complaining about our situation. I find the more I dwell on how hard it is, the worse it is for both of us.<br><br>
Routines are also vital for me. I take care of all the bills, I know where DH's important paperwork is, etc, so I can keep the house running smoothly when he's gone.<br><br>
It's so great that you're going to have family support to help out! I'm sure this isn't an easy situation for you, living apart from your spouse really sucks at times. Make sure you take whatever help is being offered because I know I don't have any family support and I'd give anything to have someone take DD for a couple of hours sometimes when the hub's away! Good luck!
 

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My dh works away 4 days a week and is home for 3. It works well for us but my children are older, 10, 9 and 5. We have lived like this for 2 1/2 years now. I wouldn't be able to do it without knowing I have a good support system of friends here. The only td haveime it was difficult was when I was really ill. Dh could have stayed home but didn't so even when I couldn't get out of bed I had to get cover for the kids.
 

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DH works in the Gulf, and we live apart over half the time. His schedule is 14 on/14 off, but he has to work extra a lot, plus he has various schools he has to go to all the time in different states on his "off time." I'd say he's home 10 days a month on average. It works really well for us. I'm a very independent person and love having the time to myself at night after the kids go to bed. I also love being able to "run the show" most of the time. Not having to worry about what another adult wants to do for dinner, wants to watch on TV, etc., is bliss for me! We've also found that it keeps us feeling very much in love, almost like we're still in the dating or newlywed phase, because we miss each other while he's gone and then are so happy to be together when he's home. I love that when he's home, he's really home with no obligations. The only drawback for us is that our 2-year-old is having a really hard time with it right now, but I think/hope he'll get used to it the older he gets. Our 8-year-old & 4-year-old just accept it as a way of life and never seem bothered by it.
 
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