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What do you mamas do about Christmas and Santa Claus? I always said that we wouldn't do Santa Claus. Not because I want to be cruel like everyone seems to think, but for many different reasons. One being that I don't want to shower her with gifts. I want to give her a few gifts and have her be thankful for what she has. I want it to have more a religious aspect to it. I also kind of felt like my parents were lying to me when I was little. Wouldn't have been so bad if the first time I told them I didn't believe in Santa, they would have just said "Ok, you got us game over" but they kept trying to play the charade for like four years after that!<br><br>
Anyway dh and I seemed to be on the same page about this the last two years. The only disagreement we had was that he didn't want her to sit on Santas lap and I did because he is to me a Christmas decoration. Well now dd is two and old enough to know about Santa Claus. She can tell us who he is (I guess they discuss this at her daycare) and dh had been telling her that Santa says ho ho ho.<br><br>
So I am worried that if we don't do Santa Claus she will think that Santa didn't come because she was bad. Isn't that they way the story goes? I'm so confused and dh is no help because he seems pretty ambiguous.<br><br>
How stupid was I to think that we could just ignore the part where Santa is supposed to bring gifts at Christmas and not really have to address it?
 

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We are kinda in the same boat you are in. I don't want to do Santa Claus or X-Mas, but for the opposite reason of you, we are not religious, and I would prefer to celebrate the Solistice. DH thinks that DD should experience Santa and X-Mas. DD is 23 months and is still too young to know who he is. I'm plaining on explaining that not everyone celebrates the holidays in the same way, therefore not everyone does Santa, and explaining to dd that it is like B-Day parties, no two are alike, even though they all still are B-Day parties. My next problem is going to be our familes <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/eyesroll.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="roll"> especially my mom, not doing Santa is like child abuse to them. The minimal presents is not going to go over too well either! Oh well this is my child, they have already had their turn.
 

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My dh is in the same boat as yours. But, as a former elementary school teacher, I have a different approach to this. The kids who don't do Santa feel left out this time of year. When they are really little, they don't understand why some kids get visits from him and they don't. As they get older, if they blow the surprise for others they will be party poopers and not very popular. So, here is what we are doing.<br><br>
We are not decorating our house very much. We are not giving her a lot of gifts. We are naming Santa but not telling her much about him. We are not sitting on his lap or reading books about him. We are going to let her guide us as to what we should do. As she ages, if she asks to talk to him or read about him, we will do so. If she asks if he is bringing her a present, maybe he will bring her one. We are just not going to make a big deal about it. We are going to be as uncommercial as we can. We are telling the grandparents not to bring it up, yet. When she gets a bit older and, most likely, gets sucked into this whole Santa thing through friends at school, we will probably let Santa bring her one gift.<br><br>
I think just being as mellow as possible and avoiding the malls is the best bet. But, don't be a party pooper. Your child will cause a lot of stress for those kids who do believe.<br><br>
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(Warning...Rambling Alert!)<br><br>
My DD will only be 21 months at Christmas time but I've already started thinking about what traditions we want to start in our family. I think we will involve Santa to some extent...he'll bring some very small gifts which will be left in her stocking (which I'm trying desperately to knit in time!) on Christmas Morning.<br><br>
As far as mall Santas go, I guess I'll explain that Santa represents the spirit of giving, especially of gifts for children...and that anyone can 'be Santa' in one way or another. Google the real St. Nicolas sometime...he was a Turkish priest!<br><br>
It's my family's tradition to open gifts on Christmas Eve and we'll continue to do this...these will be gifts from family and friends. My DH is French and he remembers leaving his shoes outside the door on Christmas Eve so that Santa could leave a small gift so that's about where we're starting. He found the shoe thing a little yucky though so that's why we're going to have a special stocking for DD. His extended family usually celebrated Christmas together at his grandparents' place long after the holiday was over.<br><br>
I think that eventually I'd like to talk to DD about all of the wonderful holidays that take place at this time of year in many cultures...and their common themes of light, hope, and giving. I suppose I should run some of this past DH but so far he doesn't seem interested in stuff like this...<br><br>
HTH!
 

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I've been struggling with this too. Last Christmas, ds was 18 months and we didn't bring Santa up at all. A few relatives mentioned Santa to him and he just gave them a blank look. I told them we weren't talking about Santa yet.<br><br>
This year he's 30 months and much more aware of the holiday goings on. Luckily he's not in daycare and doesn't watch TV so there's isn't a lot of expectations from that.<br><br>
As an ex-Catholic, I'm at a crossroads myself as to religion. But I would like for ds to be aware of Christmas as well as other religious celebrations. I'd like to impart some sort of "spirit of Santa", something magical and kind, without any of the commercialism. Still working out how to do that.<br><br>
This xmas season, we won't shop at stores for gifts. We'll bring a turkey dinner to the local shelter for a family waiting list they have, as though we're not broke!!! We'll decorate with lights and a tree etc and talk about god as loving and giving. We will stay at home on xmas day, have a stocking with small gifts in it, with no mention of Santa unless it's the spirit of Santa. We will roast chestnuts, eat pomegranites and have a feast of some sort and invite relatives over for that in afternoon. DH and I are making gifts for ds. I am making a puppet theatre that can be hung in the door and dh is making a tool table. I am also making all of our gifts to everyone else. Just don't ask me when the heck this is all getting done!!!! Should be working on it now!!!!!!!! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/orngbiggrin.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="orange big grin"><br><br>
I guess I don't have any clear definition of what I'm doing!! But it does entail giving of oneself, that much I know.<br><br>
Last year ds had a ball when we all went to the tree farm down the road and cut our own tree, brought it home and he helped me decorate. He also had fun opening presents from us and relatives, but mostly with the wrappings and boxes.<br><br>
Sorry to go on and on. Trying to work this out as I go. My main goals for this and future holiday seasons, is to instill in my child(ren) the spirit of giving, and the importance of family - always a day we are together at home.
 

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I agree with the previous two posters; we'll do Santa in a limited way. I have read him "The Night Before Christmas" but at 20 mos. he hasn't really asked any questions about Santa. If he does I will explain that Santa is a person who spreads joy and the spirit of giving at Christmas. When he is older, I will explain was "Christmas" really means and whose birthday it is.<br><br>
We aren't doing tons of gifts; a fair amount but many will be saved for after the holidays, and the fact is that he really needs some new toys at a new developmental level right now, so it was actually a good time of year to shop.<br><br>
He will get a small stocking from Santa and one gift from Santa.<br><br>
I am not a church going person and neither is DH; in fact we didn't baptise DS b/c we felt it wasn't necessary and was hypocrtical given our beliefs or lack thereof.<br><br>
But as a child Christmas and Santa were magical to me, and I want it to be the same for DS. I have memories of thinking I heard Santa's footsteps or reindeer bells. I have lots of memories of good food and esp. Christmas cookies; our homegrown Christmas tree, and having friends and family over. It was a wonderful experience each year and I don't want to be a "party pooper" as one other poster put it! LOL<br><br>
When I was about 8 I found out that Santa wasn't real (other than the history behind the myth) and wasn't offended at all. I felt like I had been let in on a very grown-up secret. But I suppose every child is different and I hope DS won't feel too let down. I hope that if we don't make an overly huge deal about it that will help.<br><br>
Most importantly, I want the theme to be joy, peace, and goodwill towards everyone in the world. I plan to accomplish that by doing lots of ACTIVITIES (baking, decorating, listening to music and singing carols, cooking, reading, visiting, giving to those in need) rather than shopping and going nuts at the mall. I hate malls anyway and actually managed to get my shopping done this year without setting foot in one!)
 

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We let our kids decide.<br><br>
We have three children, ages (almost)6, 4 and 2. They have cousins who are 7.5 and almost 6 who DO believe in Santa. My 6 year old has never believed in Santa...he's a very logical child and Santa/flying reindeer/etc. just doesn't seem possible to him (yet he believes I can do magic! :LOL). Our 4 year old believes in Santa. Our 2 year old doesn't know what to think. We encourage our kids to help others believe in the magic of Christmas and the spirit of giving, whether or not it's embodied in a man in a red suit.<br><br>
We also want our Christmas to be religion centered and not gift centered. Santa doesn't fit well into what we want our Christmas to be, but our children understand that gift-giving is a part of Christmas because of the religious aspects (gifts given to Jesus, Jesus being God's gift to us, etc.). This year we each drew the name of a member of our immediate family and are making and/or buying a gift for only that person. DH and I are also giving each of our children one gift on Christmas. This way, the kids each get to open two gifts on Christmas morning.<br><br>
But what about Santa for our "believer"? Santa puts a few small gifts in their stockings of course! Why doesn't Santa bring lots of gifts for our kids? Because our kids have plenty and there are many children in the world who need gifts more ... and because we know that we've already received the greatest gift there is: the birth of a very special baby.
 

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quote by mom2threenurslings,<br><br>
"Why doesn't Santa bring lots of gifts for our kids? Because our kids have plenty and there are many children in the world who need gifts more ... "<br><br>
Very nice statement. That will help with my "santa strategy" as ds gets older.<br><br>
I am the world's worst liar and have the world's most inquisitive child (of course I'm partial!!) so it should be interesting to see what his take on Santa will be. I, too, want the holidays to be magical and special, and as Mariah101 said, to have Santa symbolize spreading joy and the spirit of giving.
 
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