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Ok, let me start off by saying that I put this here because it just doesn't really seem to fit in the toddler section. I also didn't put it in GD because, while I do consider myself quite gentle, I'm not sure if I'm exactly "GD". Mods, feel free to move it if you disagree with me. I just thought maybe some moms of older/sassier kids would have some good advice for me. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"><br><br>
My son (2y, 4m) is starting to develop a sassy streak. For instance, "It's time to take a bath." "No." "Yes, come on. We can play with bubbles in the tub." "I said no."<br><br>
Of course that's just one example. By all intents and purposes he's a sweet, generally agreeable, yet slightly sassy boy. He's also very verbal and thinks/acts/talks like your average 3 year old. I usually secretly giggle at his sass at this point, but I want to make sure it doesn't progress to something more serious as he gets older. Usually I just remind him that "Mommy said xyz because of abc." If he still fights me, I can just say "One" and he skips off to do as I asked. I'm just really sure what he thinks will come after that lol. I think it just lets him know that I'm not playing and that I'm serious. I wonder though, if I'm missing a step after that, like asking him to apologize, or somehow letting him know that I don't appreciate "talking back". How do you even explain what talking back is?<br><br>
ETA: I realized, after reading what I wrote here, that this may be a perfectly developmentally appropriate stage, and it doesn't mean he's going to grow up to be disrespectful. I sometimes get surprised looks from people when he says something like that, but I'm thinking that it might just be because people are not used to hearing a child his age speak so clearly and complexly. I'm still curious to hear others' take on it.
 

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I think you are doing just fine. The no stage at two is very normal and helping you child realize when you are offering a choice or when you aren't is a good thing to do at this stage. I would sometimes let my dd's no's stand because this is a stage where kids are wanting to have some independence, when it wasn't a choice though I would tell her and we would do things my way. At this age kids seem so grown up, but they are still so little. Try to keep that in mind when you want your child to act more like a child of five or six or worry that a behavior that would be out of place in a school age child is also out of place for your toddler.
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">I think you are doing just fine. The no stage at two is very normal and helping you child realize when you are offering a choice or when you aren't is a good thing to do at this stage. I would sometimes let my dd's no's stand because this is a stage where kids are wanting to have some independence, when it wasn't a choice though I would tell her and we would do things my way. At this age kids seem so grown up, but they are still so little. Try to keep that in mind when you want your child to act more like a child of five or six or worry that a behavior that would be out of place in a school age child is also out of place for your toddler.</div>
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I know you're right. It's not just the "no" thing though. He's pretty bossy. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/orngtongue.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Stick Out Tongue"> I sometimes worry what other people are thinking and I know I just need to get over that. He's tall for his age, and extremely verbal, so people often think he's about a year older than he is. So I really just need to quit worrying what they think and know that he's doing pretty darn good for just being 2! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/orngtongue.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Stick Out Tongue">
 
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