[Asher]

I co-slept with all of my children. #1 for 2yrs, #2 for 2 1/2yrs, #3 for 3yrs (she just stopped when babe came along) and now with babe. I love it, they love it, it just seems like common sense for us to do.

Well, last night before work, DH woke me up kind of panicky and told me to look at the baby. We have one lightweight blanket on our bed that DH and I cover up with and I generally have it on babes legs/lower abdomen as well. I don't know if she did it (she's in a grabby pinching and pulling phase to fabric) or if I did it, but the blanket was over her head. I pulled it off and freaked out. She was breathing fine and didn't even seem to notice, but it gave me a good scare.

Realistically, I think this will just make me more aware and alert (and not sleeping! LOL) at night, but at the same time, it really scares me. I *almost* considered putting her in the pack n play last night (bought for diaper changes only! LOL), but just couldn't do it. We don't even have a crib b/c we've never used one for the kids to sleep in so we didn't waste the $ this time.

Make me feel better or slap me over the head or something please? Maybe I SHOULD be feeling horrible about this and she'd be better off in her own bed, but I really don't feel like she would be. (I think she'd be upset to be so far away from her nums at easy access! LOL)

 

[IncaMama]

can you put her in a sleepsack instead of using covers? that's what we do. even at 2yo he still hates covers so we just dress him appropriately...

it;s natural to be scared after that but i think co-sleeping is still probably the best option.

 

[canadiangranola]

Is she between you? I had one incident where I woke up and freaked out while handing our 2 week old baby to DH saying "he's not breathing". By the time I was fully awake, dh was holding him and ds was fine...i still to this day don't know if it was instinct and ds really wasn't breathing or if it was a dream...but regardless, I'm so glad I was right beside ds to react to the moment.

When ds was small, dh and I used separate blankets. I was/am much more aware of ds in the bed than dh is and felt that if dh and i were sharing blankets and ds was in between, I spent the whole night making sure dh hadn't pulled the blanket up over ds's head in his sleep. When we use separate blankets, I share my blanket with ds, and dh gets his own, and I am very aware of the positioning of my blanket.

Also, when ds was as young as your dd is now, I just used a separate blanket from him as well.... i made sure mine was tucked tight around my body and he was close enough to be close but still had enough space that my blankets wouldn't end up on his head.

Try not to be scared, just make the adjustments you need to and get some sleep

 

[nuggetsmom]

I always wore a heavy nightgown and then I didn't need covers. And at the beginning the babes were between me and the edge where we had a cosleeper so they couldn't roll out. Of course they didn't get more than an eighth of an inch away from me, but for my peace of mind. But your baby is porbably fine where she is, but swaddling her warmly so she can't pull up the blanket and doesn't need it would be my suggestion.

OK, I am too tired to make much sense.

 

[zeldabee]

I put the baby in a sleep sack, dressed warmly, and wore a zip up fleece jacket at night. That way I could nurse with only a little boob sticking out. Baby had warm jammies and a cap. I used one comforter and kept it only up to my hip.

Oh, and separate blankets is a great idea. When my son's father still lived with us, we did that. The side benefit of this is that no on steals your blankets and leaves you cold.

To this day, Sprogly and I each have our own blanket. He still ends up in my armpit much of the time, but it makes things easier.